Don't Get Married!!!

[jeff2]

My first marriage.
I married a very attractive Sicilian. If you want an idea, check out Milani at secrets. They could almost be sisters.

Loved her, loved her mother, family, how tight knit they were. Years later, we divorced. Not friendly, but amicably. We are after all adults, and we both said “ I do”. I still love Nona, miss her quite a bit. It wasn’t until I was really grown up, and I started reflecting on things, looking inwards. That I truly discovered myself, understood myself. The way I think, my motivations for doing this or that, for not doing this or that. My likes, my dislikes, my wants and needs out of life. Getting a call from a Doctor the first week of January to be told there’s cancerous bomb in my head. Coming home from work in February, to the proverbial “Dear John, empty home letter”. Waiting a few more months, for the surgery to remove it. All while not knowing if I’d see my girls the next Christmas. Having bankers, lawyers, rape me. Splitting up, all the things I’d worked so hard to achieve over a life. The big house, the white picket fence, the things that decorated the house, the things we had bought, the things we thought were important….

Nothing like.
Losing more than half your net worth, all told about 70-80%….your kids, your things, and almost your life, in the span of a couple months. To figure out what’s important, and what’s not…

My second.
Coming out of my divorce a couple years later I knew who I was. I knew what I wanted out of life. A few false starts with a few. I watched many friends, men and women alike mistake lust for love. I watched men chase pussy like they were teens again, bitching about gold diggers. I watched my divorced female friends chasing cock, bitching about unfaithful men. I watched both cry

“why are there no good ones left”.

Me, I worked on me. Spent the time to figure out who I was. When we met, neither of us were looking for it. We spent the next 6 months dating. Getting to know each other, becoming the best of friends, before we got physical. The old school way. All our friends envied us, can’t understand why……As for my friends that tried to find it, but could never understand why each relationship crashed and burned……

How can anyone, anyone. Know who and what is right for you. If you don’t know yourself first.. Generally, with a broad brush stroke. Most men I know don’t work on themselves, and don’t or aren’t all that self aware.

And with respect..divorces, separations, and common law break ups, . about 60-70% of them grow apart, fall apart and will go through it.

I wonder why…

So the first one split just when you needed her most?

 

[Not getting younger]

So the first one split just when you needed her most?

basically yeah. Partly my fault. I’m the type, I don’t want those close to me, to stress worry. So while she knew. She didn’t know everything. When she’s asked to be there when I came out of surgery I said two words. Fuck you.

She’s still with her former boss. Honestly, good for her, everyone is allowed to be happy. That doesn’t mean I’ve said two words to her in many years. Her mother on the other hand, we see each other about once a year.

 

[Darts]

This is so sad.

Break-ups are so common. My former next door neighbours were a lesbian couple. The older woman paid for everything, including the lease costs on the car. The younger one did nothing. Didn't even bring in the garbage bins after the pick-up. She had no money because she had no job and was an immigrant (nothing wrong with that) who came here with nothing.

Long story short. The younger woman got half the proceeds from the sale of the house (probably around $400,000 at the time) after the break-up.

 

[Not getting younger]

This is so sad.

Break-ups are so common. My former next door neighbours were a lesbian couple. The older woman paid for everything, including the lease costs on the car. The younger one did nothing. Didn't even bring in the garbage bins after the pick-up. She had no money because she had no job and was an immigrant (nothing wrong with that) who came here with nothing.

Long story short. The younger woman got half the proceeds from the sale of the house (probably around $400,000 at the time) after the break-up.

Some advice I gave my children. And it’s advice my lawyer gave to me.

We plan everything in life. What education, what fields, who/what/when to marry. What house, with white picket fences and where…Children, how to raise them. Death and taxes. No one plans to go through divorce, common law break ups. Reality is, 6 or 7 out of 10 people will….

also statistically most/more 2nds fail. And not “exaggerating” when I said I watched a lot of divorced people. Many I consider friends…acts like teens again, and then blame each other for this or that when it falls apart after months/couple years…

I guess the question is. Do you know who/what is right for you.

 

[jeff2]

Canada is now forced to import couples from countries that have arranged marriages to take up the slack and deficiencies in the Canadian workforce, and to counter Canadians having less marriages, higher divorce rates and accelerations in the already falling birth rate. There will be a large baby boom in Canada in the next 5- 10 years from couples from India and soon to be married students from India in arranged marriages.

“Don’t get married “ has a macro effect on the economy in many ways.

For example as the boomers fade out, cottages prices are really starting to see deflation in their prices.

Interesting thought about the cottage prices. I bet the Indian baby boom will die out for the second generation as those women will not need men.
Then the ponzi scheme will have to be ramped up again. But who knows, maybe by then even women in India will not need men.
Solo life and dying via MAID seems destined to be the future. Quebec seems to taking the lead with MAID as they did with the large amount of civil unions(I guess you would call it common law marriage outside Quebec). I think the Pope talked about this "culture of death".

Quebec becomes world's euthanasia hotspot: 7% of deaths are fatal jabs

Quebec's euthanasia rate is far higher than Canada's other provinces and even such countries as Belgium and the Netherlands, which have much older euthanasia laws.

www.dailymail.co.uk

 

[Butler1000]

DeSantis signed a bill to eliminate permanent alimony in Florida. What you need to know

It took nearly ten years and four tries, but permanent alimony will end in Florida. Other forms of alimony also have changed. Here's what it means.

www.jacksonville.com

Things are starting to change.

 

[bazokajoe]

basically yeah. Partly my fault. I’m the type, I don’t want those close to me, to stress worry. So while she knew. She didn’t know everything. When she’s asked to be there when I came out of surgery I said two words. Fuck you.

