Yeah, but...
drlove said:
Please do a search for my thread entitled "The Myth of Monogamy". Lots of great info there. For the record, I believe that monogamy is unnatural. Reason being, men manufacture millions of sperm, not necessarily all intended for just one woman. If monogamy was natural, then how do you explain married men hobbying, for instance. I believe nature intended (initially at least) for men to have sex with as many women as possible in order to diversify the gene pool.
I refuse to buy into society's rules of what I should be doing. I will decide that for myself, thank you very much... and no, I have not been, nor will I ever be married.
...are we doomed to be slaves to our more base instincts?
Were would we be as a species if we had never evolved beyond what our pure unadulterated urges lead us to do? I doubt if we would have come as far as we have (be it good or not so good) if we had. We'd still be traveling in tribes, hunting and gathering, and many of you (us?) would not be around because many others would have already killed you off in a survial of the fittest / alpha dog natural selection process.
Indeed, if it were as simple as "I have million of sperm, thus i am meant to fuck as many women as possible in order to diversify the species", why do we have homosexuality, which does nothing to diversify the species at all?
"If monogamy was natural, then how do you explain married men hobbying, for instance."
Because they want to fuck. Period. Don't over analyze it...that is all it means...they like sex (as most of us do) and hence they want to fuck as often as possible. My guess is that if that (most) married men were getting as much sex as they wanted from their wives - and if those wives did there best to be as physically desirable as possible - they would not hobby. Hell...MY GUESS is that MOST married men don't hobby at all. As someone already side...this is board is hardly a true cross section representation of most men, women or others...
To be clear...I am not saying monogamy is "natural" or "un-natural". I am saying the fact that you pay to fuck and have millions of sperm is not definative reason for one versus the other.
Personally...I think we are in fact meant to go through life with a partner...not necessarily the same partner for life...but that bonding and coupling are indeed the most "natural" path. My "proof"...just as valid (in my mind) as your millions of sperm? The fact that many, many men "fall" for a provider...become a regular...and often do foolish, foolish things, trying to replace a true relationship based on attraction, affection and respect for one based on money.
If you "hobby" for ANY reason other than to get sex you aren't / can't / not willing to get "at home"...you are deluding yourself. Yet, many men do...I suspect a far greater percentage of men amongst "hobbiest" than the percentage of hobbiest amongst the general male population.
I personally cannot imagine what life must be like for a man who only knows female companionship as a matter of commerce, executed on an hourly basis.