Clients looking for SP to become an SO

[GPIDEAL]

I am only a few rotations from my old goal in life. It was pointed out to me OFTEN in the last year that my finishing and etc etc would result in my putting in 40 or more hrs a week and probably not even bring in $200,000. It was also pointed out to me I was depriving Loki of fun and pleasure by being so selfish.

So I have decided to put my life on hold for as long as we can have fun together. If is body fails, I will settle down, and go back to my career and take care of him.

For now I will better myself using travel and long talks with him. I am sorry if that offends you. I just find I agree with him.

That's a damn good job!* If I were your man, I'd say you should achieve that former goal in life because that accomplishment defines you as a person too. You can retire early if you want. You're still young enough to have children 3 years from now. Then when you have kids, you'll be very busy but in time, you can use your that career background perhaps to get involved in charitable or community events.

*I took this as something other than escorting.

 

[Moviefan-2]

I couldn't be bothered reading all the posts in this thread, as it was obvious from the start how ridiculous it is.

A 25 year old married to a wealthy 59-year-old man that she met in the hobby. Could there be more to it than his money? Uh, no. That's all it is.

Accept it or don't accept it. Sweet Petite Jessica's initial response was the correct one: Why are you boring us with this nonsense?

 

[Prophet]

I don't know what it is but the old BS meter goes off every time a person has to share a too good to be true store on an anonymous chat board.

I'd sooner believe MrsCALoki is either a creative writing student, or not as well off as she claims, or both.

The attention seeking pity party is entertaining, though.

 

[GPIDEAL]

I only skimmed this thread, but seriously, if you're happy together then who cares why. If you love him for his money, and he's a-okay with that, then all the power to you. Better to be upfront about it then have him standing there dumbfounded if somewhere down the line he loses a lot of money and in the process, you. People dissect their relationships unnecessarily.

True. There are so many marriages based on financial security not involving former SPs, or true love, and that aren't very happy.

 

[mrsCALoki]

To me, as a 34yr old who has come up by sheer hard work, strength of character and a good heart is the most important thing in a woman. For myself, I don't want a "spoiled princess" or someone who isn't capable of working hard, making adjustments to adjust to the ups and downs in our life and to overall make ME a better person.

Women who need a guy's money to bring them happiness can find another 60yr old guy on TERB who's looking for a sugar baby. I want someone I can respect and someone who can respect me back for me, not just the money and things I have because that can change on a dime.

His father was a plumber, does that mean he had it made at birth? lol

The questions I had to answer in my heart were not about money, They were more like "in 25 years can I deal with changing his diaper? Am I willing to make him the centre of my life? Do I want children? Is it possible to raise children with a man that age? Can I live in his world?

I knew I respected him. I knew he respected me. All things can change on a dime. I could go to bed with a professor with 2 Phd and wake up to a stroke victim who cannot even speak and just lies there drooling.

I mentioned somewhere on here I felt safe with him. Safe means I know he would take care of me, and that I would take care of him. Regardless of why the drool is there.

I grew up with a work ethic. It has been hard to understand that it is not universally accepted or useful.

 

[Ms.FemmeFatale]

Ok kick her in the ass and yes, you're right....a 18 yr old can be excused but 20-21yr old men are dying in Afghanistan, a 25yr old ought to know better.

I'm with you.

But even in the "real world", 35yr old women are clueless. They might have good jobs and they might have good education and everything else, but they feel entitled and feel that they need Doctor Brad Pitt and nobody else is good enough.

So in that context, this 25yr old isn't the worst of the lot IF and only IF she takes this thread as sincere input and doesn't screw over this guy and does the right thing by him and their relationship.

Key point there is the 35 yrs have good jobs, good education and pay their own damn bills. If they want to wait for Brad Pitt, so be it. They are not hurting anyone but maybe themselves. They don't come up here on a escort review board, bash the current SP's by telling lies, bash the clients by telling lies. Making generalizations, and throw out jaded comments.