She’s still with her former boss. Honestly, good for her, everyone is allowed to be happy. That doesn’t mean I’ve said two words to her in many years. Her mother on the other hand, we see each other about once a year.

You told her to fuck off when she want to be with you after surgery?
No wonder she left.

 

[mandrill]

You don't even have to be married or common law to be raked over the coals.

There was one case where a woman rejected the mans offer of marriage. He like a simp paid her bills anyways, they went on vacations, they never moved in together and never had kids. Some judge fucked him over for a huge amount. Of course he didn't arrange a prenup or cohabitation agreement because there were no fucking nuptials or co-habitation but fuck him, he has a penis.
Also if she has kids and you start acting like a parent, they will make you one of the original father can't pay the bills.

IIRC the dude had about $100M and he had essentially supported her for 20 years. That was why he got hit.

In Family Court, there's a logical reason for everything the judge does. It's not random and it's not weird.

 

[mandrill]

DeSantis signed a bill to eliminate permanent alimony in Florida. What you need to know

It took nearly ten years and four tries, but permanent alimony will end in Florida. Other forms of alimony also have changed. Here's what it means.

www.jacksonville.com

Things are starting to change.

There goes the women's vote....

 

[Not getting younger]

You told her to fuck off when she want to be with you after surgery?
No wonder she left.

By that I assume you would say sure, you can be the one there….come here honey…it’s all going to fine…oh, you/we still agree it’s over?

you do you bazooka. My condolences for being you

 

[dirtyharry555]

There goes the women's vote....

Political courage means doing the right thing even though you know that you'll lose votes because of it.

 

[mandrill]

This is so sad.

Break-ups are so common. My former next door neighbours were a lesbian couple. The older woman paid for everything, including the lease costs on the car. The younger one did nothing. Didn't even bring in the garbage bins after the pick-up. She had no money because she had no job and was an immigrant (nothing wrong with that) who came here with nothing.

Long story short. The younger woman got half the proceeds from the sale of the house (probably around $400,000 at the time) after the break-up.

Yuss.

Do you know what the older woman should have done when she realized that the younger woman was not going to contribute?... End the fucking relationship.

Because what happened is standard, inevitable Family Law. The younger woman was inevitably going to get the 50% split as soon as the relationship hit the 5 year mark. So the older woman either knew what was going to happen and didn't care or else was too dumb to figure shit out and deal with it in time.

You guys are whiners and most Family Court attorneys are going to eat your balls and spit them out.

 

[mandrill]

Political courage means doing the right thing even though you know that you'll lose votes because of it.

“He (DeSantis) has just impoverished all the older women of Florida, and I know at least 3,000 women across the state of Florida are switching to Democrat and we will campaign against him, all the way, forever,” Camille Fiveash, a Milton Republican who receives permanent alimony, told The News Service of Florida Friday.

From Buddy's article.

 

[Darts]

Most couples get married/hitched too young. They need to spend some time in the "wilderness" before making the commitment. I would say wait until you're at least 32.

 

[Darts]

Thank you all you father figures for guiding the younger generation on this forum.

I've been considering the idea of living with friends when im older, it'd be nice to have like five or six friends ans buy out a whole neighborhood or even a mini apartment complex and live out our lives there.

I know a woman who with some others own a "cooperative" building with 4 units. A cooperative is where each has an ownership share in the building but not ownership of any particular unit (not a condo). They seem to generally get along but there are still the occasional flare-ups. No, no murders yet, LOL.

 

[NotADcotor]

IIRC the dude had about $100M and he had essentially supported her for 20 years. That was why he got hit.

In Family Court, there's a logical reason for everything the judge does. It's not random and it's not weird.

It might not be random, but it sure as hell is weird and it ain't justice.

She chose not to get married and as an adult she also choose to mooch of the guy, when the relationship ends, that money train should end also.

 

[xmontrealer]

"A third marriage is a triumph of hope over experience!"

 

[hard dick tony]

That's too bad. Plenty of guys I know have phenomenal marriages and tell me exactly what you said: "Don't rush into it." But they usually add on "...but when you do find The One, it's great and totally worth the effort."

10-15 years ago I knew lots of guys who had awesome marriages saying the same thing and a lot less divorced/unhappy marriages/etc men otherwise.

Fast forward a decade later, most of those marriages have soured or ended as well.

For every one guy over 50 still married to his first wife and completely happy I know 3-4 who are staying together to not give up their stuff, see escorts instead of having sex with their wife, etc and another 5-10 who have been divorced at least once.

I estimate only about 10% of first marriages make it to age 50+ and still totally happy.

What age are all these great marriages? And while you know lots who are are happily married, how many others do you know that have been divorced or still single?

 

[johnd5050]

Canada is now forced to import couples from countries that have arranged marriages to take up the slack and deficiencies in the Canadian workforce, and to counter Canadians having less marriages, higher divorce rates and accelerations in the already falling birth rate. There will be a large baby boom in Canada in the next 5- 10 years from couples from India and soon to be married students from India in arranged marriages.

“Don’t get married “ has a macro effect on the economy in many ways.

For example as the boomers fade out, cottages prices are really starting to see deflation in their prices.

Just India ? Did you over look China, Thailand, Vietnam, Mexico etc ? How about all the inter racial children ?

 

[rocketmortgage]

On the plus side, I have noticed an increase in the number of East/South Asian/ME/Latina SPs who were born here. There was quite a dearth 25 years ago.

So some of these marriages are contributing to future generations of SPs. They're doing their part.

The marriage rates are coming down fast in North America as divorce rates are high.