Good discussion. As for myself, I've mixed feelings. In the 10+ trs I've been married, there has been a slow inexorable decline in both the quantity and quality of our sex life. After a while this totally does a guy's head in. She protests that she still loves me, and the thought of losing me brings her to tears, however she is completely unwilling to make any sort of accommodation / compromise to improve things a little in terms of sex. I've suggested that if she's not really in the mood, I'd be happy for a HJ, a bit of oral, hell even a backrub, just some kind of physical intimacy to tide me over. Usually this causes even more conflict, just me mentioning it, but results in no change whatsoever. I'm completely at a loss now as to what to do. Sure i've really tried at all of the romantic stuff, but now basically can't be bothered, as its a 95% probability that a romantic evening will result in disappointment. She says " sex isnt everything, isit?" No it's not everything, but it is something. Part of what really gets me, is that very occasionally, like 1 or 2 times a year, we can have the most crazy insane sex you can imagine. However this is too like torture, since I know that the day after, and for the next several months, things will be back to normal.
On the other hand, she is really a great person, one who has helped me through a few really tough times in life. Also a fantastic mother, of two of the best kids in the world. For these reasons I'd hate to call it quits, but I don't know if I can mentally handle several more years of continuous rejection. My occasional hobbying gives me a few hours of fantasy where someone actually enjoys me physically, and is interested in making me happy, and recognizes my needs. It's terribly risky, since she'd probably divorce me for going to a SC, or looking at porn online, let alone going to MPs or SPs.
So do I regret getting married? I'd have to say somewhat. However now the cost of getting out of it would be to severely hurt someone I still really care about, as well as two great kids. I just don't know how much longer I can last in the current situation.