Honesty is the best policy. We're all adults here. No reason to sugar coat anything. I recently had someone who I've been seeing for 2+ years decide that I am too rough for them. They chose to have their agency tell me instead of telling me themselves (we chatted a few times a week by phone). It came across to me as cowardly and immature. Your body, your choice. Just be upfront.
How do you want to be “rejected” or “declined” as a client?
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Most women due to their nature tend to be cautious than even let you know in person. If she was independent she probably would have just told ya over text. Either you were too rough or it was some other reason and sometimes they just go with a reason that seems best to just end things. Happens in the dating world too. I usually will tell someone after dating them a few times if it's not working out or depending on my mood just ghost them. Don't take it personally and just move on with your life.
With honesty but with courtesy and respect though I can imagine that the honesty part can often be awkward and difficult. If so, then I like what harryass suggested:
It makes it clear it is about YOUR comfort and firmly states that there is no reconsidering, the decision is final and time for him to move on.
Not sure if this was directed at me but she had my phone number and used it regularly. I didn't take it personally. I just thought she could have handled it better.
I hate to be that guy that throws cold water on a topic. Personally, I would rather learn the truth so I could fix it.
The world is full of unstable people. Some can't handle being let down and might get ugly about it. It's nothing to get a burner or new sim and contact the SP with a new number. Any host of nefarious things could occur.
I would err on the side of caution and just block the number. I suppose they could get another number in this scenario too but at least no triggers were pulled.
@Jenesis, I have visited with you and you were bloody delightful. Hope to see you again in the future. Unless I'm one of those guys...
The world is full of unstable people. Some can't handle being let down and might get ugly about it. It's nothing to get a burner or new sim and contact the SP with a new number. Any host of nefarious things could occur.
I would err on the side of caution and just block the number. I suppose they could get another number in this scenario too but at least no triggers were pulled.
@Jenesis, I have visited with you and you were bloody delightful. Hope to see you again in the future. Unless I'm one of those guys...
I think chemistry is the best reason for all of this Jen. Plus guys who often seek the company of beautiful women are often quite and pretty aloof about it so they honestly wont mind the "no chemistry" option. Plus it's honest.
My doctor told me that orgasming too much is bad for my heart.
ya...this. I know it's a lie but I get the underlying message."your dick is too big for me"
My favorite. "What we do is too intimate for me"
I'm actually waiting 3 months then I'll follow-up for the truth. I figure 3 months isn't being a pest or obnoxious. Always room for improvement.
The only one that ever did reject me was Madison Winter back when she just went independent. I sent her and Kate Kompton the same introductory email. Apparently that a faux pas. Sorry, didn't know. That was also at a time when her rate was less than the GDP of a developing country. I guess I missed out.
If it is a matter of hygiene with ANYBODY - SP, friend, co-worker whatever, - it is a great favor to actually tell them that they have a problem. Might be slightly embarassing, but maybe they didn't know.
On the other hand a personality thing may lead to an angry response if they have a lack of emotional intelligence.
Tricky problem.
I saw an SP once who I had been a bit of a regular, then she left the country for a couple of years. I took a break myself from the hobby, and changed my phone number.
Then out of the blue she was back, so I booked her
When I went to see her she came down the hall of the Hotel to the back door to greet me which I thought was odd.
She looked at me and said, "Oh my God, it's you. I'm so glad its you"
Then she told me she had another client that never stopped trying to get her to do anal who had the same first name as me. She couldn't get rid of him. So I guess she had the same problem.
On the other hand a personality thing may lead to an angry response if they have a lack of emotional intelligence.
Tricky problem.
I saw an SP once who I had been a bit of a regular, then she left the country for a couple of years. I took a break myself from the hobby, and changed my phone number.
Then out of the blue she was back, so I booked her
When I went to see her she came down the hall of the Hotel to the back door to greet me which I thought was odd.
She looked at me and said, "Oh my God, it's you. I'm so glad its you"
Then she told me she had another client that never stopped trying to get her to do anal who had the same first name as me. She couldn't get rid of him. So I guess she had the same problem.
I'd chime in with the rest with the whole 'my schedule is much more limited and I have to reduce my client time these days and I can't accommodate you, sorry'
If they really push, repeat asking and generally being as persistent as fuck, just offer a ridiculous rate. In my work, we get what are called 'fuck you quotes' from contractors who clearly AREN'T interested in the job but want to maintain the relationship so they give an outlandish number. Facetious answer: Not sure how that will translate to a sex work menu but maybe start a 10min BJ at $500 and go from there
If they really push, repeat asking and generally being as persistent as fuck, just offer a ridiculous rate. In my work, we get what are called 'fuck you quotes' from contractors who clearly AREN'T interested in the job but want to maintain the relationship so they give an outlandish number. Facetious answer: Not sure how that will translate to a sex work menu but maybe start a 10min BJ at $500 and go from there
Also, I want to watch this as a satire of a RomCom. There is so much comedy gold here.
I appreciate people who are straight up and just tell you the truth. If a lady doesn't want to see a particular client, it's in his best interests to know that and move on. I don't see why anyone would want to spend time with someone who doesn't want to be with them. Having said that, it seems some people can't handle the truth, so not sure what the best course of action is in practice. If you don't think you can tell him straight up, I guess just stop responding or go with the suggestion in post #4. Eventually he'll figure it out - hopefully sooner than later.
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Don't you have a system in place for this already? How long have you been an escort?
