First time...what ro look out for

[saundersc963]

Brand new to the forum, considering indulging with a provider in the near future but want to avoid running into issues so looking for any advice:

With an independent provider...
- How long is suitable for a first time visit for a first timer? I have asked a few directly and ot anywhere from 2 to 4 hours...4 seems excessive but no idea what the norm is
- Things to look for in their ad that would suggest they are fake.
- What is an appropriate way to understand boundaries when it's not stated in their ad or website and trying to avoid awkwardness
- How much to tip and when to tip
-
Any insight is greatly appreciated

 

[Ceiling Cat]

You just applied for a learners permit..................How about a few minutes around an empty parking lot for starters before you try for Formula1.

 

[LTO_3]

Since you're new to this you're best to start seeing SP's through reputable agencies. Tell them you're new to this and they should be able to direct you to SP's to help you through your first encounter. AVOID LL, they'll bleed you dry because you're an easy target!!
If you do see any independent SP, see someone well reviewed from this board. The time you book is up to you, not what they tell you. Best start with an hour and if you want/need more time you can always extend.
Tippping is up to you but NOT required. If you do tip do so at the end of the session.

LTO_3

 

[Sonic Temple]

Brand new to the forum, considering indulging with a provider in the near future but want to avoid running into issues so looking for any advice:

With an independent provider...
- How long is suitable for a first time visit for a first timer? I have asked a few directly and ot anywhere from 2 to 4 hours...4 seems excessive but no idea what the norm is
- Things to look for in their ad that would suggest they are fake.
- What is an appropriate way to understand boundaries when it's not stated in their ad or website and trying to avoid awkwardness
- How much to tip and when to tip
-
Any insight is greatly appreciated

Mate - @Coolsin000 has put together a brilliant guide - The Holy Bible, The Bhagavad Gita, The Quran, The Hadith, The Tafsir, The Tripitaka, The Mahayana Sutras, the Tanakh, The Talmud, The Tao Te Ching, The Zhuangzi, The Daozang. The Whatever you want to call it. Its fkn brilliant!

TERB GENERAL INFORMATION:
01) TERB Posting Guidelines
02) TERB Terminology

TORONTO AGENCIES, VERIFICATION ET CETERA:
03) Agency verification created by Forest
03a) Toronto non-Asian agency acronyms
04) List of Asian Agency in the GTA
05) Agency ladies or Indy ladies?, asked by joemama18
06) Booking Etiquette, created by buntyisbest
07) List of Twitter X Accounts & Agency Ladies's Twitter accounts


SELF CARE & HOW TO BE A GENTLEMEN IN THE WORLD OF HOBBYING?
08) Health and safety when hobbying, asked by Shhskwnd & Concern about STI/STD, asked by rtc188
09) The 13 Rules on How to be a Gentleman created by Johnny Slade.
10) How much we spend on this habit?, created by Neil1990
11) How to ask SPs' boundaries, asked by Yyzdxbadd
12) Booking an indy: Tips, tricks, dos and don'ts, created by LC18
13) How to be a good and bad client, created by LC18

DETERMINE YOUR SERVICE PREFERENCE?
13) What is the difference between GFE and PSE service level?, posted by CoolSin000
14) Rating scales for reviewers, posted by Lucas1991
15) SPs that allow Island Trip, created by Mr.Gr33k

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FIRST TIMER:

Virgin bisexual lady - Sweetsky1281
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/agency-girls-who-provide-service-to-females.826792/

Virgin guy - Blueduck91028
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/virgin-looking-to-pop-my-cherry.824990/
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/booking-with-gg-as-a-virgin.825057/
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/candy-gg-from-the-eyes-of-a-newly-graduated-virgin.825141/

Virgin guy - heng
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/recommendations-for-a-mid-20s-virgin.827322/

Virgin guy - asian_291
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/asian-nicole-the-wonderful-lady-who-took-my-virginity.818229/

Virgin guy - Visitor117
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/first-time-sp-recommendation.831067/

https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/mei-mei-tgf-a-virgins-review.832107/

Virgin SP guy - Fiennes
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/sweet-diana-hpl-a-review-20-years-in-the-making.831140/

Virgin guy - LoAndBehold22
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/independent-sp’s-that-see-virgins.832913/

Agency limit - Sisksnen
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/agency-age-limit.830578/

NOTE: I would highly recommend that you reach out or DM the virgin guys or lady about the potential struggles and fears for seeing a lady in waiting. Cause their personal experience is still very fresh - and they will be able to offer more comfort or share something that I can't.

