So the other day I was on a date with a cute asian girl (A 7 for those of you into numbers. Cute but not drop dead gorgeous) that I met at a nightclub. We laughed and had a good time. She seemed like a smart woman who has got her career together.
I came home and thought to myself not so sure if I was motivated to go on a second date with her. If I had met her before I started hobbying, it for sure would have been a second date. But my bar has raised and my patience has been minimized.
At this stage of my life, really all I do care about is sex. Not that is the only value I derive from my relationship with the opposite sex. I love women and their company in general. Which is why I have allot of female friends. Along with I have had some very long term relationships and enjoyed the companionship aspect. However I am not willing to pay the price for the emotional debt that comes with a committed relationships. Considering my longest term relationship I broke out of for being sexually stale.
I have always been an independent guy. Most of my real life girlfriends would agree that I'm fairly low maintenance and not at all needy. I always have my own direction and things I need to do in my life. So while I enjoy the companionship aspect of a relationship, not a big deal for me to not have it in my life. As I see it as a choice I have made to have my sexual variety. And I found myself thinking after the date, do I really want to jump through all these hoops and play the games with for the goal of just having sex?
The next day I visited an SP and had mind blowing sex. Truly this Hobby has made all my sexual fantasies come to life. All which would have taken an incredible (And may not have been possible) amount of effort through conventional dating. And it allows me to just to focus on my career and being more successful to enjoy more of it. Simple, straightforward and all pleasurable. The next day I hit another nightclub with a friend. Where I would approach beautiful women and have no anxiety about that. But find myself not even that motivated, wondering even we did hook up they might be mediocre in bed at best.
Its not that I can't get regular dates. I am in my late 30s, however I been blessed with the fountain of youth that everyone thinks I am in my twenties. Including the women I date in their early twenties who are aware and don't seem to care about the age difference. While I am no male model, it's not like I'm not decent looking enough to get a real date. It's just all the hassle that involved sometimes doesn't seem worth it if the only goal is sex. I usually just continue to do it because I feel its a good thing for my own self development to challenge myself. And eventually I might at SOME point want to settle down. Although I would think given my need for variety it would have to be a polyamorous open marriage. As I see conventional marriage a bit of a trap. (For both parties).
This hobby has really changed my thinking about regular dating. Never thought I would think of things this way. I mean literally regular dating has become something I do merely for the challenge and the desire to keep myself growing. But certainly isn't for the sex anymore as I get that immediate gratification and ultimate satisfaction through the hobby. And aside from convenience the level sexual satisifaction has rarely matched that of hobbying.
Anyone else been through a similar process?
I came home and thought to myself not so sure if I was motivated to go on a second date with her. If I had met her before I started hobbying, it for sure would have been a second date. But my bar has raised and my patience has been minimized.
At this stage of my life, really all I do care about is sex. Not that is the only value I derive from my relationship with the opposite sex. I love women and their company in general. Which is why I have allot of female friends. Along with I have had some very long term relationships and enjoyed the companionship aspect. However I am not willing to pay the price for the emotional debt that comes with a committed relationships. Considering my longest term relationship I broke out of for being sexually stale.
I have always been an independent guy. Most of my real life girlfriends would agree that I'm fairly low maintenance and not at all needy. I always have my own direction and things I need to do in my life. So while I enjoy the companionship aspect of a relationship, not a big deal for me to not have it in my life. As I see it as a choice I have made to have my sexual variety. And I found myself thinking after the date, do I really want to jump through all these hoops and play the games with for the goal of just having sex?
The next day I visited an SP and had mind blowing sex. Truly this Hobby has made all my sexual fantasies come to life. All which would have taken an incredible (And may not have been possible) amount of effort through conventional dating. And it allows me to just to focus on my career and being more successful to enjoy more of it. Simple, straightforward and all pleasurable. The next day I hit another nightclub with a friend. Where I would approach beautiful women and have no anxiety about that. But find myself not even that motivated, wondering even we did hook up they might be mediocre in bed at best.
Its not that I can't get regular dates. I am in my late 30s, however I been blessed with the fountain of youth that everyone thinks I am in my twenties. Including the women I date in their early twenties who are aware and don't seem to care about the age difference. While I am no male model, it's not like I'm not decent looking enough to get a real date. It's just all the hassle that involved sometimes doesn't seem worth it if the only goal is sex. I usually just continue to do it because I feel its a good thing for my own self development to challenge myself. And eventually I might at SOME point want to settle down. Although I would think given my need for variety it would have to be a polyamorous open marriage. As I see conventional marriage a bit of a trap. (For both parties).
This hobby has really changed my thinking about regular dating. Never thought I would think of things this way. I mean literally regular dating has become something I do merely for the challenge and the desire to keep myself growing. But certainly isn't for the sex anymore as I get that immediate gratification and ultimate satisfaction through the hobby. And aside from convenience the level sexual satisifaction has rarely matched that of hobbying.
Anyone else been through a similar process?
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