Fun thread! How do you guys feel about being "screened" before you can have a date?

[lynn_ha]

Fun thread! How do you guys feel about being "screened" before you can have a date?

Myself & all other SP's want to feel safe before we commit to arranging a date with you.
How do you guys feel about being "screened" before you can make contact?
Do you feel some Sp's ask a lot more information about you then you may be willing to give to her?
Do you feel like you're being ask way too much information about yourself which you must summit before you get her phone number?
How much information are you willing to give before you just say "no way" close her website & move on?
In your opinion Guys, what information are you willing to give & feel it ok?
In our opinion Ladies what is the minimum amount of information we need to feel comfortable?


It would be to our best interest to find a level of questions that both parties feel comfortable with.
Ok..................lets get some feedback, I'm sure we're all curious!

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[kstanb]

name, phone and asking for some references is good enough.

 

[explorerzip]

Basic info is fine: name, phone, and some other SP references. I draw the line when ladies ask for the companies I've worked for. It's a date, not a job interview. Sooner or later, I'm going to come across an SP's webiste that has a LinkedIn button on it so I can upload my profile to her.

 

[L8Guy]

Nice question, Lynn. I'm not sure if kstanb's answer is the best one, since references are questionable at best ..... the lady may have changed her name (as many do for good and bad reasons) and her number etc..

I would like to know what you mean (specifically) about being 'screened' ? Also, there are always 2 sides, what info can a gentleman get that would protect him as well? I think most guys would also like to feel safe as should the ladies. Not sure what info from a lady I have never seen before would make me feel safe about the encounter.

Personally, I will give my name and phone number (for a call back) .... and as you ask on your site, also age (I may just make my age a teeny bit lower LOL). Probably the safest for guys is to book time with a known and reputable lady (like yourself Lynn). Unless the lady is a known provider with a good reputation, I prefer speaking to her rather than texting, which I hate doing. I have backed out of a meeting after speaking with a lady who sounded either drunk or stoned or worse (I was never a no show, just told them on the phone I will call before coming if time works out for me).

Some guys may be in position to give more info when screened, but those with SO would not appreciate that and wouldn't for the confidentiality reason. Also, making arrangements via PM, either here or that other site you asked that question, could be problematic since from the reading I have done, it seems some unscrupulous guys (or should they be called assholes) may try and take advantage because of that.

I hope others respond, male and female, because it sounds like it could be interesting reading.

L8

 

[LeeHelm]

Phone number that is about it. I don't see enough ladies in the TO area to make references of value.

Too many fine looking ladies that ask nothing at all (except to be paid of course ).

 

[bazokajoe]

name, phone and asking for some references is good enough.

+1, but not full name.Any thing more than that she won't be getting an answer.

 

[whitewaterguy]

None of my references speak English , nor have they ever asked me my name,but if you contacted them and asked about the tall " very handsome man", I'm sure they would know who you are referring to

 

[buttercup]

Lynn, you should model your screening questions on what information you would be happy giving out about yourself.

If by "name" you mean "real name" -- you can ask for that if you're prepared to give out your own real name. Similarly for the other items.

Does screening actually work? If I'm an axe murderer, why wouldn't I give give you the name and number of my MP?

 

[BloweyJoey]

I don't understand references. 99% of the girls I see are from BP and high volume. They might remember my face but I doubt they are the kinds of girls who care enough to give a reference.

 

[HobbyHorse]

I can understand (remotely) why some girls might prefer references. I say "remotely" because they will never receive my business. Discretion is more important to me than the act of hobbying itself. My loss I am sure.

 

[GaryLi]

I do understand the need for references usually for Indys but I have yet to find someone Indy that I'd rather do than an agency girl. Also the booking in my experience for Indys is slower as many do the booking themselves. The ones who have a booker or assistant are usually more expensive than their agency counterparts.

Over time a provider may unexpectedly make enemies like pimps, stalkers or other psychos and they will have to screen or they might end up being robbed, beaten or even killed. I understand this but its just so much of a hassle that I'd rather just do agency. Maybe if I have a long, fond history with an agency girl that goes indy then yes I would jump through those hoops but if not then no ty.

