Hobbying is more efficient than Dating.
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Many reasonable comments here on both sides. All to say, Its no wonder they call it the oldest profession in the world.
But I have to side with the fact that seeing escorts, although very fulfilling sexually can never replace a true loving relationship
between a man and a woman. Maybe its because I started out seeing escorts later in my life. For before then
I was always with women and there were many, on a more serious level. Jmts
But I have to side with the fact that seeing escorts, although very fulfilling sexually can never replace a true loving relationship
between a man and a woman. Maybe its because I started out seeing escorts later in my life. For before then
I was always with women and there were many, on a more serious level. Jmts
And the 50% that stay married include those who are not necessarily fulfilled or completely happy. Many are happy - and these are ones that understand that marriage takes work, that marriage is a business proposition - not some romance fairy tale, and that companionship and genuine feelings for a life partner requires compromise and sacrifice.
And of those 50% still together, there are some that are having affairs, visiting SPs, going to sugardaddy.com or just living sexless marriages. So the numbers are even more daunting than the stats would indicate under the table. Not judging anyone who chooses to have anything outside of their marriage. As there circumstances that are not my business such as Kids at hand, their is love but no sex or its an open marriage. Just those numbers aren't completely telling of who is satisfied with the classical monogomous marriage model. Hence why I am all for Polyamory which is more of a realistic view of relationships and accepting the fact of multiple lovers.
I think you should text her that you are not coming back. She is probably still waiting
I agree whole heartedly with your statements. When i hobby i usually tell myself damn i need to be in a real relationship again, i've always longed for the companionship. Even if the sex was mind blowing, it's not so much infatuation with the girl, but finding the woman that has it all.
For the record, the "love of a good woman" is not conditional to a mansion and cars. That's a "gold digger" in the worst case or "high maintenance" in the best case.
A "good woman" puts in the effort with a guy towards building a good life absent of criteria like big homes or fancy cars. It is on you, me and every guy to look out for good values and traits. Shallow women, women with least ability to work hard and no track record of achievement, women who expect to be taken care of because the only thing they bring to the table are good looks, women who are influenced by others perception of them etc etc.......well, these will probably fuck a guy over at some point.
Which is why as someone in this thread was saying, as we get older it is hard to find "good women" and when we do, we might not appreciate their outward physical appearance. Then, as i was stating up above to Vermeer, every guy has to make a decision: 1) stay alone or 2) pay for sex or 3) accept nobody is perfect and accept this "good woman" and her less than perfect looks.
I agree with the taxing part (I'm 38 and suffering in this Toronto scene for a while): but to compare this chick to an escort is not fair. Assuming unlike the OP, you're not just looking for sex (and if you are, you should be in a club rather than singles event). In that instant of thought, you have distilled both women down to an age number (20) and physical appearance ("gorgeous") and the only thing you see both good for is: sex.
I'm not saying Miss Blabbermouth was the perfect woman but if you were there dating for a relationship partner, in order to draw an equivalency, you might want to think about whether you'd be cool with a relationship with a 20 year old SP who gets dozens of cocks pounding her every week.
Touche! Do a search for threads about dating SPs/MPAs/Dancers....
A very good point! A good relationship is truly a partnership, one where the woman supports the man to maximize his potential (and vice versa).
There's nothing wrong with a woman who wants to enjoy luxury. But I would expect to contribute by pursuing her own career or supporting her man in his. Many of my unhappily married friends are unhappy because their wives expect the LP or FH address but give them shit when they have to work extra hours or travel for the job. Also, nothing is as unsexy as a woman who expects, nay, feels entitled, to being pampered.
Men are naturally inclined to spoil our queens/princesses. If a duded ain't doing it, it's because he can't or he doesn't want to. Figure it out, ladies...
/rant
Touche! Do a search for threads about dating SPs/MPAs/Dancers....
A very good point! A good relationship is truly a partnership, one where the woman supports the man to maximize his potential (and vice versa).
There's nothing wrong with a woman who wants to enjoy luxury. But I would expect to contribute by pursuing her own career or supporting her man in his. Many of my unhappily married friends are unhappy because their wives expect the LP or FH address but give them shit when they have to work extra hours or travel for the job. Also, nothing is as unsexy as a woman who expects, nay, feels entitled, to being pampered.
Men are naturally inclined to spoil our queens/princesses. If a duded ain't doing it, it's because he can't or he doesn't want to. Figure it out, ladies...
/rant
What about an SP who wants to be with you, but who will work for the luxury she enjoys?
I know an sp is not a relationship but I also fear divorce and losing it all to the wrong woman.
The key here is to give it time, don't jump into it, let it flow you'll find out soon enough. If she sticks by you and there are no sudden changes in attitude. You'll know.
SPs are polished conversationalists compared to the rif raff of women out there that can't piece together a cogent sentence. I'm generally the one carrying the conversation in the real world and trying to build chemistry. I have no illusions about the five other clients that were booked before I stepped in the door to see that SP. But I had a better time talking to her and banging her then hearing Miss Blabbermouth - it was worth $250.I agree with the taxing part (I'm 38 and suffering in this Toronto scene for a while): but to compare this chick to an escort is not fair. Assuming unlike the OP, you're not just looking for sex (and if you are, you should be in a club rather than singles event). In that instant of thought, you have distilled both women down to an age number (20) and physical appearance ("gorgeous") and the only thing you see both good for is: sex.
I'm not saying Miss Blabbermouth was the perfect woman but if you were there dating for a relationship partner, in order to draw an equivalency, you might want to think about whether you'd be cool with a relationship with a 20 year old SP who gets dozens of cocks pounding her every week.
Also, women can be pretty ruthless when it comes rejecting. Why can't men do the same?
Interesting q. But in my mind, whether she works and how she chooses to spend her money are two separate issues. If a guy isn't ok with his woman working, the luxuries wear thin quickly.
I've noticed more than a few working girls who support their SOs. I've been told that some actually prefer it that way. It's a bit of a power play and the fact that the woman brings home the bread lessens the perceived guilt or leverage. I find it terribly ironic.
Just finished watching the movie "Shame". Thanks for recommending it.
Yeah that's totally becoming me. Although I'm not so sure where the film was going with things. But I am certainly not as Dark and Dreary as him. Quiete the opposite, I gotta a BIG fucking smile on my face every week. Especially with this hobby. Ear to fucking ear.
Yeah that's totally becoming me. Although I'm not so sure where the film was going with things. But I am certainly not as Dark and Dreary as him. Quiete the opposite, I gotta a BIG fucking smile on my face every week. Especially with this hobby. Ear to fucking ear.