Also, here is a list of posts that you should take the time to read about addiction to escorting, cause once you get in, it would be hard to get out of the matrix. Be warn.

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HOBBYING ADDICTION:
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/addiction-help.413738/
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/effects-of-hobbying.798562/
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/fell-in-love-lust-with-an-escort-young-sex-addict.731268/
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/how-to-stop.785696/
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/how-much-we-spend-on-this-habit.801825/
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/breaking-the-addiction-to-self-medication.823266/
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/did...ntic-partners-as-you-did-with-escorts.817320/
https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/does-seeing-an-escort-count-as-cheating.806612/

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TERB Best Agency ladies:
TERB Best Agency SP of the Year Award 2023
TERB Best Agency SP of the Year Award 2022
TERB Best Agency SP of the Year Award-2021
2020: No Poll because of COVID-19 pandemic
TERB Best Agency SP of the Year Award 2019
TERB Best Agency SP of the Year Award 2018
TERB Best Agency SP of the Year Award 2017

TERB Best Indies:
TERB Best Indies of the Year Award 2023
TERB Best Indies of the Year Award 2022
2021: No Poll because of COVID-19 pandemic
2020: No Poll because of COVID-19 pandemic
TERB Best Indies of the Year Award 2019
TERB Best Indies of the Year Award 2018
2017: No Poll available

 

[anon1]

just do it

 

[saundersc963]

Since you're new to this you're best to start seeing SP's through reputable agencies. Tell them you're new to this and they should be able to direct you to SP's to help you through your first encounter. AVOID LL, they'll bleed you dry because you're an easy target!!
If you do see any independent SP, see someone well reviewed from this board. The time you book is up to you, not what they tell you. Best start with an hour and if you want/need more time you can always extend.
Tippping is up to you but NOT required. If you do tip do so at the end of the session.

LTO_3

Really dumb question and I apologize in advance....avoid LL --> that stands for what exactly?

 

[Sonic Temple]

Really dumb question and I apologize in advance....avoid LL --> that stands for what exactly?

 

[saundersc963]

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I have heard enough not to go looking there....thanks for pointing that out

 

[saundersc963]

Since you're new to this you're best to start seeing SP's through reputable agencies. Tell them you're new to this and they should be able to direct you to SP's to help you through your first encounter. AVOID LL, they'll bleed you dry because you're an easy target!!
If you do see any independent SP, see someone well reviewed from this board. The time you book is up to you, not what they tell you. Best start with an hour and if you want/need more time you can always extend.
Tippping is up to you but NOT required. If you do tip do so at the end of the session.

LTO_3

I didn't think of agencies but it sounds like they would be good for a virgin based on your comment.
How long is ideal for a start - 90 mins? 4 hours seemed a lot like I'm in my 40's and that might kill me lol

 

[shack]

- How much to tip and when to tip

It is not a requirement unless you felt that they went above the call of duty. They set their own rates so one would think that would be sufficient for them..

Never, never, never tip beforehand. And in case I forgot to mention it, never tip at the beginning.

Do you tip a waiter/waitress before you see how good their service is?

 

[Jenesis]

Brand new to the forum, considering indulging with a provider in the near future but want to avoid running into issues so looking for any advice:

With an independent provider...
- How long is suitable for a first time visit for a first timer? I have asked a few directly and ot anywhere from 2 to 4 hours...4 seems excessive but no idea what the norm is
- Things to look for in their ad that would suggest they are fake.
- What is an appropriate way to understand boundaries when it's not stated in their ad or website and trying to avoid awkwardness
- How much to tip and when to tip
-
Any insight is greatly appreciated

Time wise / go an hour with the possibility of extending. Don’t do long dates on the first one. You just don’t know if you will like her. Unless you are wanting a dinner date type session for your first date.

I wouldn’t book anyone who has not been reviewed her first and reviewed extensively. You want your first experience to be with a top-notch provider. It will help you to know what you SHOULD expect so when you dont get it in the future - you know you are not being treated right and can act accordingly. So wait to know what to look for in ads, you are not ready for that yet.

