So I take it none of your partners have any self respect, because they are in a relationship with a man that engages in sexual acts with multiple women for money.
Dating a SW, opinions.
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Well I guess SP is like a doctor, law enforcement fire fighter and other jobs that put strains on relationships
In my 20's use to bang quite a few strippers & loved the fact of guys dropping hundreds of dollars on a girl & then her leaving the strip joint with me...it was an ego thing. They were never serious relationships, it was just about the hottest girl you could pick up.
Went out with a uni student way before I ever got involved in seeing escorts. She came from a poor family & this was her first taste of money...she liked it. It took weeks to get out of her what she actually did, we were close to the same age & really clicked. She explained they were mostly older men & some justed wanted to talk & sometimes she didn't even get completely naked or they would take her shopping etc etc. I really liked this girl they're was something special about her...so I left it alone. She always said things like your my soulmate & the rest I'm just getting paid to be with. Long story short for a friends engagement dinner she stood me up...her client extended & "he was in a very emotional state over his divorce". What that told me was money is more important than our relationship. I broke it off. She called me for weeks, sent me a letter & tried apologising profusely & one night I had a few too many & called her. Started out good...but eventually the booze brought out things I should have never said & she ended up crying & calling me a terrible person. Regret it to this day, I new full well what she did & went along with it & when things went sour I should have took the high road & wished her well but I resorted to childish tactics of putting her down & calling her names.
Fast forward to 2015ish, met another uni student on the other side of the door that I really clicked with...she was almost in tears from the previous guy. Brightened her day & she said your the best thing that happened all month! We went out for dinners, boating for the weekend (looked awesome in a bikini!) wine tour & then she asked can we be an item wanted to introduce me to the parents. I explained a little bit about my previous experience down that road & said I would rather be friends. We grew apart a little over the winter & she sent me an email one day of pics of us together & said she missed me & in six months she would meet her financial goals & be "out". Maybe the one that got away...
That's my past experience, if you have any bit of jealousy in you it probably won't work! If you can look past that it's paid sex & realise it's a job...& not an easy one you might have a shot. I can only imagine how hard it is for a women in the trade to explain what she does to a civy guy, & at the end of the day she just wants to be loved & pampered like any other women. # Tough Job
Went out with a uni student way before I ever got involved in seeing escorts. She came from a poor family & this was her first taste of money...she liked it. It took weeks to get out of her what she actually did, we were close to the same age & really clicked. She explained they were mostly older men & some justed wanted to talk & sometimes she didn't even get completely naked or they would take her shopping etc etc. I really liked this girl they're was something special about her...so I left it alone. She always said things like your my soulmate & the rest I'm just getting paid to be with. Long story short for a friends engagement dinner she stood me up...her client extended & "he was in a very emotional state over his divorce". What that told me was money is more important than our relationship. I broke it off. She called me for weeks, sent me a letter & tried apologising profusely & one night I had a few too many & called her. Started out good...but eventually the booze brought out things I should have never said & she ended up crying & calling me a terrible person. Regret it to this day, I new full well what she did & went along with it & when things went sour I should have took the high road & wished her well but I resorted to childish tactics of putting her down & calling her names.
Fast forward to 2015ish, met another uni student on the other side of the door that I really clicked with...she was almost in tears from the previous guy. Brightened her day & she said your the best thing that happened all month! We went out for dinners, boating for the weekend (looked awesome in a bikini!) wine tour & then she asked can we be an item wanted to introduce me to the parents. I explained a little bit about my previous experience down that road & said I would rather be friends. We grew apart a little over the winter & she sent me an email one day of pics of us together & said she missed me & in six months she would meet her financial goals & be "out". Maybe the one that got away...
That's my past experience, if you have any bit of jealousy in you it probably won't work! If you can look past that it's paid sex & realise it's a job...& not an easy one you might have a shot. I can only imagine how hard it is for a women in the trade to explain what she does to a civy guy, & at the end of the day she just wants to be loved & pampered like any other women. # Tough Job
Holy fuck wow this was an amazing read just when I thought magic mushrooms could make anything makes sense I read this and boy was I wrong so I ate some more magic mushrooms and read it again I'm going to bed
Lj
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Lexi Laila, a challenging question. In the past I did date a SW. She was wonderful. The relationship was crazy ... but not in a good way. I still think of her fondly and wonder how she is doing. Totally confident she is successful in life.
Many years later and again I have fallen for a SW. Right now it is still a client/provider arrangement but we have a great time together. Decided to see if she had been reviewed. Maybe a mistake or a brilliant move. It hurt to see the reviews but put the situation in perspective.
