Fun thread! How do you guys feel about being "screened" before you can have a date?

[oftenrong69]

Excellent question.... I suspect that due to the nature of the business and the risks and legislation (c36) surrounding us many will selfishly guard our privacy. I guess that I am old fashioned but, I tend to rely on the contacts made before committing to a visit I.e. I like to exchange emails or texts to get sense of what kind of a person I am dealing with. One word responses tend to drop to the back of the line, any response to a question or joke gets a more favourable review.
So this is my personal screening process and I would suspect an SP could do the same to me.
I totally realise that many couldn't be bothered with a lot of text or email exchanges but then again, if that's the case it appears we have nothing in common that justifies the spending of my money and from the SP perspective wouldn't justify exposing herself to the risk she is taking.

 

[MissCroft]

The two men in my SP 'career' who caused me problems were men I knew for a long while and I trusted them. At one point, I even would have been happy to provide references for them to other providers. That would have been a mistake.

My point is that 'screening' or references would not have helped me. If someone wants to harm you they will likely gain your trust first. As a result, I don't even bother with references.


I have never been harmed by a man on our first date.

 

[huckfinn]

I have never been harmed by a man on our first date.

And not on following dates either I hope.....

 

[Boss Nass]

Lynn, and the other ladies, since it is YOU who are on the riskier side of what is an inherently risky profession, then YOU are the ones who get to decide how much info you want. You call the shots. Ask too much, and you get less business. Ask too little, and the risk is increased. It is up to you to find the happy medium. As for me, you can ask just about anything, and then I will decide if the risk of being outed is worth it. And for you, Lynn, (Yes, I have seen you before) I am willing to risk one hell of a lot!

Just don't get the rubber gloves out, I'm rather sensitive there.

 

[wigglee]

What? You wanna interview my wife or something? Pass.

 

[LickingGravity]

It quickly becomes not worth the hassle. I choose the high-end sp's by choice and have very rarely have been subjected to invasive checks (like 1 in 20). In these cases, rightly or wrongly, I quite often summarize that the lady has inflated opinion of herself and move on. I repeat a lot if I like the lady so that's another reason I don't come across this much. I suppose I can understand it if the lady doing it if she has been assaulted in the past by a John as long as she understand that it's off-putting to the client. I have heard of just as many cases of wacko sp's as abusive clients.

Really it shows bizarre this all is when you talk about screwing complete strangers and what both parties do to protect themselves.

 

[escortsxxx]

Yes I do not find it worth the hassle. I mean personal references/recommandations sure - but they why advertise. As a note some countries do its this way and thus have little tourist traffic.

 

[SinnamonFairbanks]

I think you both need to respect each other's privacy. I wouldn't ask someone for information I wouldn't be willing to give up myself. I have to keep in mind if I dig any deeper than that I am almost guaranteed to get an alias or some kid of bullshit life story so I try to keep it neutral and not ask too many questions. i basically need to know WHEN and WHERE and WHAT to bring. Anything else is optional.

 

[GPIDEAL]

I have no problem with providing my name, phone number, and references. The amount of violence committed against sex workers is obviously exponentially higher than the amount of violence committed against customers, and as customers we have the assurance of seeing well-reviewed professionals who are definitely who they say they are, and not four guys hiding behind a hotel room door in hockey masks.

If I don't have references at the ready, or they can't be contacted, I don't mind giving my workplace info. But I think for most guys, references come quick and pile up fairly readily once the first get-together is negotiated. Ladies really are open to supporting each other like that, since it's in everyone's interests to assure each other's safety.

A guy doesn't withhold his surname to avoid possible violence against him as a customer (unless his wife finds out perhaps).

A first name along with a handle does provide some insurance (handle = an identity audit trail for LE if the customer commits a crime against the SP). Also, not all cell phones are throw-aways.