You should be able to ask politely.

“if I May inquiry and taking into account being a gentleman and proper hygiene, I personally like and would hope to have some DFK, BBBJ, DATY (add your list here), I checked your websites and reviews and didn’t find the answer. Would this be ok? Sorry if you don’t like the question, I just want to be sure. Thanks”

We don’t need tips. I know women will be pissed at me for saying this but we just don’t. So if you WANT to tip because YOU want to - then tip what YOU want. Don’t go over $100. Even $50. Depending on date time. Could be $20. I have been happy with that.

Good luck!!

 

[IM469]

Mate - @Coolsin000 has put together a brilliant guide - The Holy Bible, The Bhagavad Gita, The Quran, The Hadith, The Tafsir, The Tripitaka, The Mahayana Sutras, the Tanakh, The Talmud, The Tao Te Ching, The Zhuangzi, The Daozang. The Whatever you want to call it. Its fkn brilliant!

TERB GENERAL INFORMATION:
01) TERB Posting Guidelines
02) TERB Terminology

TORONTO AGENCIES, VERIFICATION ET CETERA:
03) Agency verification created by Forest
03a) Toronto non-Asian agency acronyms
04) List of Asian Agency in the GTA
05) Agency ladies or Indy ladies?, asked by joemama18
06) Booking Etiquette, created by buntyisbest
07) List of Twitter X Accounts & Agency Ladies's Twitter accounts

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TERB Best Indies:
TERB Best Indies of the Year Award 2023
TERB Best Indies of the Year Award 2022
2021: No Poll because of COVID-19 pandemic
2020: No Poll because of COVID-19 pandemic
TERB Best Indies of the Year Award 2019
TERB Best Indies of the Year Award 2018
2017: No Poll available

you are the ChatGTP of sex ! Amazing.

saundersc963, have you had sex before ? This is an anonymous board - feel free to answer. I am curious because there could be two sources of fear - etiquette and/or your own performance issues.

If you are nervous about the service provider, I strongly suggest you you go for a massage first to get use to an attendant sexually touching you. You just have to lay on the table (usually starting face down) and follow instructions. The only slight difference is your tip is her fee so you can expect $40+ for a happy ending. If you ask for any extras, she will provide you with you tip guide.

If this is your first time, I agree with the above advice - use an agency first. When you use an independent, use your Terb membership to the fullest and check the reviews. When booking, negotiate the time and services before you book.

It's a job - you are not special - so don't fall in love.

 

[saundersc963]

A lot of guys will say you should only book 30 minutes to start, to see if there is any chemistry between you and the SP, but I personally book an hour. Plenty of time to ease into the session and if you're up for it, plenty of time for two shots. But, as was already said, book however long you feel comfortable with. Also, when you have checked out the agency sites and picked a few ladies that look good to you, come back here and search for reviews on them. It will give you an idea on what to expect. Not all ladies provide the same services so you may want to consider what you are looking to get out of your session.

For example, not all of the ladies enjoy/engage in any kissing, some don't allow daty/dato, then there is bbbj vs. cbj, etc. Oh, acronyms. daty = cunnilingus, dato = analingus? is that a word?, bbbj = bare back blow job and cbj = clean blow job. If you look around I believe there is a post with all the typical ones listed and explained.

Have fun and be safe out there. I definitely recommend that you read the posts that sonic temple linked as they will help you avoid a lot of the common mistakes that can be made at the beginning of this journey.

I'm still going through them as there is a lot of great info in those threads. I have wondered about chemistry with the SP and if it's not there how that might sour the experience. I'm in my 40's and two shots is probably beyond me at my age although the drive is there for sure lol. All great advice though thanks!

 

[saundersc963]

It is not a requirement unless you felt that they went above the call of duty. They set their own rates so one would think that would be sufficient for them..

Never, never, never tip beforehand. And in case I forgot to mention it, never tip at the beginning.

Do you tip a waiter/waitress before you see how good their service is?

Very true but again just asking so I either don't look dumb or spend way more than I need to right?

 

[saundersc963]

Time wise / go an hour with the possibility of extending. Don’t do long dates on the first one. You just don’t know if you will like her. Unless you are wanting a dinner date type session for your first date.

