Dating a SW, opinions.
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Interesting question... And there is the other side here, SP, expressed to some extend by Florence Yi. This all is very personal.
I can share what I learned from two different escort girls on the dating client / having boyfriend and being in the industry.
First Lady, top level SP, late thirties, perfect body, nice personality. She said something like this:
"Dating a client or having boyfriend? I tried twice and this doesn't work for me. Why? Of course because of my business - it gives me two many opportunities to compare.
I see every day these almost perfect gentlemen (it is easy to be a gentleman for an hour} who bring me gifts, invite me to shows and theaters, treat me like a goddess. And I start thinking: WTF what for do I need that jerk at home? So, from my experience, good regular client is better being a client than a boyfriend."
Second girl, early thirties, very passionate woman, completely involved during the session. In the end of the session we had the coversation like this"
"She: I wish you were 20 years younger...
Me: Hmm... I wouldn't mind to be 20 years younger.... Why? Do you prefer younger clients?
She: Oh, no! If your were younger I would replace my boyfriend with you.
Me: With your business, why do you need boyfriend at all? Especially if he needs "replacement?
She: Exactly because of my business! Imagine three clients in the row who are absolutely not capable. Even cold shower doesn't work! I need help, I need maintenance on such days!"
I can share what I learned from two different escort girls on the dating client / having boyfriend and being in the industry.
First Lady, top level SP, late thirties, perfect body, nice personality. She said something like this:
"Dating a client or having boyfriend? I tried twice and this doesn't work for me. Why? Of course because of my business - it gives me two many opportunities to compare.
I see every day these almost perfect gentlemen (it is easy to be a gentleman for an hour} who bring me gifts, invite me to shows and theaters, treat me like a goddess. And I start thinking: WTF what for do I need that jerk at home? So, from my experience, good regular client is better being a client than a boyfriend."
Second girl, early thirties, very passionate woman, completely involved during the session. In the end of the session we had the coversation like this"
"She: I wish you were 20 years younger...
Me: Hmm... I wouldn't mind to be 20 years younger.... Why? Do you prefer younger clients?
She: Oh, no! If your were younger I would replace my boyfriend with you.
Me: With your business, why do you need boyfriend at all? Especially if he needs "replacement?
She: Exactly because of my business! Imagine three clients in the row who are absolutely not capable. Even cold shower doesn't work! I need help, I need maintenance on such days!"
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The first girl makes a very good point, during an encounter between an SP and client you only see them for an hour or even if it's a multi hour/overnight its only a tiny fraction of either character is revealed. Of course the SP is going to treat you very well, and if you're an intelligent client you'd do the same as there is always a ROI in any service based industry.Interesting question... And there is the other side here, SP, expressed to some extend by Florence Yi. This all is very personal.
I can share what I learned from two different escort girls on the dating client / having boyfriend and being in the industry.
First Lady, top level SP, late thirties, perfect body, nice personality. She said something like this:
"Dating a client or having boyfriend? I tried twice and this doesn't work for me. Why? Of course because of my business - it gives me two many opportunities to compare.
I see every day these almost perfect gentlemen (it is easy to be a gentleman for an hourwho bring me gifts, invite me to shows and theaters, treat me like a goddess. And I start thinking: WTF what for do I need that jerk at home? So, from my experience, good regular client is better being a client than a boyfriend."
Second girl, early thirties, very passionate woman, completely involved during the session. In the end of the session we had the coversation like this"
"She: I wish you were 20 years younger...
Me: Hmm... I wouldn't mind to be 20 years younger.... Why? Do you prefer younger clients?
She: Oh, no! If your were younger I would replace my boyfriend with you.
Me: With your business, why do you need boyfriend at all? Especially if he needs "replacement?
She: Exactly because of my business! Imagine three clients in the row who are absolutely not capable. Even cold shower doesn't work! I need help, I need maintenance on such days!"
The problem is predicting anything long term and all the bullshit that may come with it.
It can be very easy to get caught up in the fantasy.