 

[Pachi]

I have no problem with providing my name, phone number, and references. The amount of violence committed against sex workers is obviously exponentially higher than the amount of violence committed against customers, and as customers we have the assurance of seeing well-reviewed professionals who are definitely who they say they are, and not four guys hiding behind a hotel room door in hockey masks.

If I don't have references at the ready, or they can't be contacted, I don't mind giving my workplace info. But I think for most guys, references come quick and pile up fairly readily once the first get-together is negotiated. Ladies really are open to supporting each other like that, since it's in everyone's interests to assure each other's safety.

 

[CapitalGuy]

I can understand (remotely) why some girls might prefer references. I say "remotely" because they will never receive my business. Discretion is more important to me than the act of hobbying itself. My loss I am sure.

My sentiment as well. I understand the ladies' fear, but since I know I'm not a threat to them, my privacy is more important. I acknowledge that they don't know I'm not a threat, but there are other SPs who won't screen me, so those ones get my money. No hate though; you should do what makes you and your staff feel good about their jobs. I hope you find enough clients willing to provide personal information to you. I won't.

 

[HotFireRising]

I generally use agency girls. I assume they would never give out my personal info so references would be of no use. And I don't have their SP's personal numbers.
I agree many opinions here - first name and phone number only. At least until the government regulates (I mean legalizes) the industry and thereby removes the criminals from it.

 

[Aellyn Rose]

I have no problem with providing my name, phone number, and references. The amount of violence committed against sex workers is obviously exponentially higher than the amount of violence committed against customers, and as customers we have the assurance of seeing well-reviewed professionals who are definitely who they say they are, and not four guys hiding behind a hotel room door in hockey masks.

If I don't have references at the ready, or they can't be contacted, I don't mind giving my workplace info. But I think for most guys, references come quick and pile up fairly readily once the first get-together is negotiated. Ladies really are open to supporting each other like that, since it's in everyone's interests to assure each other's safety.

Thank you Pachi! How true.
I also like to think that a reputable lady would be professional enough to never divulge anything, as part of our job is to keep smiling while sitting on a pile of secrets

 

[Mr. Piggy]

First name and phone number only and I give my real name. After all, the ladies we book with don't give us their real names so why should we give any more info than that. If it's a lady on terb then she can search my handle for reviews of ladies I've seen.

 

[canman1]

First name, and phone number would be a requirement to actually meet. References may protect the escort, provided she actually checks them. Not all of them actually follow through, with it. But some, seem to require far too much personal data, in order to see a client. Saying their personal safety as a reason. In my opinion, they should provide the same data back, that they request. Since the client has no idea, of whether they are trustworthy, when seeing them for the first time. You can actually go out on a real date, providing less info, then some escorts seem to require. (lol) An Sp is a name, phone number, and any reviews that can be found. Other then that, we know nothing about her personal life. So our personal life should be off limits in the same manner.

 

[IRIS]

I think discretion is very important so I don't ask references. Especially after the C-36 just can't do it. I don't pick up unknown or public phone calls. I don't book through text or mail. I want to speak my clients before I see him. I believe his voice, his talking style, his questions, his answers tell me more than any other references. Otherwise I don't see any guarantee about this screening process. You never know what happen under the session. Just because someone was nice with an other girl it doesn't mean he will be nice with me. Unfortunately it's a little gambling but you have to take a little risk when you ask 250$ or 300$ an hour. If you afraid in this business, you can be Maria the dildo dipper where is no risk and make 12$ /hour. Sorry girls but it's my opinion and I'm not against anyone's practice. It's your business, your body and your decision how to screen your clients.

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[shack]

I read all the posts.

It sounds like a very fun thread.:rockon:

 

[GPIDEAL]

+1, but not full name.Any thing more than that she won't be getting an answer.

Not full name but eventually the regulars or the ones I trust, or those who are kind enough to be my guest at certain functions or dates, may know my full name. Some ladies insist on full names. Guess that's their prerogative but if I was married or a VIP, I'd want a non-disclosure agreement signed (real name please).