Ex girlfriend is hitting me up for money

[superstar_88]

Many women already see being a girlfriend as being a means to an end.
For financial reasons more than anything.
so I guess once they are somebody's girlfriend, they already have"job" once the material things keep flowing.
What OP is going through is one reason carnal relationships never last, because it's fully conditional upon something or many things that are equally carnal or material in nature.
One might feel it has to do with the heart, and it may for one of them and seldom two.
It's definitely about what each wants and can get from the other though.
When it's not, love,kindness or respect and support, it ultimately is of a material nature.

This man knows what he is talking about.

 

[superstar_88]

I seem to be the only one who has mentioned this, but.....

She asked you for 2 grand in a text message?

Seriously?

Call me old fashioned, but if you need to ask someone for a favour, you do it face to face. Not by email, not by text, not even by phone. Text would the most offensive way in my opinion.

Personally, I would not even bother to respond. She dumped your ass and now she wants money? That's funny.

She's probably sent more texts as well. Perhaps that's her business. Scam unsuspecting men of their money.

 

[superstar_88]

lol You already know the answer. She breaks things off, later finds herself in desperate financial straits, asks you for money, you are hesitant so she starts throwing herself at you and alternatively deflecting blame at you. I'd be on the other side of the country by now. If you're making less than $100K a year, this is an extremely dangerous proposition for you to acquiesce to, even for pussy. If you make much more than that, it's less dangerous, but still a toxic relationship.

I also find it hilarious that a former acquaintance of mine, who is also on a student visa, was requesting $1,500 from me just a couple weeks ago. Coincidence? Your lady wouldn't happen to be from Europe, would she?
Needless to say I didn't even respond to her text; we haven't spoken in months.

Probably same person

 

[spraggamuffin]

This man knows what he is talking about.

Lol. Appreciate the props.

 

[desert monk]

*UPDATE*

Okay, this was an interesting thread so I thought I would post an update.

I did end up seeing the woman again very briefly after I started this thread (as in for a few days). We immediately were in bed together again (of course), but I knew in my gut it was not a good idea. After a few days, she requested the money through text... and I merely said that I was uncomfortable with the idea of simply giving her $2000. She went ballistic!

I received no less than 20 angry texts in quick succession that accused me of being cheap and stingy for not giving her the money, that I am basically a shitty person with too much baggage who will never find anyone, have a nice life you stingy piece of shit, etc. Venomous, hurtful stuff. I was so stunned that I didn't have time to collect my thoughts and respond before I received more angry, nasty texts. I blocked her number, haven't talked to her since. Everyone in my life (friends and family, you guys) all told me to get rid of her and stay the fuck away, and I still felt like I was the bad guy for not giving her the money because I had it. I know, you all think I'm stupid and crazy, this is what my friends/family said.

What's crazy is how I felt like a chump after this ordeal, even though I did what I believe (and everyone has told me) was the best long term choice. Women have a way of emotionally manipulating you, and the white knight/beta cuck in me wanted to swoop in and save her from the consequences of her bad choices. I appreciate the replies in this thread, I should really print them out and read them on a daily basis.

 

[rafterman]

Few years ago met a lady who was massage to escort. Saw her quite a few times, at least a dozen, over a year or more. Lent her $1500 and shortly thereafter she met a guy and was no longer an escort. She did acknowledge the debt and commit to repay it but I forgave it on the spot. I doubt I would have ever seen dime one and I felt better bringing closure to it right there than any other alternative.

 

[Polaris]

*UPDATE*

Okay, this was an interesting thread so I thought I would post an update.

You should have given her the money, if you are rich, then you should have given her some chump change.

After that, just walk away.

That is the most important point. Just walk away.

:decision:

 

[Robert Mugabe]

*UPDATE*

Okay, this was an interesting thread so I thought I would post an update.

After a few days, she requested the money through text... and I merely said that I was uncomfortable with the idea of simply giving her $2000. She went ballistic!

Thanks for the update. I always thought it would end well. Here's the thing. After all this time she is still gunning for the same $2000 ?What has she been doing for the last two months?

 

[james t kirk]

*UPDATE*

Okay, this was an interesting thread so I thought I would post an update.

I did end up seeing the woman again very briefly after I started this thread (as in for a few days). We immediately were in bed together again (of course), but I knew in my gut it was not a good idea. After a few days, she requested the money through text... and I merely said that I was uncomfortable with the idea of simply giving her $2000. She went ballistic!

I received no less than 20 angry texts in quick succession that accused me of being cheap and stingy for not giving her the money, that I am basically a shitty person with too much baggage who will never find anyone, have a nice life you stingy piece of shit, etc. Venomous, hurtful stuff. I was so stunned that I didn't have time to collect my thoughts and respond before I received more angry, nasty texts. I blocked her number, haven't talked to her since. Everyone in my life (friends and family, you guys) all told me to get rid of her and stay the fuck away, and I still felt like I was the bad guy for not giving her the money because I had it. I know, you all think I'm stupid and crazy, this is what my friends/family said.

What's crazy is how I felt like a chump after this ordeal, even though I did what I believe (and everyone has told me) was the best long term choice. Women have a way of emotionally manipulating you, and the white knight/beta cuck in me wanted to swoop in and save her from the consequences of her bad choices. I appreciate the replies in this thread, I should really print them out and read them on a daily basis.