 

[Moviefan-2]

I grew up with a work ethic. It has been hard to understand that it is not universally accepted or useful.

I didn't know sugar baby was a career choice.

 

[GPIDEAL]

yes. I did not know about the 1/2 rule till long after we were married. I just discovered more money in our joint account than I expected and found out why it was there. I had to work for everything in my life. I was scared to just go play. THe trust fund was put in place long after we were married, and it was his idea so I could go play boat bum and not be worried.

That I find very hard to believe. However, if he has enough money to set up a trust fund, and not worry about marital dissolution and it's consequences, then he deserves to make this relationship work.

You have to remember that he's an older gent, and even if this relationship fails, he may have no regrets when he looks back and says, "I went back into time at 59 & married a beautifiul young woman who made me feel like I was also 25 & smitten, something most men my age wish they could re-live. I lived life to the fullest."

 

[Partyman1970]

Guys also need to be realistic about themselves. Are you attractive to many women? Then maybe so with the escort & she would want a personal relationship. the 5 x I know that this has happened with client & escort..... the guys were up there in the attractive department: 6' or more, good shape, facially attractive. BUt for the guys that are near the bottom of the barrel, do not believe you are going to score with an escort. Best to stay in the real world were IF a woman shows interest you can be more assured that it is genuine & not a hustle. I know this for myself.

 

[Serpent]

So all your questions were about yourself and your future. And that's fine, I guess most women are like that.....you're just being completely honest about it.

But did you ever think about what you bring to the relationship table besides your 25yr old body (since you made that remark about sagging mid 40s bodies) and your looks? Are you a good person? Are you honest, faithful, loyal? Are you going to be there with him if things change and he doesn't make you feel financially safe? Or will you bail?

 

[Serpent]

They don't come up here on a escort review board, bash the current SP's by telling lies, bash the clients by telling lies. Making generalizations, and throw out jaded comments.

But that's not the point of this thread. The point of this thread is a 25yr old who has married a 60yr old.

I just quickly skimmed the other big thread about SPs and hate and all that tosh......and I saw some friction there. Maybe that's spilling over here?

 

[mrsCALoki]

M'am....she's 25. That she needs to grow up is obvious. That she doesn't understand the commitment of marriage is obvious. What 25yr old does? That she thinks that only physical looks (her comment about house frau and sagging 40 yr olds) matter is the thinking of a child.

But yes, she's in a commitment now and hopefully, this thread will benefit her and give her the advice she was seeking. I don't understand why she should be taken to the woodshed. If anyone, the 60yr old gramps should have thought more before putting himself in a position to be taken advantage of.

If she truly did a pre-nup, if she truly is making an attempt to be a good, loyal wife and in time she actually takes the sincere advice from men in this thread and instill a work ethic in herself to make herself more than just a trophy wife, she'll actually get everyone's respect as well.

She's still got 3-4yrs to go before people should be hard on her for being immature.

I hope for her sake and the sake of gramps, they don't fuck it up for each other.

We are trying very hard to not fuck it up. He believes in me. Keeps wanting to just give me enough so it is obvious I am there because I want to be. But I do not want to feel he is buying me. I guess we will just keep working on it.

 

[Ms.FemmeFatale]

But that's not the point of this thread. The point of this thread is a 25yr old who has married a 60yr old.

I just quickly skimmed the other big thread about SPs and hate and all that tosh......and I saw some friction there. Maybe that's spilling over here?

No, the point of this thread is "Do men seek SP's to become SO's?" Nothing about age or even marriage. Just committed relationships between basically a hooker and john.

And yes, there is some spillage I would guess.

 

[Kenny-sauga]

why do you spend so much time here chatting about your relationship? go enjoy it already ... you're retired... remember???