I wouldn’t book anyone who has not been reviewed her first and reviewed extensively. You want your first experience to be with a top-notch provider. It will help you to know what you SHOULD expect so when you dont get it in the future - you know you are not being treated right and can act accordingly. So wait to know what to look for in ads, you are not ready for that yet.

You should be able to ask politely.

“if I May inquiry and taking into account being a gentleman and proper hygiene, I personally like and would hope to have some DFK, BBBJ, DATY (add your list here), I checked your websites and reviews and didn’t find the answer. Would this be ok? Sorry if you don’t like the question, I just want to be sure. Thanks”

We don’t need tips. I know women will be pissed at me for saying this but we just don’t. So if you WANT to tip because YOU want to - then tip what YOU want. Don’t go over $100. Even $50. Depending on date time. Could be $20. I have been happy with that.

Good luck!!

Wow first off I did not think I'd get a provider responding but thank you Jenesis! Your insight is beyond appreciated!!!!! Thank you for taking the time to help out a virgin

 

[Kusa]

Time wise / go an hour with the possibility of extending. Don’t do long dates on the first one. You just don’t know if you will like her. Unless you are wanting a dinner date type session for your first date.

I wouldn’t book anyone who has not been reviewed her first and reviewed extensively. You want your first experience to be with a top-notch provider. It will help you to know what you SHOULD expect so when you dont get it in the future - you know you are not being treated right and can act accordingly. So wait to know what to look for in ads, you are not ready for that yet.

You should be able to ask politely.

“if I May inquiry and taking into account being a gentleman and proper hygiene, I personally like and would hope to have some DFK, BBBJ, DATY (add your list here), I checked your websites and reviews and didn’t find the answer. Would this be ok? Sorry if you don’t like the question, I just want to be sure. Thanks”

We don’t need tips. I know women will be pissed at me for saying this but we just don’t. So if you WANT to tip because YOU want to - then tip what YOU want. Don’t go over $100. Even $50. Depending on date time. Could be $20. I have been happy with that.

Good luck!!

" We don’t need tips. I know women will be pissed at me for saying this but we just don’t. So if you WANT to tip because YOU want to - then tip what YOU want. Don’t go over $100. Even $50. Depending on date time. Could be $20. I have been happy with that".

Be caref not to be labeled as a self-hating SP!

 

[Josephine]

Brand new to the forum, considering indulging with a provider in the near future but want to avoid running into issues so looking for any advice:

With an independent provider...
- How long is suitable for a first time visit for a first timer? I have asked a few directly and ot anywhere from 2 to 4 hours...4 seems excessive but no idea what the norm is (90 min to 2hr in my opinion. You will probably have a little chat before and establishe boundaries)
- Things to look for in their ad that would suggest they are fake. (if you are new, don't go into unexplored territory. Stick to well reviewed provider until you know the ropes)
- What is an appropriate way to understand boundaries when it's not stated in their ad or website and trying to avoid awkwardness (you can explain what kind of session you are looking for without being too explicit in your intro. She will weed you out herself. Also you can ask her in the same email what her restrictions are. BUT keep in mind that everything depends on your hygiene and chemistry. Money doesn't negate conscent)
- How much to tip and when to tip (tip if you are happy. At the end. If you tip at the beginning, she might think you are trying to bribe her into getting a better service than she would normally give and you might also be disappointed. Let her impress you. )
Any insight is greatly appreciated

 

[Jenesis]

" We don’t need tips. I know women will be pissed at me for saying this but we just don’t. So if you WANT to tip because YOU want to - then tip what YOU want. Don’t go over $100. Even $50. Depending on date time. Could be $20. I have been happy with that".

Be caref not to be labeled as a self-hating SP!

Meh. Let people think what they want. We all the honest truth.

Josephine’s comment about tips is a great one though too. Tip at the end if you are going to tip.

 

[saundersc963]

That is amazing, I'm definitely going to use that wording in communication. Not knowing how to ask without assuming seems to be a sensitive topic for some but clarity and boundaries are key I have figured out to avoid awkwardness or ruining the moment. Thank you

 

[saundersc963]

Meh. Let people think what they want. We all the honest truth.

Josephine’s comment about tips is a great one though too. Tip at the end if you are going to tip.

What about gifts? Same deal, not expected but nice to get?