Geek's can't win :(

[Tangwhich]

I'm with you Tboy that marriage is a bad idea, but if that's what you want to do, I'd want it to be with someone that loves me for me, not for my money. It at least gives the marriage a fighting chance. That nice piece of ass isn't always going to be a nice piece of ass. It's not like a car where you can trade in for a newer model.

 

[wetnose]

It's hard for a guy to judge another guy but I would say he is not ugly but certainly not that attractive to the female population; thus, why is he single.

The sad truth is this guy will probably never get married even though he is a great catch for someone.

I think he's smart for never getting married and is probably in a better position to retire now, more so than a lot of dudes out there. Lotsa nice girls in other countries who would love to meet a guy like him.

You know who the real losers are? Those that got married at 24, had 2 kids then got royally screwed over by the wives who took everything from them. They have to fight for visitation rights, hand over half of their take home pay (sometimes more) and then have to move in to some dinghy apartment to make ends meet.

If I was your friend, I'd be breathing a sigh of relief -sure dodged a bullet on that one!

 

[tboy]

I'm with you Tboy that marriage is a bad idea, but if that's what you want to do, I'd want it to be with someone that loves me for me, not for my money. It at least gives the marriage a fighting chance. That nice piece of ass isn't always going to be a nice piece of ass. It's not like a car where you can trade in for a newer model.

See tang, that's just it. Most people (which is why the divorce rate is so high) know how to fall in love but don't know how to BE in love over the long haul. At least in a mistress case the rules are laid out and not open to interpretation and yes, you CAN trade her in for a new model when she starts letting herself go (and us guys know first hand that the weight starts getting packed on the second the L word is spoken and so does the sex life).

WHat kind of ruined me for the love/marriage situation is all the friends and co-workers who lost everything because they got married without a pre-nup. I mean seriously, I went to 7 weddings over 2 yrs and not a one were still together 2 yrs later. In fact, I went to 2 for the same girl and kind of got grief when I gave a paltry wedding present.

 

[petitelover]

If a woman isn't interested in a guy until she finds out how much money he makes, would he really want to be with her?

I agree

 

[petitelover]

LOL ALL the women we see from this board are interested in us only because of the cash we have in our pockets lol.

Put it another way: I'd rather have a hot, attractive, vibrant, sexy, intelligent hottie that rocks my world in bed, makes me happy, and treats me with dignity and respect only be with me for my money than some overweight, miserable, baggage carrying butterface with a front bum love me to death yet have no problem pissing in my cornflakes every morning.....

The thing about guys who dress this way? So what? If it makes him happy who are we to judge? Heck I saw some "wannabe" rocker chick at the store yesterday who had platform running shoes on that resembled moon boots (from the 70's).....she thought she was uber cool I bet.

The thing is, if a woman can't see this guy for the great person he is, and can't get over the fact that he may not dress like everyone else, then that is her problem not his......

OMG - I might have to disagree with Tboy on this one. (might be the first issue I disagree) You mean you wouldn't mind if someone is with you for your money only as long as she was hot, good in bed, etc. What about the respect issue - how can you trick yourself into thinking she is giving you respect when you know damn well she only likes you for your money?

I agree with your last statement that it is the female issue for not seeing he is a nice guy but I am sure you wouldn't disagree that most people are superficial and would not look beyond his dorky/geeky look. (other than those select few that dig geeks)

 

[petitelover]

Why describe it as "sad truth" becasue he will never get married?
Why buy the cow when one can buy milk by the glass?
In fact, it is "happy truth" for him, with $600,000 annual income, for one person to spend or save. He can spend half of it at Mirage, Select, Exquisite/GOE, Sassys, Roommates, CUPIDs etc, etc and have a blast and still have plenty left over for old age.

Why would he want to get married, be tied down and kiss good bye to BBBJ on wedding night, and then low level of sex, or no sex at all with his SO?

I think the sex industry was created with the help of SOs of the world. If all the SOs were treating their men the way SPs treat their customers, the sex industry would be a lot smaller.

CP

PS: Take a look at my sig photo. If your lawyer friend can find one girl like that, then I won't blame him for getting married and forget about his freedom.
His face would be between those 2 big, soft melons all the time.

This particular individual wants to get married and have a family. Right or wrong that is what his dream is. I've tried to introduce him to friends of mine and I always get the same response - "he is nice, but not for me." Translation - he is too geeky for me.

As far as him hobbying - no way. He is too straight laced to join in. (not a bad thing - it's just him)

 

[petitelover]

I have a thing for dorky men. The more nerd the better. Something about a man who pushes his thick dark rimmed glasses glasses up his nose just gets my juices flowing - think Rivers from Weezer. MMMMMM....

A lot of women I know share this preference of men. You can always ask your lawyer friend if pink haired busty chicks with off the wall humour and a wacky job are his type, who knows, could be a match made in heaven. I love a guy I can talk quantum theory and nano science with (seriously).

hmmm, is that all it takes to date you? Out with my geek/dork outfit! I'll brush up on my physics and Einstein's theories before our date

 

[petitelover]

or how about how much status he has?

Didn't know you were dating Hefner

 

[Petite Filet]

Even if you have everything money can buy, if you don't have someone compatible to share it with, you really have nothing.

I would rather be alone, than to have someone use me.

I would rather have someone use me physically than emotionally.

 

[petitelover]

I think he's smart for never getting married and is probably in a better position to retire now, more so than a lot of dudes out there. Lotsa nice girls in other countries who would love to meet a guy like him.

You know who the real losers are? Those that got married at 24, had 2 kids then got royally screwed over by the wives who took everything from them. They have to fight for visitation rights, hand over half of their take home pay (sometimes more) and then have to move in to some dinghy apartment to make ends meet.

If I was your friend, I'd be breathing a sigh of relief -sure dodged a bullet on that one!

Right or wrong he wants to get married and have a family life. He might live in fantasyland but that is his desire. Perhaps because he is older he might not run into those issues. On the other hand, divorce is prevalent at any age.