If you want to hide your money (and time!) say you are going to the Casino (better) or poker game, and of course lose. If you want to hide cell phone records get a Rogers pre-paid, not even you will be able to see the calls made lol. And if you want to hide Terb, use 'Private Browsing'; it's in all browsers...no need to delete history, and remember the keyboard shortcut. Can you imagine if a wife or girlfriend stumbled upon your open Terb account, PM's and all, oh boy!
How do you hide the hobby?
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i think we'd all agree with you, if we lived in utopia.
This topic has been rehashed several times on terb. But to summarize, many attached guys have lives where through no fault of their own, sex has taken a back seat to all other aspects, and even fallen off the radar completely. This leads the guy not only being horny, but feeling unwanted and rejected every day of his life. But these guys also realize that there is more to the relationship than just sex, and do not feel justified in getting divorced. Also there are issues of responsibility to supporting the wife and kids emotionally and financially. So some of these guys chose to discreetly hobby, to get some occasional satisfaction, and to feel like a sexual person again.
I wouldnt hazard a guess at what is in anyone elses heart, or what goes on in a relationship behind closed doors in specific cases. But these sentiments generally come up every time the topic is discussed.
So i agree the wife would be devastated if she knew. That is a risk, and a violation of trust. But it is what some feel they need to do to survive in a less than ideal relationship, where all other approaches to the problem have failed.
Okay, glad to see that you know us so well. Well just quit living our own lives and let you run them. But you had better be prepared, because if you try to tell my wife how she should live and think she might just tear your dick off and shove it down your throat.
Fuck I agree.
You guys - Brill, scouser, mb12ca, get off your high horses.
The guy says he loves his wife - I'm sure he does. He just enjoys playing with good looking women with hot bodies. Is it cheating? Sure. But welcome to world. This isn't the Moral Majority board - this is TERB. I find it funny how a good many hobbiests on this board are judgemental about sexual fidelity.
To the original poster, too bad you don't have separate chequing accounts. (I did with my ex. We had a joint account for joint stuff, but we each kept our own account for our own issues.)
Never the less, I have a married friend who hobbys and what he does is despost his expense cheques from work into a secret account. I don't know if you're in a position to receive expense cheques - but if you are, it's the perfect way.
Other than that, never though about cash back, but it's a good idea.
Get a hobby phone - 711 sells perfect ones. I have one, I store the numbers in the phone, but I transpose the last 2 numbers, and change the names. For example, Allure becomes Al Ruesberg. If by chance someone finds my bat phone, the names are meaningless and the numbers lead nowhere.
You want to avoid THIS kind of situation:
Never the less, I have a married friend who hobbys and what he does is despost his expense cheques from work into a secret account. I don't know if you're in a position to receive expense cheques - but if you are, it's the perfect way.
Other than that, never though about cash back, but it's a good idea.
Get a hobby phone - 711 sells perfect ones. I have one, I store the numbers in the phone, but I transpose the last 2 numbers, and change the names. For example, Allure becomes Al Ruesberg. If by chance someone finds my bat phone, the names are meaningless and the numbers lead nowhere.
You want to avoid THIS kind of situation:
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HUH?
How the hell is she gonna know if you open it at a different institution and ask for everything to be done online? Make sure it is an account that pays no interest so you get no tax slip.
You have 3 things to condider: money, time, and evidence.
I think as far as money is concerned:
do you have steady income? If so, when you next get a raise ask the personnel department to withhold more tax for some reason or other, then hopefully you can get a significant refund cheque next year which (hopegfully) yo are the only one to see and then deposit it into YOUR account.
Whew!
Or! If you get irregular income see if you can somehow get some of it paid to your other bank account - maybe 3% or something like that.
Get in the habit (and let her see0 tha tyou pay for alot o fthings in CASH. then you can start siphoning some away.
