Guys: Do you talk to strange women in public?

[desert monk]

Anyway talking to women in person is much better and less boring than online dating. I still don't get it why women prefer to have virtual conversation with people living only few miles away when they meet them in person. I miss the 80's and 90's when there was no internet and the old school of dating.

I think the online-shopping aura of internet dating is what appeals to women.

 

[Yoga Face]

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but 9 times out of 10, most women don't want to be picked up. Especially more attractive women. They're used to it happening all the time.
I personally don't like being approached when I'm going about my day, I'm sure the many other women who are approached almost every day will agree.
While it may seem like something new, it happens all the time and most women already have pre-memorized "get away" lines for the second someone approaches them

As with the thing about a guys getting girls numbers ( mentioned a few posts above me) I think a lot of women are just afraid of confrontation and don't want to be rude. I myself entertain conversations I don't want to be in out of politeness and being too shy to tell someone to go away. Also some times people still bother you (I'd been followed 3 blocks before after telling someone I had a boyfriend, with them asking if my relationship had a loophole they could slip in)
At times when I'm asked for my number, I do give it to get out of the situation, but I wont text back ever or I'll give a fake.
From what I've heard from women I've spoken to, none have entertained someone who's approached them regularly. Many feel threatened and uncomfortable.
A lot feel frustrated that there's interference with whatever they've left the house to do that day.
Some enjoy the conversation itself but aren't up to take it anywhere past that.

A setting where women have already consensually entered with the expectation of being approached, like a bar/club or general social setting is fair game.
I know it's cliche to approach a woman in a bar, but thats something she's already gone knowing it will happen. She's not caught off guard during her routine errands.

Correct

It is really quite simple

Notice her in a non leering way then look for body language signals

as for the OP a smile is a indicator of interest but just an indicator not proof next step is to say hello

 

[huckfinn]

Whew.....I thought this thread was about a social stigma thing about talking to strange or weird women in public.

I was going to suggest I only talk to them in private.

Glad its about talking to women that are strangers....lol :drum:

 

[jackjackjohnson]

Guys: Do you talk to strange women in public? I am not talking at a bar or some other event where you you might go there to meet someone. I mean in a place like a grocery store.

There is a grocery store near me. I do not know what it is about this place but it seems to have a lot of really attractive woman. Many of which gives me a nice smile, that rarely happens any other place, I am not ugly but no where near what most women would find attractive . I smile back but I never approach them. Then I come home and slap myself in the head for not saying anything. Most of these woman are a lot younger than me. Usually I go to the grocery on Sunday mornings, unshaven and dressed in jeans and t-shirt. I don't know if they are just being friendly and smiling at the old frumpy guy or what.

Today it happened again. This time the young attractive lady had rather large breasts in a tight sweater. Being a breast man, it was hard not to look. I felt a bit embarrassed , thinking that she caught me looking. I don't know if he was smiling out of dis comfort, because she liked the fact I was looking or just plain old being friendly.


In these situations I never know what to say. If I have a reason to talk then I am fine. But just walking up to someone no, can't do it. What about everyone else?

Yes. Why not? I talk to everyone, women included.

 

[frankcastle]

i think i missed this discussion but caught a part of it on twitter. so are people offended that this guy is looking for bbfs? why does it matter to anyone else what he is seeking? as long as it's all consensual, who cares? i'm sure there are sex workers out there who would be happy to offer BBFS services for a huge upcharge. there's nothing illegal about it, and it doesn't affect me. people have BBFS all the time in their civvie life; why is it suddenly way more offensive if someone is asking for it from a sex worker?

he wants to go to a european country where bb greek is common and he wants to use truveda or some anti hiv drug to protrct himself.

you have to read the thread i cant do it justice. but he is asking a number of strange things that when put together he appears to have an unhealthy outlook.

 

[shack]

Yes. Why not? I talk to everyone, women included.

It's good that you clarified that the term "everyone" even includes women. I wasn't sure before that.

 

[thirdcup]

Venture to whole foods or Pusateri's. OR a farmer's market. You're welcome!