In the end, I would recommend not dating while working in the industry. The lines become very blurry and confused.
Many years later and again I have fallen for a SW. Right now it is still a client/provider arrangement but we have a great time together. Decided to see if she had been reviewed. Maybe a mistake or a brilliant move. It hurt to see the reviews but put the situation in perspective.
In the end, I would recommend not dating while working in the industry. The lines become very blurry and confused.
That he was a dick for saying something that he shouldn’t have. The one thing I never did was bring what she did up no matter what. Doesn’t matter how angry you get, you should never go there. And this is one of the top reasons why women in the business avoid relationships with clients, as I have been told numerous times.
Yair...regarding the condom thing w one's SW GF...back in Oz they legalised SW and the ladies working the brothels have to get tested i believe monthly. Thus the gov't keeps records and they found very low incidence of sti's in the parlour girls. But when a lady did get one, vast majority of the time it was from her BF, whom she went bare. And he of course got it stepping out on her. Anyhow, food for thought.
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I think 5% is actually too high but whatever number it is, the percentage for men wanting to date providers is minimum 10X higher, or if not date, get OTC encounters
Seriously though, how is this supposed to happen? Is the SW going to initiate it (which makes zero sense as she is the female), Or are johns supposed to start asking out SPs? Should they email SP they haven't even seen to ask out on dates? That way the SP won't think of them as Johns. Also, what about agency girls? Do we phone up the agency and say "Hello there, I would like to deliver some stargazer lillies to Ashley, as I am enchanted by her pics on your website." then attach a teddybear with a card and your name on it?
My rule of thumb is the TV wrestling rule: Don't ask if it's real, just ask if you were entertained. If you do this hobby stuff seeking a real GF you will find yourself blacklisted, as word will get out that you're that creepy client that keeps asking out your SW. If you want a GF try match.com e-harmony or other equivalent sites. Dating is rare, and the hints will come from her.
I've had a few instances where the SP/MPA has insinuated or directly asked to hang out outside of a session. Happens if we actually have chemistry much like as if we met in normal circumstances. Sometimes I ask myself "what if" but I haven't actually taken it anywhere since I like to keep hobby life separate from "real" life. Not sure if I'm missing out on anything though.
The "wrestling rule" is brilliant! But you challenge your own rule when you say "hints will come from her." So is it possible? What are the hints? Other than the obvious not paying.
Movies, TV, actors...all fake but we can get lost in it, get carried away from our own worlds and pretend were at that frontier fort w Leo DiCaprio in 1823, or on Omaha beach with Tom Hanks on 6 June 1944. (Or diving into ana foxx and nyomi banxx whilst they are in the middle of girl on girl passion lol). Thus get lost in time and space. One thing the very great ladies do- they freeze time. It's why i absolutely adore my regs. They get me in a bubble where I forget my age. I forget any work shit. I forget my personal issues. Just me and a lady who - in the outside world - I'd have no business being with, and just enjoying her charms for an hour or two. I would reckon, to paraphrase Dostoyevsky, that the time spent w those angels would not count against my lifespan.
Does it make it easier to have several regulars rather than one? I get lost and start to believe it is real.
Some hints are obvious, as in my case, others seem more subtle as the other blokes have mentioned. I would err on the side of them just being nice and having some trust in you, and enjoying your company rather than leaping to the belief that she wants a real date. This can be a tough gig. She might be holed up in her hotel all day, and finds a client who seems nice and fun to talk to -and someone whom she can talk freely about this industry, which she likely can't to others - so maybe she's hungry or needs a coffee so she invites you along. (If you join her of course be a gentleman and pay for you both). I've had that happen half a dozen -10 times or so but i am under no illusion she wants to date for real. Instead i presume that she has confidence that i not only know "the line" but that i also won't cross it (i.e., believe she's somehow falling for me lol or that I really have any chance with her). Thus she can let her guard down a bit knowing her signals won't be misinterpreted.
If she really wants to hang out, then if she says something like that just ask "what do you have in mind?". Then read her signals. Don't be afraid to ask for the details, just let her know you enjoy her company and don't want to misinterpret anything. I can imagine some client once thought the hangout offer was great and then she cited her social rates lol. Don't be that guy. Thus assume professional until she says otherwise. Rather be in the position of "so what's your rate on this proposed dinner date"? Versus "oh, sorry, I thought this was a personal invite, I didn't know this was business and you were charging your time...uh, let me find an ATM...."
