Dating Apps

[WetSeeker]

We got bumble for dating and coffee meets bagel hmm don't older folks use match and eharmony

Do you think a 40 year old, attractive (and sexual) woman who has her shit together would go online to meet a man online? Which sites would they use? Bumble?
(I set that 40 age limit to avoid finding woman who still want babies)
Pre-covid I tried a few sites, it was all a scam to get you to buy credits.
Much prefer IRL and see what happens. I go to Hanlans, like the people there, I tried joining clubs for physical activity.
Like many of the guys here I have a lot to offer. The so called sixes all apply except I do not have a six pack, but still decent shape compared to most.
Before CL died I did find one amazing woman, it was under friends but within two meetings it was full on off the charts. Not planned it just happened. I won the lottery with her.
Hopefully this summer results in something positive.
I love having fun with SPs and IRL know that I am not going to have fantastic sex with a 20 year old knockout so it is a pretty good escape.
But ya it would be nice to have someone to share life with - probably this is true for SPs as well, we all need someone, not just to get off all the time.

 

[mdo2886]

I can only speak to my own experience but unless you are very good looking you will likely have to accept a lesser woman if you go the online route.

I think it has really warped many women’s sense of what they can attain.

Much better to meet girls in real life - parks, coffee shops, dog parks are great if you have a pooch. Once things open up the market should be pretty favourable. Many women have lost a year and a half on the biological clock. A very big and tragic consequence of all these lockdowns.

 

[johnnyy]

I use video chats, don't want to waste time on texting. I found adult video chat recently where I can make video calls and chat with people with similar interests. It's free app for Android and it's easy in use. As for me it's great way to find new friends online these days.

 

[poker]

I have met up with 4 women over the last year for a coffee, or a drink. 3 said they "didn't feel a connection" and one just ghosted me.

The Apps are brutal... for a reason.

The free ones make money from advertisers. The more member they have, the more ads they sell. Well, news flash... they don't keep members who fall in love. There is a science behind it all.

If you are picking a partner off an app, it's like picking your dinner off a menu. You will only be interested in your favs. Will it be Steak and Lobster... or pork chop? And listen.... nothing wrong with a pork chop... but there is a steak available.

So... you have to be great looking to compete off the hop. Being super successful does not hurt either.... especially for those girls you like who love to travel (because someone has to buy the tickets).

The app makers figured out people are in la-la land with unattainable expectations. I myself have swiped left on some decent girls, because there are much hotter ones.

I am no pick up artist, but have always done better in real life.

 

[jeff2]

the apps are 80/20. 80% of the girls are only interested in the top 20% of men.

Since there are more women in university than men and women have the majority of the government jobs it has become almost impossible over the last forty years to impress women.
They do not even need the alpha males.

 

[xix]

Since there are more women in university than men and women have the majority of the government jobs it has become almost impossible over the last forty years to impress women.
They do not even need the alpha males.

So does that mean they need Alpha Females?

the apps are 80/20. 80% of the girls are only interested in the top 20% of men.

And 3 % of the 20 % of those men earn more than 100K after taxes, and they are also pooning escorts and not give a damn about marriage. In which 80 % of the women are seeking not knowing this.

 

[jeff2]

So does that mean they need Alpha Females?


And 3 % of the 20 % of those men earn more than 100K after taxes, and they are also pooning escorts and not give a damn about marriage. In which 80 % of the women are seeking not knowing this.

Well, although they do not need anyone anymore, they may entertain the idea of being with an alpha male because they make more than women. But he would be of little use once she has the kids. And there simply is not enough alpha males to be of use to the majority of women. You see more extremes with men(more bums and more ceo's)and this has been getting worse for decades. So this is why you do not see many extreme alpha females.