Ex girlfriend is hitting me up for money
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You already know the answer, so it's up to you to make the decision. You already what most of us think you should do. If you've broken up that many times it should be a warning sign, but it sounds you've already surrendered your dignity so good luck.Okay, technically if I wanted to I could afford to give her $2000 in the sense that I have that in savings, but I am just a slightly above average wage-cuck who toils with his hands by the hour to make $.
UPDATE: I talked to her, and She wants to get back together, claims that she didn’t actually “break up” with me, and that I was just using that as an excuse to get out of the relationship. She is now throwing the pussy at me again, trying to get back togethet for a 3rd or 4th time. Is this typical behaviour for toxic women? I’m sure the answer is yes.
You are only the 4th or 5th person to say this.Sigh..
How about this for a better advice.
Blow 2k on SPs and ignore the ex.
You aren't married and fuck's sakes, 3 or 4th time to get back together? RUN. Just screams she is the most unstable person......
That means no you can't afford to just loose the money.Okay, technically if I wanted to I could afford to give her $2000 in the sense that I have that in savings, but I am just a slightly above average wage-cuck who toils with his hands by the hour to make $.
As others have said she is trying to use you. You are better and deserve better than this.
Some women are hot/cold. If you want to get back, go ahead, but beware the obvious - it's a ploy for her to get the money. Also beware the toxicity is an indication for how this relationship can go down the road and things like marriage/kids are possibly bad ideas. How many people have problems, decide to have a kid, and realize they still have problems but now a kid is in the middle too.Okay, technically if I wanted to I could afford to give her $2000 in the sense that I have that in savings, but I am just a slightly above average wage-cuck who toils with his hands by the hour to make $.
UPDATE: I talked to her, and She wants to get back together, claims that she didn’t actually “break up” with me, and that I was just using that as an excuse to get out of the relationship. She is now throwing the pussy at me again, trying to get back togethet for a 3rd or 4th time. Is this typical behaviour for toxic women? I’m sure the answer is yes.
lol You already know the answer. She breaks things off, later finds herself in desperate financial straits, asks you for money, you are hesitant so she starts throwing herself at you and alternatively deflecting blame at you. I'd be on the other side of the country by now. If you're making less than $100K a year, this is an extremely dangerous proposition for you to acquiesce to, even for pussy. If you make much more than that, it's less dangerous, but still a toxic relationship.Okay, technically if I wanted to I could afford to give her $2000 in the sense that I have that in savings, but I am just a slightly above average wage-cuck who toils with his hands by the hour to make $.
UPDATE: I talked to her, and She wants to get back together, claims that she didn’t actually “break up” with me, and that I was just using that as an excuse to get out of the relationship. She is now throwing the pussy at me again, trying to get back togethet for a 3rd or 4th time. Is this typical behaviour for toxic women? I’m sure the answer is yes.
I also find it hilarious that a former acquaintance of mine, who is also on a student visa, was requesting $1,500 from me just a couple weeks ago. Coincidence? Your lady wouldn't happen to be from Europe, would she?
Needless to say I didn't even respond to her text; we haven't spoken in months.
I dont' think that small claims courts handle this kind of stuff. There is no time limit to personal loans or IOU's. Same as if you lend your neighbour you lawn mower and he never brings it back; there is no time limit to lending.No it's not stupid, but there are some things to consider:
Get it witnessed (at least two witnesses). Unfortunately in Canada Notarization is an expensive process otherwise I'd recommend that.
Even if you go to small claims court the process may drag on for years and you may never see the money.
She may flee Canada
Bottom line as I've already posted if you can't afford to loose the money, don't loan or give her the money.
That being said, the court process is pretty swift once it takes place. The problem is collecting. The court does not enforce this kind of judgement. You can send a bailiff to seize the value of the judgement, but the minimum cost is $2000. So that wipes out what you would be seeking back.
it's not "if", it's "when" she doesn't pay, because she will never pay. And what a joy it would be to waste time and nerves on suing a judgment proof bitch and then try to collect blood from stone...Truly, what an insane proposition, dude, give your head a shake.Just lend her the money and write a contract with interest if the money isn't paid back after a certain time.
You can download templates online.
If she doesn't pay then take her to small claims court.
What I'm wondering is, when she broke up with you, was it amiable, or did she slam the door and told you to fuck off.
People may break relationships, but could still consider themselves friends.
In case of the latter, I would consider GIVING her the money if you remained friends, and also consedering that living with a person for a while, you usually retain some sort of a bond. Sending her $2000 in exchange for 'services' would not be a gentlemanly thing to do: it's exploitation.
But if she slammed the door in your face and told you you were some sort of a creep only to grovel back only because she needed the cash, just walk away as it's not worth hanging around such a person. Such a person would just want to exploit you... not a lady like attribute.
People may break relationships, but could still consider themselves friends.
In case of the latter, I would consider GIVING her the money if you remained friends, and also consedering that living with a person for a while, you usually retain some sort of a bond. Sending her $2000 in exchange for 'services' would not be a gentlemanly thing to do: it's exploitation.
But if she slammed the door in your face and told you you were some sort of a creep only to grovel back only because she needed the cash, just walk away as it's not worth hanging around such a person. Such a person would just want to exploit you... not a lady like attribute.
Never loan money unless it's a close friend or family member and you know they will pay back. You never actually know, but you know what I mean..... if it's like a 99% probability feeling.