I remember seeing in a thread from several years ago that if a woman walks around with a cuke in the childs part of the shopping cart, it means she's looking for action. And they mentioned a Pusateri's north of Steeles. I have no idea if this is true.

 

[oil&gas]

Guys: Do you talk to strange women in public?

Yes, but only if she is in a miniskirt and I feel the
urge to slip my hand under it.

 

[jackjackjohnson]

It's good that you clarified that the term "everyone" even includes women. I wasn't sure before that.

You are trying too hard.

 

[IM469]

I agree with Fuji.

Just talk to everyone, everywhere.

Eventually it becomes second nature.

Same with me. No problems - I don't stalk women and treat everyone the same. I like to joke and kid with people - I am not looking at game plays - just enjoying life. I think if you just have an open nature with everyone, talking to a beautiful woman will not be any different than any other human that you encounter.

Those seeking out, checking out their grocery cart or obviously steering toward them as a guided missile are bound to get cooler results. I witnessed my S/A under an awkward encounter that started with a 'do you shop here often' ? I just happened to be returning from another aisle collecting some stuff when I heard the encounter. I wasn't upset but when I introduced myself, the guy fled the store. My S/O was the one that was pissed. The guy started off with a cheap pickup line and thus she was upset to be treated as some sleazy tramp. (If you are keen on starting a conversation in a grocery store - solicit her help or opinion about the produce - not her dating status.)

 

[barnacler]

Same with me. No problems - I don't stalk women and treat everyone the same. I like to joke and kid with people - I am not looking at game plays - just enjoying life. I think if you just have an open nature with everyone, talking to a beautiful woman will not be any different than any other human that you encounter.

Those seeking out, checking out their grocery cart or obviously steering toward them as a guided missile are bound to get cooler results. I witnessed my S/A under an awkward encounter that started with a 'do you shop here often' ? I just happened to be returning from another aisle collecting some stuff when I heard the encounter. I wasn't upset but when I introduced myself, the guy fled the store. My S/O was the one that was pissed. The guy started off with a cheap pickup line and thus she was upset to be treated as some sleazy tramp. (If you are keen on starting a conversation in a grocery store - solicit her help or opinion about the produce - not her dating status.)

Yeah, you get it. I think the key is to like everyone. So I see an attractive woman, and her guy comes around the corner - be friend of his! She is off the menu but maybe he could be a cool friend! Who cares!


Between now and my death I will have a lot of sex.

But friends and relationships are more important.

 

[TeeJay]

Any chance of picking up hot cashiers ? I thought it's easier to start conversation with them than with other customers, but at the same time they try to be friendly only as part of their business requirements/ customer service

I'm sure people behind you in line love you for this
As does the girl who gets the creeps all hitting on her at work

 

[surferboy]

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but 9 times out of 10, most women don't want to be picked up. Especially more attractive women. They're used to it happening all the time.
I personally don't like being approached when I'm going about my day, I'm sure the many other women who are approached almost every day will agree.
While it may seem like something new, it happens all the time and most women already have pre-memorized "get away" lines for the second someone approaches them

As with the thing about a guys getting girls numbers ( mentioned a few posts above me) I think a lot of women are just afraid of confrontation and don't want to be rude. I myself entertain conversations I don't want to be in out of politeness and being too shy to tell someone to go away. Also some times people still bother you (I'd been followed 3 blocks before after telling someone I had a boyfriend, with them asking if my relationship had a loophole they could slip in)
At times when I'm asked for my number, I do give it to get out of the situation, but I wont text back ever or I'll give a fake.
From what I've heard from women I've spoken to, none have entertained someone who's approached them regularly. Many feel threatened and uncomfortable.
A lot feel frustrated that there's interference with whatever they've left the house to do that day.
Some enjoy the conversation itself but aren't up to take it anywhere past that.

A setting where women have already consensually entered with the expectation of being approached, like a bar/club or general social setting is fair game.
I know it's cliche to approach a woman in a bar, but thats something she's already gone knowing it will happen. She's not caught off guard during her routine errands.