Great advice, Jessica. You saved me time reading this entire post.

mrsCAloki: You need to change the tea you've been drinking. lol

 

[mrsCALoki]

So all your questions were about yourself and your future. And that's fine, I guess most women are like that.....you're just being completely honest about it.

But did you ever think about what you bring to the relationship table besides your 25yr old body (since you made that remark about sagging mid 40s bodies) and your looks? Are you a good person? Are you honest, faithful, loyal? Are you going to be there with him if things change and he doesn't make you feel financially safe? Or will you bail?

I think I already posted that the changing his diaper was my internal question. And I will change his diaper.

What do I bring to the relationship? I love him, I never let him leave the house with any sperm build up. When he develops geriatric issues I will become his Dr, I will have and raise our children. I am fun for him to talk to and argue with. I am a great step mother to his family. I go along with his odd ideas about giving up the house and living on a boat for a few years. I guess I give him what he wants in an SO.

 

[Viggo Rasmussen]

The questions I had to answer in my heart were not about money, They were more like "in 25 years can I deal with changing his diaper? Am I willing to make him the centre of my life? Do I want children? Is it possible to raise children with a man that age? Can I live in his world?

Hire a nurse to change him.
You can even take a lover if you want, or be happy with his children. Of course you can enjoy this kind of life.
You're asking questions you know the answer to.

 

[Serpent]

Then work on being someone and something for yourself. Because one day, 1 comment from someone will make him wonder if you're using him for his money. But if he knows you have your own money and the capability and work ethic to make more, he'll truly respect and cherish you. You'll be more than a trophy wife. And it will strengthen your relationship.

G'luck! I hope it works out well for both of you. He's made his money and his mark in life......you have to do that first for your own self and then for your relationship to benefit. In that order. So get off terb and do something about it!

I got to go and prepare for my next week meetings now.

 

[Serpent]

I think I already posted that the changing his diaper was my internal question. And I will change his diaper.

What do I bring to the relationship? I love him, I never let him leave the house with any sperm build up. When he develops geriatric issues I will become his Dr, I will have and raise our children. I am fun for him to talk to and argue with. I am a great step mother to his family. I go along with his odd ideas about giving up the house and living on a boat for a few years. I guess I give him what he wants in an SO.

Fair enough. G'luck to you both. You don't need to defend yourself to any one here. You just own him and yourself to be honest with first your own self and then with each other. If you both are good, honest, sincere people and communicate with each other, you'll be OK.

 

[kenpachi]

It does. It says how much you earn is a score card. It says that most women are attracted to men who are 'making it' in society. TO me men on welfare (at the opposite extreme) are just losers.

That is such a mean thing to say. There are many great men out there, who just needs a break. You wrote previously about single moms, students with loans, etc... Well, in some cases, some of those ladies out there who did not a break do receive social assistance. They could just open their legs and charge a horny guy with money like you did, but they choose not to. So, I guess those women out there who decided not whore themselves, but decided to get social assistance are losers in your oppinion.

Before you can judge others, look at your self in the mirror first.

 

[GPIDEAL]

The questions I had to answer in my heart were not about money, They were more like "in 25 years can I deal with changing his diaper? Am I willing to make him the centre of my life? Do I want children? Is it possible to raise children with a man that age? Can I live in his world?

I knew I respected him. I knew he respected me. All things can change on a dime. I could go to bed with a professor with 2 Phd and wake up to a stroke victim who cannot even speak and just lies there drooling.

I mentioned somewhere on here I felt safe with him. Safe means I know he would take care of me, and that I would take care of him. Regardless of why the drool is there.

I grew up with a work ethic. It has been hard to understand that it is not universally accepted or useful.

I've changed my father's diapers because he's my dad and I love him. I don't have to do this now because he's in a longterm care facility. If you love him, you'll change his diapers too if not hire a nurse or put him in a home if the situation warrants. You'll have to money to do it from the sounds of it, so I wouldn't worry.

I just hope that you won't get bored down the road.