Dating a SW, opinions.
- Thread starter Lexi Laila
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Interesting. But I don't see it that way. I dated a stripper for 18 months. It didn't bother me one iota that she was dancing.
Think about it. Why would a guy get upset about that? The first thing that comes to mind is jealousy. Jealousy is a matter of trust and self-respect. If you respect yourself, you have a good idea what you bring to the table that other guys don't. So if anything, it's the opposite of what you're saying.
What other reasons are there? A sense of ownership? I don't give a shit about owning a woman's body. I want to own her heart. Sorry if that sounds corny, but isn't that the truth? Isn't that what you look for in a relationship?
The only reasonable objection I can think of is health related, but I doubt that's what you're talking about.
Or, if he was unaware she was an SP, and so her not telling him was a breach of trust.
I ended up leaving that dancer because our lifestyles didn't jive in the long-term. And she was an extremely impulsive buyer, racking up all kinds of debt. No way I was going to be on the hook for her lavish lifestyle and the fall she was heading for.
Well, this is an interesting topic. Thank you for setting this up.
I've dated a SP before. Unfortunately, it didn't last long because I was living in Ontario while she was living in BC. She move back to East Asia to be with her family because of Covid-19. Hence, our relationship didn't last long.
Firstly, Ms Lexi Laila, no matter what we tell you, you have to make a decide rather or not to stay in the SP/SW industry. If you don't make this decision yourself - you could regret it for the rest of your life.
Second, whoever you choose to be your lover/Significant other (SO) - S/he must respect you as a person and respect your decision. If your lover/SO cannot accept your decision to stay in this industry - I don't see how your relationship could survive in the future.
Third, are your future goals, temperament and personality align with each other? For example, are you planning to have kids in the future? If so, can you, your lover/SO and your future children handle this colourful lifestyle - especially when you want to be a porn star where your videos might end up on Xvideo/Pornhub forever....?
Fourth, As Ms. Florence Yi have mention about her experience - being in love with someone and getting out of the industry is easy. But, staying together as a couple takes a lot of commitment, perseverance, respect, sacrifice and hard work. For example, is your lover/SO willing to leave his friends, relatives, siblings, and his parents behind just to be with you or are you willing to sacrifice your lifestyle and your independence just to be with him? Indeed, as Ms Florence Yi has mention in her posted, she didn't regret her decision because she choose this path.
Lastly, love is blind. It's really hard to put into words cause when you are love with someone - you don't usually see all the blind spots or the negative aspect of your lover/SO. So, before you commit to anything - just take the time to know them as a person, and see if your lifestyle mash with each other. I'll probably recommend
seeing each other circle of influence (such as friends and family) to see if you/them are comfortable in that environment. If so, then maybe try setup a living arrangement with each other for eight months to a year before you decide any goals or future plans.
Hope this helps. Cheers and good luck with your future career, Lexi, and welcome back Florence!
You dated a dancer aka stripper. That suggests there was no sex involved between your ex girl friend and the patrons. Upon reflection if she was a SP and you knew she was with 10 guys a week, offering DFK and BBBJ (I understand you identified the health concerns), would you still be able to "own her heart" and more importantly, at least to me, protect you heart?
What do you need to protect your heart from that you wouldn't in a civie relationship as well? She isn't falling in love with her clients. It's a job. They don't take anything away from what you have with her.
I believe so, though I suppose the only way to know for sure is to be in that situation. How much of a distinction there is between acts like BBBJs and grinding on someone is a matter of perspective. Both are sexual in nature. I've never quite understood why strippers think so lowly of escorts, when it's all just different shades of the same thing.
One obvious advantage of dating a street walker is, you always know where to find them.
As I've said on a few occasions, there are several ladies whose company I enjoy and I like to think the feeling is mutual but at the end of the day, I'm realistic about our relationship.
Let's hear a few opinions from others that have. Got a text earlier in the week from a number I didn't recognize & ignored it. Opened it over the weekend & was from a working girl I last seen 2+ years ago! I'm single, sick of the cold & want to go somewhere warm...along with a nice pic from the gym.
Went out for drinks with her & a friend over 2 years ago & about a week later we we're texting & I told her where I was going for business. She begged me to come along & against me better judgement I booked her a ticket. Night before the flight I called & messaged & nothing. Got a vm & several texts when I landed about "grandma in the hospital". Heard that one like half dozen times! Blocked her number & moved on, don't have time for drama in my schedule
Said she finished school & has been working super hard at a new job & wants to reconnect. Still damn hot but is once a playa always a playa when they've been in this industry? I think I know the answer to that...
Went out for drinks with her & a friend over 2 years ago & about a week later we we're texting & I told her where I was going for business. She begged me to come along & against me better judgement I booked her a ticket. Night before the flight I called & messaged & nothing. Got a vm & several texts when I landed about "grandma in the hospital". Heard that one like half dozen times! Blocked her number & moved on, don't have time for drama in my schedule
Said she finished school & has been working super hard at a new job & wants to reconnect. Still damn hot but is once a playa always a playa when they've been in this industry? I think I know the answer to that...
I would put it this way:In my 20's it would have been a no go. I wanted the dream girl. The one you are proud to show to your parent. So this is what I did that resulted in 2 beautiful kids but no sex for such a long time... I was dying inside... a divorce followed and never been happier since.
20 year's later no problem I would date you in a heartbeat. I changed. You see I realized over the years that for me love and sex are entirely 2 different things. Jealousy is not in my gene... I am not the type who "own" a girl I am the type who wants to "share" haha I was invited last winter by an escort to make a 3 some with her boyfriend. It was awesome. I would probably do the same with you
Love, sex, and marriage are 3 different things. When we are young we confuse them. We want sex so we fall in love. We fall in love so we marry. Once we marry, the sex is gone. Often, the love goes with it.
Fast forward, a few years/kids later we end up with 2 possible situations: a divorce or we stay together as business partners, managing a company called a household. Especially, if kids are around. We agree to part ways once the nest is empty and we split the capital gains.
He goes after a Lolita, she collects gigolos.
Nice Necrobump.
This gets post sooo often. A search would give you literally hundreds of threads about this since TERBs beginning. There was just a thread like 2 weeks ago.
This gets post sooo often. A search would give you literally hundreds of threads about this since TERBs beginning. There was just a thread like 2 weeks ago.
Agreed. I will not. But then I don’t want to date period either.
There is no point. I am not in a point in my life where sharing a life to build a life plays. I have my life built already. Grown kid, etc.
If I was in my 20s, I would think of dating. If I wanted kids, build a home, a shared life but I did it on my own and now I have no need to share. My independence means way to much to me now. I see sharing as limiting in a way. So I’m good to stay single and get my companionship in this form while passing my retirement.
I had a friend who was into necrobumping… He wasn’t allowed within a 100 yards of a nursing home.