This is why you gotta build a relationship on shit, have low expectations and anything good that comes from it is always a surprise!
No, never.
Any self-respectful guy will never tolerate his gf/wife sleeping with multiple guys a day for money. Its simply not a relationship when you knowingly allow her to be sw.
Any self-respectful guy will never tolerate his gf/wife sleeping with multiple guys a day for money. Its simply not a relationship when you knowingly allow her to be sw.
The older I get, the less this bothers me.... Things were black and white when I was a younger man... I realize now that everything is truly grey (and that you'll meet people where life is 100% a freakin' rainbow. They don't care.)
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I feel like the last thing I want to do at the end of the day is more of the same work.The first girl makes a very good point, during an encounter between an SP and client you only see them for an hour or even if it's a multi hour/overnight its only a tiny fraction of either character is revealed. Of course the SP is going to treat you very well, and if you're an intelligent client you'd do the same as there is always a ROI in any service based industry.
The problem is predicting anything long term and all the bullshit that may come with it.
It can be very easy to get caught up in the fantasy.
This is why you gotta build a relationship on shit, have low expectations and anything good that comes from it is always a surprise!
That and knowing you are on the bottom of the priority or even maintenance list below her work clients isn’t a good frame of mind or position to be in.
Another thought to add, we've become so comfortable with purchasing sex that we have forgot it's an illegal business. (some aspects of it)
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Never once paid for it. I mean, I can't help it I enjoy chatting with uni aged women. And for some reason, as we chat, my wit and charm and my over the hill painfully plain looks just gets them excited. Dont know why that happens.
Didn't think I needed to add the LOL...yeah, right.
same here. Never paid for it. I don't consider a small $300 or so honorarium to constitute a payment
You got that right.
While I realize everything today is free love and respecting others choices and everyone is running around popping rainbows out of their asses being all self righteous, for a guy to accept that, well like you say has no self-respect. Kind of amusing to think of what the old, "how was your day at work ?" would be answered . "Well I had this one guy..."
How is this even supposed to happen in real life?
Me after a session: "Wow, that was awesome. After you clean up, I think we should go for a coffee while the night is young! I don't want to seem creepy, but... I really like you. Like, as in more than an SP. I want us to be ... more than friends. As in, you be my girlfriend, just to speak in practical terms, if things work out, I mean. No pressure. So that means I don't want to pay you for our time, because that would be really awkward. In the future I mean, not tonight. But I mean of course I'll pay for the hour we just had, but not the rest of the evening, because I want the rest of the night to be a real date. But I'll be a good boyfriend (if things work out between us, I mean) and treat you awesome and spend money on you like I would any other girl. In fact, if things work out I'll pay your rent for you just so you don't need to do this while you're finishing school, if you're worried about money. I know I am a good catch, and I think we might have a lot in common. Do you like starbucks? Of course you do, what woman doesn't? I'll just wait here babe! XO!"
FWIW, yes, I would date an SW. But if we were to stay together, it would have to involve a plan for her to leave the industry.
Me after a session: "Wow, that was awesome. After you clean up, I think we should go for a coffee while the night is young! I don't want to seem creepy, but... I really like you. Like, as in more than an SP. I want us to be ... more than friends. As in, you be my girlfriend, just to speak in practical terms, if things work out, I mean. No pressure. So that means I don't want to pay you for our time, because that would be really awkward. In the future I mean, not tonight. But I mean of course I'll pay for the hour we just had, but not the rest of the evening, because I want the rest of the night to be a real date. But I'll be a good boyfriend (if things work out between us, I mean) and treat you awesome and spend money on you like I would any other girl. In fact, if things work out I'll pay your rent for you just so you don't need to do this while you're finishing school, if you're worried about money. I know I am a good catch, and I think we might have a lot in common. Do you like starbucks? Of course you do, what woman doesn't? I'll just wait here babe! XO!"
FWIW, yes, I would date an SW. But if we were to stay together, it would have to involve a plan for her to leave the industry.
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