Acquaintances, distant relatives, etc..... forget it. Unless you truly don't care about getting the money back, then by all means give it away.
If they need money, they can go take out a loan from the bank or take out some line of credit money at 4% interest. Every bank will give it. I remember getting some in my 20s and I had barely anything.
Don't bother with any contract or court documents. Two people making a contract over a personal loan for a few thousand dollars is a laughable waste of time.
Put it this way when it comes to people paying back...... every year I do a bunch of sports pools..... $20, $50 etc..... And every time there's always a complete deadbeat or two who just disappears. Or the guy is such an ass he doesn't pay until next season starts so he's always a year behind.
So if some people won't even honour $20 or $50, do you really think they will honour $2,000?
Acquaintances, distant relatives, etc..... forget it. Unless you truly don't care about getting the money back, then by all means give it away.
If they need money, they can go take out a loan from the bank or take out some line of credit money at 4% interest. Every bank will give it. I remember getting some in my 20s and I had barely anything.
Don't bother with any contract or court documents. Two people making a contract over a personal loan for a few thousand dollars is a laughable waste of time.
Put it this way when it comes to people paying back...... every year I do a bunch of sports pools..... $20, $50 etc..... And every time there's always a complete deadbeat or two who just disappears. Or the guy is such an ass he doesn't pay until next season starts so he's always a year behind.
So if some people won't even honour $20 or $50, do you really think they will honour $2,000?
Key word is in the title: ex-girlfriend. No matter what happens going forward, this money request will always be there.So my girlfriend broke up with me right before Christmas (after we had gotten back together), saying I don’t treat her right, was abandoning her over Xmas, etc. I just stop talking to her and leave it be.
Then last night she sends me a text at 10pm saying she is in desperate need of financial assistance, and requires $2000 to pay for tuition at the end of the month, and I am the only person she can ask as she has no family here (she is on a temporary visa in Canada).
It should be obvious for me what to do, but the prospect of pussy seems to cause my brain to stop working. Help me out TERBites, how should I handle this situation?
If you are going to “lend” her the money (and let’s be serious - you will never see it again) lend it to her in installments: Eg - $200 - $300 at a time. The month is young, so there’s time.
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Indeed, I entirely agree as to your larger point -- the lender will never see the money again.There is no time limit to personal loans or IOU's. . .
That said, I find it difficult to believe that the law in Ontario has such a large loophole that a personal loan contract in the proper legal form, witnessed, and providing dates and terms for the repayment of the loan, cannot be enforced.
Now even as you wrote it will likely cost as much if not more to enforce the contract as the lender is owed, but that is a different aspect of this.
Yep, that's what I was thinking. Even with a contract with firm terms of repayment, you're likely never going to see that money again. It's ridiculous how our small claims court works. What's the point if it has no teeth?it's not "if", it's "when" she doesn't pay, because she will never pay. And what a joy it would be to waste time and nerves on suing a judgment proof bitch and then try to collect blood from stone...Truly, what an insane proposition, dude, give your head a shake.
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it works fine if the debtor has a house or a stable job. We have no debtor jails. And honestly I as a taxpayer would not want to pay to keep that woman in jail because someone was dumb enough to lend her money and then vindictive enough to sue her.Yep, that's what I was thinking. Even with a contract with firm terms of repayment, you'd likely never going to see that money again. It's ridiculous how our small claims court works. What's the point if it has no teeth?
Sempel is a SUPER TROLL I called him FUJI'esque but he is actually worse than FUJI. Sempel argues with every member on the board and responds directly to every single person just like FUJI but he also attempts to hijack every thread he sticks his head into and takes it off topic and tries to make it about himself rather than the topic.If you decide to you take someone to court, it's time and lost wages off your back too. You would be taking time off work and the end result is not guaranteed. Few of us could afford to part with $2000 in the first place. If the OP could afford the $2000 and potentially time in court to get the money back, he wouldn't have started the thread.
The OP's relationship has already ended so there's definitely no sex. He also said that he wants to stop talking to her and leave it be. The OP's experience has nothing to do with:
1. Exploiting a desperate person in exchange for sex. The ex seems to be desperate right now, but money has not changed hands and as far as we know is not an escort.
2. Whether or not the ladies you've been with seemed desperate or have no choice but to be in this industry.
3. Why those ladies choose to be in this industry.
The above statements are your usual routine of justifying your involvement in this industry. I would certainly hope you are a good client and not causing women to be be exploited in this industry, but these points have nothing to do with this thread. Yet you complain the loudest of anyone on this board when others take threads off-topic.
Like you always say: it's a public forum so I'm free to politely disagree with you.
True, but other than that he's ok.Sempel is a SUPER TROLL I called him FUJI'esque but he is actually worse than FUJI. Sempel argues with every member on the board and responds directly to every single person just like FUJI but he also attempts to hijack every thread he sticks his head into and takes it off topic and tries to make it about himself rather than the topic.
Lol! I think someone needs to tell doggystyle that I'm flattered that he's interested but sorry I don't swing that way. He's got a hard on for me or something as he literally copies the line "super troll" thread after thread. At least I'm unique in my commentary.True, but other than that he's ok.
I don't think Sempel has a life.Sempel is a SUPER TROLL I called him FUJI'esque but he is actually worse than FUJI. Sempel argues with every member on the board and responds directly to every single person just like FUJI but he also attempts to hijack every thread he sticks his head into and takes it off topic and tries to make it about himself rather than the topic.
