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gentle_lover

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Are most hobbyist here have SO(significant other)?

If yes, is seeing an SP considering cheating? Or would you guys consider cheating when a feeling involved?

Don't you feel guilty doing it? If it doesn't make you feel guilty, why?
 
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69Shooter

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If the answer to the first question is 'Yes' then all I can say is that the answer to your second question is... "it's cheating if your SO says it's cheating!"
 
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Carling

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yes the GUILT!...i dunno.... i think it makes me a better SO to her...i end up getting a nice massage or Sp session, then go home, cook, clean and give her a massage...:)
 
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gentle_lover

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It doesn't make you feel guilty every time you look at your SO and child and knowing that you screwing around behind them?

How do you over come that feeling man?
 
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gentle_lover said:
It doesn't make you feel guilty every time you look at your SO and child and knowing that you screwing around behind them?

How do you over come that feeling man?
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financially speaking, its better than divorce....oh and if i was gettin it at home...it might be different...but then again theres sooo many beautiful women out there...and soooo little time
 
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Carling

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gentle_lover said:
It doesn't make you feel guilty every time you look at your SO and child and knowing that you screwing around behind them?

How do you over come that feeling man?
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i was told at a very young age by both my father and grand dad..

"you only live once, make the best of it"

i apply this to the hobby....plus its less hassle to fuck SPs then to find a chick in a bar or in the workplace.
 
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Carling said:
i was told at a very young age by both my father and grand dad..

"you only live once, make the best of it"

i apply this to the hobby....plus its less hassle to fuck SPs then to find a chick in a bar or in the workplace.
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Are you sure that they had hobbying in mind when they told you this? Maybe they meant to make the best of your relationship with your SO.
 
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gentle_lover

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Lol i don't think so

What if you pass something to your SO that you don't want to pass on? How do you overcome that thought?
 
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Carling

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69Shooter said:
Are you sure that they had hobbying in mind when they told you this? Maybe they meant to make the best of your relationship with your SO.
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lol...its a joke..yeah i think that applied to my life in general...honestly, i've cut down on SPs and massage alot, compared to my single days...but once in a while, i get that urge, drive to my fave at the time, sit in t he parking lot and swear to myself" last time, i swear its the last time"

two months later, i'm back...lol
 
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gentle_lover

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Not many people responding to this thread. Only the same people.

Maybe most of us just want to ignore these questions so we don't have to deal with them right now.
 
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I am madly in love with my SO. However, I believe for me, it is an addiction. If you have ever watched Dexter, he carries on a second life as a serial killer - I carry on a second life as a hobbiest, which I think is a little less risky or complex than going around killing people. There is a thrill and obvious gratification involved. Guilt is the little guy that gets put in the back corner hidden by the the big guys "It's only sex" and "As long as I'm careful, I won't get caught". Just like Dexter, I know that one of these days I will have to stop - but until then, I will need to satisfy these urges.
 
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blackrock13

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OuttaControl said:
I am madly in love with my SO. However, I believe for me, it is an addiction. If you have ever watched Dexter, he carries on a second life as a serial killer - I carry on a second life as a hobbiest, which I think is a little less risky or complex than going around killing people. There is a thrill and obvious gratification involved. Guilt is the little guy that gets put in the back corner hidden by the the big guys "It's only sex" and "As long as I'm careful, I won't get caught". Just like Dexter, I know that one of these days I will have to stop - but until then, I will need to satisfy these urges.
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Some at least admits it. None of this scientific genetic shite.
 
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Amigo, we aren't trying to ignore your question. Many of us have faced the question and have dealt with it. It's just *you* that seems to struggle. So, let me give you some friendly advice. If you aren't comfortable with hobbying behind your SO's back, then *don't* do it. Period. Simple. If you are worried about passing an STD on to your SO, then be worried and stay safe (CBJ and don't contact any fluids with your mouth). You gotta deal with the issue yourself. My telling you whether I feel guilty or not won't help you if you are struggling with guilt or other feelings. Good luck figuring it out.
 
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Hmmm an interesting conversation. I can't speak for other gents here but for me, as odd as it sounds, I spend time with these ladies in order to be a better husband to my wife. Perhaps I am justifying my cheating ways but I am not looking for another relationship, simply a way to take care of my needs without tipping the boat at home. My wife and I have a lovely marriage but our sex life has been declining over the past few years. I have tried romanticizing her with flowers and jewlerry and bath oils but she doesn't seem to be as interested in sex anymore. I love her dearly and she knows my sex drive hasn't lessened in any way. I'm not sure how else to tackle this. I get what I need for now and am hopeful that my wife will find me desireable again in the future.
 
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gentle_lover said:
Not many people responding to this thread. Only the same people.

Maybe most of us just want to ignore these questions so we don't have to deal with them right now.
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Or because this topic has been done about a hundred times before.
 
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gentle_lover said:
Are most hobbyist here have SO(significant other)?

If yes, is seeing an SP considering cheating? Or would you guys consider cheating when a feeling involved?

Don't you feel guilty doing it? If it doesn't make you feel guilty, why?
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All legit questions. Not so gentle in posing them though. I take it that you are un-attached? That's good for you, and keep it that way if you are hobbying. Once attached, do not EVEN come back to Terb and see this thread, for it will mean totally different to you then. Everybody has their own weaknesses, and until proven a saint please spare us the guilting, we've done it enough to ourselves.
 
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Mod100 said:
Or because this topic has been done about a hundred times before.
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Bingo.

BTW, as a super powerful mod, maybe you could have dug up all the old threads to prove the assertion.;)
 
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