I would agree with your first line, but something tells me 9 out of 10 times no women gets tired of a compliment. Wow you have a beautiful smile, that color blouse highlights your eyes , love that perfume yada yada yada... No women gets sick of compliments just like no guy does. I talk to every female from 8 to 80, spend a little more time on the 20-30 yr olds but hey that's just me. And guys don't just reserve the compliments for the hot milf at the gym or rocket that bartends at your favourite watering hole. The overweight student cashier with glasses that you can kind of tell has low self esteem needs a compliment more than ^^^ it will make her day or the waitress that's making $11 & tells you her kid is failing math & she's a single mom definitely could use one. Same goes for the women, when you see that awkward kid that works at Tim's that's just screwed up the previous two orders & you can tell he's not getting laid brighten his day & say your doing fine, love that smile...

As for getting numbers that's just a contest sometimes, mostly bragging rights after a nite at the club to see who gets the most. If I meet a girl I like i'll tell her to call me, some don't but some do...

 

[jackjackjohnson]

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but 9 times out of 10, most women don't want to be picked up. Especially more attractive women. They're used to it happening all the time.
I personally don't like being approached when I'm going about my day, I'm sure the many other women who are approached almost every day will agree.
While it may seem like something new, it happens all the time and most women already have pre-memorized "get away" lines for the second someone approaches them

As with the thing about a guys getting girls numbers ( mentioned a few posts above me) I think a lot of women are just afraid of confrontation and don't want to be rude. I myself entertain conversations I don't want to be in out of politeness and being too shy to tell someone to go away. Also some times people still bother you (I'd been followed 3 blocks before after telling someone I had a boyfriend, with them asking if my relationship had a loophole they could slip in)
At times when I'm asked for my number, I do give it to get out of the situation, but I wont text back ever or I'll give a fake.
From what I've heard from women I've spoken to, none have entertained someone who's approached them regularly. Many feel threatened and uncomfortable.
A lot feel frustrated that there's interference with whatever they've left the house to do that day.
Some enjoy the conversation itself but aren't up to take it anywhere past that.

A setting where women have already consensually entered with the expectation of being approached, like a bar/club or general social setting is fair game.
I know it's cliche to approach a woman in a bar, but thats something she's already gone knowing it will happen. She's not caught off guard during her routine errands.

What? What area do you live in? Unless you are around drunk guys 24/7, how do so many guys bother you? All my women friends say most men don't approach them these days. Even the attractive ones have problems...especially the attractive ones.

 

[Mable]

I was in the grocery store the other day looking for a chicken. They were at $4.39/lb and looking good , but I was unsure of which one to buy and so was fumbling around the bid when I heard a smouldering voice over my shoulder, which said, " the hens are tastier than the toms!" Was this a come on, and would any of you guys have played it out? (This was from v very attractive lady in her, I guess late 30's).

 

[MissCroft]

The pick-up lines I get are probably quite different than some of the younger women. Many men in bars, etc. ask if I'm married and if I'm not interested I simply say "yes". (I'm not) I would feel bad giving a guy a fake number.

 

[thesun]

The pick-up lines I get are probably quite different than some of the younger women. Many men in bars, etc. ask if I'm married and if I'm not interested I simply say "yes". (I'm not) I would feel bad giving a guy a fake number.

Even if it was Jeff O'Neil?

 

[thesun]

I have met travelers from Europe who aren't used to cashiers asking them "How are you today ?", so they took it as an invite , lol

Thats interesting. I had a few guests from Germany at my house and the biggest complaint they had was that many cashiers or employees in North America were not friendly. They guests would say hello to them but the replies they have received were either shallow or lacking sincere eye contact.

 

[desert monk]

I think what we can take away from this discussion is not that all women don't want to be approached by men, but that western feminism and the resulting hyper-political correctness has put relations between the sexes in such an awkward place that flirting and dating are all but dead.

 

[Yoga Face]

What? What area do you live in? Unless you are around drunk guys 24/7, how do so many guys bother you? All my women friends say most men don't approach them these days. Even the attractive ones have problems...especially the attractive ones.

Agree

I do not notice guys approaching strange women so being nice to a strange wonmen is an oddity to her but post 54 "Camillia" says it happens to her all the time so I must not be very observant


to the OP - you play the game you take your chances so be prepared for success as well as rejection