Look at the bright side, you're up 2 grand.

Tell her that if she really needs the dough to get into the sex industry.

 

[Insidious Von]

desert monk don't be a Billy Joel, heed the words of The Electric Chairs: "If you don't want to ride my meat wagon, get off my bread line".

I get asked for loans all the time, my answer is always the same.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qLnckCDTqQI

 

[Butler1000]

*UPDATE*

Okay, this was an interesting thread so I thought I would post an update.

I did end up seeing the woman again very briefly after I started this thread (as in for a few days). We immediately were in bed together again (of course), but I knew in my gut it was not a good idea. After a few days, she requested the money through text... and I merely said that I was uncomfortable with the idea of simply giving her $2000. She went ballistic!

I received no less than 20 angry texts in quick succession that accused me of being cheap and stingy for not giving her the money, that I am basically a shitty person with too much baggage who will never find anyone, have a nice life you stingy piece of shit, etc. Venomous, hurtful stuff. I was so stunned that I didn't have time to collect my thoughts and respond before I received more angry, nasty texts. I blocked her number, haven't talked to her since. Everyone in my life (friends and family, you guys) all told me to get rid of her and stay the fuck away, and I still felt like I was the bad guy for not giving her the money because I had it. I know, you all think I'm stupid and crazy, this is what my friends/family said.

What's crazy is how I felt like a chump after this ordeal, even though I did what I believe (and everyone has told me) was the best long term choice. Women have a way of emotionally manipulating you, and the white knight/beta cuck in me wanted to swoop in and save her from the consequences of her bad choices. I appreciate the replies in this thread, I should really print them out and read them on a daily basis.

Ordeal? Man you must be leading a charmed life. Seriously. You did not go through an ordeal. Some chick banged and tried to get money out of you. You refused.

And it was by text.

That is not an ordeal. Being the victim of a robbery is. Recovering from an accident is. Seeing a family member die is.

Grow a pair.

 

[shack]

desert monk don't be a Billy Joel, heed the words of The Electric Chairs: "If you don't want to ride my meat wagon, get off my bread line".

I get asked for loans all the time, my answer is always the same.

Just tell me how much.

 

[Insidious Von]

Just tell me how much.

I learned the hard way, in my younger daze, that friendship/relationship and money are separate entities. I have a good friend who's also a degenerate gambler. He asks me for money to pay his debts. I tell him, Mumford I'm the last person you want to owe money to. If you don't pay up you'll be wearing a dress and dancing until you do. Old sam Kinison line.

 

[malata]

*UPDATE*


I did end up seeing the woman again very briefly after I started this thread (as in for a few days). We immediately were in bed together again (of course)...

your review sucks

 

[superstar_88]

You should have given her the money, if you are rich, then you should have given her some chump change.

After that, just walk away.

That is the most important point. Just walk away.

:decision:

Why give her any money. Even if rich. Is she entitled? Let her get it off the next unsuspecting sap. But I am sure she already is. You dodged a bullet. Count yourself lucky. Now don't turn back.

 

[Insidious Von]

...From the late 70's...how times have changed.

 

[wonkyknee]

how about the angle that someone who is short $2000 just as the school term is starting, is not very organized, not good at prioritizing, not good at planning, and of course, probably not going to make the most of her school studies. I used to rent out an apartment for $1200/month. A cheque bounces, I and I go see the tenant. they tell me they are short this month. I say, ok? how much do you have. answer: NOTHING. Thats' reall bad planning.

 

[icespot]

*UPDATE*

Okay, this was an interesting thread so I thought I would post an update.

I did end up seeing the woman again very briefly after I started this thread (as in for a few days). We immediately were in bed together again (of course), but I knew in my gut it was not a good idea. After a few days, she requested the money through text... and I merely said that I was uncomfortable with the idea of simply giving her $2000. She went ballistic!

I received no less than 20 angry texts in quick succession that accused me of being cheap and stingy for not giving her the money, that I am basically a shitty person with too much baggage who will never find anyone, have a nice life you stingy piece of shit, etc. Venomous, hurtful stuff. I was so stunned that I didn't have time to collect my thoughts and respond before I received more angry, nasty texts. I blocked her number, haven't talked to her since. Everyone in my life (friends and family, you guys) all told me to get rid of her and stay the fuck away, and I still felt like I was the bad guy for not giving her the money because I had it. I know, you all think I'm stupid and crazy, this is what my friends/family said.

What's crazy is how I felt like a chump after this ordeal, even though I did what I believe (and everyone has told me) was the best long term choice. Women have a way of emotionally manipulating you, and the white knight/beta cuck in me wanted to swoop in and save her from the consequences of her bad choices. I appreciate the replies in this thread, I should really print them out and read them on a daily basis.

Welcome to the club, you just dated your first BPD...

Not all women are like her only a small percentage of population, so please see her for what she was, and don't throw others in same pile.

Also, as I learned a long time ago I was a savior because it was easier to help others, than do the work I needto do to fix my life.

You know the saying "ifyou dowhat is easy your life will be hard, if you do what is hard your life will be easy".

Here is a great site

www.shrink4men.com