Gowest can't help it. He has a hard on for Fuji from all the times that Fuji has handed his ass to him in the politics section. He hasn't won a single debate.
Guys: Do you talk to strange women in public?
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You're talking about sex in a monogamous relationship? That isn't the same thing as wanting a HIV vaccine so you can have unprotected anal sex with prostitutes in high risk countries.
Actually we are discussing talking to strange women in public. Please stay on topic.
It seems like you cant approach women these days like the past when there was no internet.. Everyone is so cyber social in 2016 they freak out in a face to face conversation. Did you see that video of the woman walking down the street and every time a guy says hi it was counted as sexual harassment? lol
If you don't overcome your self esteem problem, you'll develop a hairy palm. Nothing that work can't fix, just remember when dealing with women a thick skin is required. Nothing worth having comes easy.
Not entirely true, but not easy.
I was extremely shy as a kid, even as a young adult.
At some point I realized I was missing out on a lot of fun in life so I dug down deep and just forced myself out of my comfort zone.
It was a gradual process, but over the years, I've come a long way. I've even spoken in front of crowds ranging in number from a few to over a thousand. Those were tough and challenging, but I survived and in some cases even thrived.
Some days I slide back into what's natural for me and I simply do a quick evaluation of the situation and decide if I should be more outgoing or if in that case it's ok to just be the quiet one.
At least now, I have the choice.
I've given myself the choice.
LOLOLOL THANK YOU!! Go west.. i don't think that babies are being born in the Ass... and second of all random SP's in Europe also will not want to have your babies.
I agree. As I have got older, i find myself talking to all sorts of people. Many times sharing a good laugh. Just be sincere and genuine.
If the girl is out of your league, go ahead and try. She will think you're harmless at best and pathetic/creepy at worst. I'm basing this conclusion on the literally hundreds of stories I've heard from attractive female friends who describe exactly the approach being discussed here. These women experience this many times a day in some cases, and they're pretty much immune to it (at-least the ones I know). I'm sure if you're good-looking, tall, well-dressed and very articulate you're chances will be better than the average.
I try to talk to people in public. It's been hard learning as I'm socially awkward to begin with. I find it's best to jump in with a lighthearted comment about something to do with whatever the location or occasion is.
Finding way harder to meet hot women, they look at me like I'm creepy or just give me the rolling eyes like they would to their dad. Hmm, maybe should try women closer to my age.
Finding way harder to meet hot women, they look at me like I'm creepy or just give me the rolling eyes like they would to their dad. Hmm, maybe should try women closer to my age.
I usually only say something if there's an opening. For example, she's buying something that I have a comment about or question about. But for the most part I just keep to myself.
Sounds like you have an excuse for everything. It is never too late to learn/practice social skills.
I know a person in her 60s who stuttered and hated public speaking after doing toast master her stutter and fear of public speaking are now gone.
I would say there was a huge improvement in my ability to speak with women from my late teens to early twenties. The key is very simple listen and ask questions and throw in personal stuff about yourself where relevant. With practice you could do this for hours. Also, you need to build your own confidence. IF you have the attitude of finding excuses on why things won't work that's the loser in you talking.
On the other extreme, I know a guy in his early 20s who has no shortage of confidence. He'll literally approach women in any situation and start talking with them. Often they're hot and he gets their numbers and sees them again. I have not asked what else happens.
The problem is he's a unattractive, nerdy and uninteresting guy. He's a classic computer geek who was badly bullied and somehow learned to have unshakable confidence and a bunch of effective opening lines. I don't know if he attended one of this pick up artist semibars or something. But now me and others at work won't go out for lunch or hang out with him ever. We all cringe at this gross guy chatting up girls. Sure we are probably a bit jealous, but mostly this guy just makes us feel ill.
Confidence must be backed by something or it's like a freak show. Definitely we can all benefit from learning a few handy lines. But beyond that it's got to come from your soul, not your head.
The problem is he's a unattractive, nerdy and uninteresting guy. He's a classic computer geek who was badly bullied and somehow learned to have unshakable confidence and a bunch of effective opening lines. I don't know if he attended one of this pick up artist semibars or something. But now me and others at work won't go out for lunch or hang out with him ever. We all cringe at this gross guy chatting up girls. Sure we are probably a bit jealous, but mostly this guy just makes us feel ill.
Confidence must be backed by something or it's like a freak show. Definitely we can all benefit from learning a few handy lines. But beyond that it's got to come from your soul, not your head.
LOL
I get approached sometimes when in the produce section by men asking what fruit or vegetables look fresh, etc. Fortunately I love talking about produce.... A guy recently asked me about the broccoli and I started going on about how it was very good if it had some purple in it because that meant more antioxidants...I realized he wasn't so interested in the broccoli. :spy:
YOU are consistently asking about bareback sex with SEX WORKERS.. NOT in rcommited relationships.
Dude they are simply being friendly. Not asking you to come over and bother then. If you have the confidence you could smile back and that would be great. Maybe next time she recognises you in the aisle she may start a conversation.
Oh, I disagree with this. I think the language example is quite the opposite. Kids tend to get embarrassed easily, especially teenagers. Most people naturally get more confident as they get older. I think it gets easier , not harder with time.
The problem is probably that he is focusing waay too much on women, and women who he is interested in in particular. If you see a couple, talk to the man, talk to old ladies, talk to obese men in scooters, or ugly women in yoga pants, thin men who smell of cigarette smoke - you get the idea - everyone. Stop singling women out. then whena woman comes along your brain will just consider her one of many and you should in time be able to talk to her just like everyone else.
Better still, is an attractive woman SEES you talking to someone who obviously you won't want to be with, it will be a bit impressive to her, that you are an outgoing guy.