Time - been discussed bdfore, but take maye 2 or 3 errands and exagerrate each by 15 minutes. Voila! 45 mins. Or actually do the errand ahead of time. Do things wher there is the potentail to wait in line a long time. Haircut. Getting tires changed.
Evidence. Put the hobby cel the exact same hidden place every time. No written evidence. Computer as mentioned.
Just out of curiosity, if what you say is true (i.e. you're describing possibly the best relationship you could have) then why do you take a chance on losing it all for just a few moments of bliss? If you get caught and she leaves you, will this "hobby" have been worth it? If I had a relationship like you have with your wife, I wouldn't be dreaming of taking this gamble. Are you just always horny?
I got caught because I didn't click on "Private Browsint", and I clicked on "Archive" when I logged in. This meant that anytime any of my family googled anything starting with the letter t, terb showed up, and my daughter once clicked on to see what it was. It clicked on after registration, and there were private messages between myself and other terbers. It cost me my marriage, damaged my relationship with my children, and cost a lot of money tool. Be careful.
Hiding hobby money is child's play.
I have entire businesses and overseas properties/accounts my partner doesn't know about.
I have entire businesses and overseas properties/accounts my partner doesn't know about.
I am intrigued by your ideas and would like to subscribe to your newsletter.
I dunno. I did it after 10 years of marriage. I didn't hobby then so I had nothing to hide. I also used the excuse that it was dumb to buy her Xmas and birthday presents from a common account. She thought it was a good idea because I was giving her shit for over spending on chick stuff.
I always get a kick out of the preachy types on this board who love to judge but don't know shit. If you have nothing constructive to add to a legitimate question, move on. SPs and SCs have saved more marriages than destroyed them. (my opinion, not based on any scientific study for those that require hard data. 
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To the OP...is telling her what your needs are a no go? ( ie. be open about it ) If not, hide in plain sight, many suggestions offered about accumulating extra cash are good.
)To the OP...is telling her what your needs are a no go? ( ie. be open about it ) If not, hide in plain sight, many suggestions offered about accumulating extra cash are good.
Open a bank account. Don't tell her.
Eat a cheap lunch. Put in $20 a day for lunches. Lose weight.
Say you are going to the pub with work friends. Don't go but put $50 in the bank account. Work when you say you are at the pub. Bank the hours for hobbying.
As somebody said, deposit work expenses cheques in this account.
Or as I do... Don't marry (again). Don't ask. Don't explain.
Eat a cheap lunch. Put in $20 a day for lunches. Lose weight.
Say you are going to the pub with work friends. Don't go but put $50 in the bank account. Work when you say you are at the pub. Bank the hours for hobbying.
As somebody said, deposit work expenses cheques in this account.
Or as I do... Don't marry (again). Don't ask. Don't explain.
I'm not sure how cool OP's wife would be with that, but it does bring up an interesting point...unless you have a legit reason to have showered elsewhere during the day (gym), bring your own soap to the incall, the same kind you use at home.
Don't go home smelling different than you did when you left, women notice that.
And +1 to your post as well. If you are married and engaging in this hobby, get yourself a damn divorce then go out and play around. What passes for marriage these days is truly pathetic.
Based on a number of surveys, about 50% of members here are "attached"
As many have said before, morality advice from an ESCORT REVIEW BOARD seems suspect. Just keep in mind that much of the population would see this hobby as disgusting and immoral, whether you are single or not. Dont criticise a man unless youve walked a mile in his shoes.
Back to escort reviewing, and the like.
As many have said before, morality advice from an ESCORT REVIEW BOARD seems suspect. Just keep in mind that much of the population would see this hobby as disgusting and immoral, whether you are single or not. Dont criticise a man unless youve walked a mile in his shoes.
Back to escort reviewing, and the like.
If YOU are married, you're being phony. If you are NOT married, then it's not your place to give orders to those who are.
In other words, shut the fuck up.
One minor detail is to make sure that if you have anything in your copy/paste buffer that it's "benign". Of course rebooting will take care of that.
