breakup rules
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As a general rule-- If you gave it to her as a gift, let it go. If it has some sentimental value to you, you gave it to her conditionally (ie- lent it to her.), or it's yours take it back. Do this for her shit at your place as well.Hola amigos,
So I posted earlier bout relationship issues but it feel retarded and I don't want to leave her but no point being in something where I'm giving 100prcnt and she doesn't care....yet she gets pissed when I look at other women etc and says she loves me etc...anyz
So my question is, if we end up leaving each other (which is becoming more and more apparent from her behavior); do I get or ask for everything I have given her to date?
I have spent a lot of $ on her, buying clothes, louis, gucci bags over 5k, and so much more, which depresses me cause its a big sum!!!! So do I want all the items back and being a bitch like she is?!? I'm not sure what to do, cause I don't want to leave her but...ur input guys will be helpful and pls no wise_guy comments here...I'm being emotionally drained so suxs ass....thxs
Cheers
TOMs guide to breaking up:
1. Box up, trash, or destroy reminders. If shit is bad, chopping up that horrible shirt she gave you can only feel good.
2. You might get to the 'Exes with benefits' stage but that's not a short term thing. Take a hard line on communication in both directions. No calls, no letters, no emails. Doubly so if you're drunk or high. None of those visits where you fall into the sack. Write that sort of thing off until you've had some combination of a future rebound / real relationship.
3. Instead of wallowing, fill your new free time with 'things you always wanted to do'. With a strong bias toward social things that get you out and meeting people. Be the 'I'm game for it' guy.
4. Family and friends will (usually) support you, but: a) The act of them supporting you will often involve them panning your ex, which can often feel hurtful in it's own weird way, b) your wallowing will get tedious, so do #3 above, if for no other reason it will give you something to talk about.
5. "The best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody" is true, but it's only true in so far as you're doing it for yourself, not to 'show the ex' on some level. This takes time. Even if you're seeing a pro, this should take some time. Nobody wants to see some sad loser on a desperate crawl to get laid.
Ending a serious relationship is a lot like coping with a death. No matter how hard you try not to be overly co-dependant, codependency emerges. Even if you're fed up (for good reason) at the time of the breakup, later comes the sense of loss. It will get better. Particularly if you are proactive with your new found free time. If it doesn't, seek help.
Well said. Very good advice.Dude, don't be petty. Let her have everything you gave her and take your freedom. Stuff is just stuff. Freedom to find real happiness is what is truely valuable.
You've been on terb as long as you were in the relationship, how can you say you're giving 100%?Hola amigos,
So I posted earlier bout relationship issues but it feel retarded and I don't want to leave her but no point being in something where I'm giving 100prcnt and she doesn't care....yet she gets pissed when I look at other women etc and says she loves me etc...anyz
Move out, don't ask for any gifts back. Then learn to grow up.
I don't know!!!
Im a revenge guy,.
This girl has hung out in an insecure world, being a dick to the guy while using him to buy all this stuff that still does not make her happy! She wants more and more but is less and less appreciative.
I would say ..SURE LEAVE....and after your gone...if she calls you asking where this is...or that is...be real nice and deny any knowledge. Tell her it must have got misplaced in the move, but you ABSOLUTLEY DO NOT HAVE IT! Save the issue of asking for it.
Sometimes rings fall down sinks too!
Im a revenge guy,.
This girl has hung out in an insecure world, being a dick to the guy while using him to buy all this stuff that still does not make her happy! She wants more and more but is less and less appreciative.
I would say ..SURE LEAVE....and after your gone...if she calls you asking where this is...or that is...be real nice and deny any knowledge. Tell her it must have got misplaced in the move, but you ABSOLUTLEY DO NOT HAVE IT! Save the issue of asking for it.
Sometimes rings fall down sinks too!
WTF?
First tboy and now I'm agreeing with HOF?
I'm going out to buy a LottoMax ticket....
First Toronto, then Berlin. hahahahah. Sorry.LOL, I'll go in on a ticket with you! We win, we take over Toronto!
This is proof there is a god and she does have a sense of humour. most of the post are well said and I can't really add more to them. Asking for or taking back gifts is really not a good move. A $5000 purse? I don't spend that on a watch. How many miles to the galloon does it get. Sorry for your problems. The next time will be different. I suspect you're not mid 40's, short and bald, so there are plenty of women out there.
Then really show her and regift it to the next one. Show her how classy you really are.I don't know!!!
Im a revenge guy,.
This girl has hung out in an insecure world, being a dick to the guy while using him to buy all this stuff that still does not make her happy! She wants more and more but is less and less appreciative.
I would say ..SURE LEAVE....and after your gone...if she calls you asking where this is...or that is...be real nice and deny any knowledge. Tell her it must have got misplaced in the move, but you ABSOLUTLEY DO NOT HAVE IT! Save the issue of asking for it.
Sometimes rings fall down sinks too!
Hell, no ! It's not like you were loaning it to her as long as she put out. (Besides the Gucci bags and clothes just don't do you justice).So my question is, if we end up leaving each other (which is becoming more and more apparent from her behavior); do I get or ask for everything I have given her to date?
If it helps - this is just a small sample of what could have happened if you married her. If that was the case you not only would loose her and her stuff you gave her , you'd loose most of your own stuff too !
There are two choices: (1) Learn what a Gift is. Gifts were given; they're now hers. If you didn't want to give such a nice gift, then why did you do so? (2) Make yourself out to be a complete ass by asking her to give you a bunch of her own property (namely, the gifts you gave her).
You've been on an escort review board for 5 years. How great a boyfriend could you really have been?Hola amigos,
So I posted earlier bout relationship issues but it feel retarded and I don't want to leave her but no point being in something where I'm giving 100prcnt and she doesn't care....yet she gets pissed when I look at other women etc and says she loves me etc...anyz
So my question is, if we end up leaving each other (which is becoming more and more apparent from her behavior); do I get or ask for everything I have given her to date?
I have spent a lot of $ on her, buying clothes, louis, gucci bags over 5k, and so much more, which depresses me cause its a big sum!!!! So do I want all the items back and being a bitch like she is?!? I'm not sure what to do, cause I don't want to leave her but...ur input guys will be helpful and pls no wise_guy comments here...I'm being emotionally drained so suxs ass....thxs
Cheers
You bought her gifts dude. GIFTS. They belong to her now. Any woman you need to impress with bourgois labels isn't worth keeping around anyway.
Do what the rich do. Talk to a professional.Hola amigos,
So I posted earlier bout relationship issues but it feel retarded and I don't want to leave her but no point being in something where I'm giving 100prcnt and she doesn't care....yet she gets pissed when I look at other women etc and says she loves me etc...anyz
So my question is, if we end up leaving each other (which is becoming more and more apparent from her behavior); do I get or ask for everything I have given her to date?
I have spent a lot of $ on her, buying clothes, louis, gucci bags over 5k, and so much more, which depresses me cause its a big sum!!!! So do I want all the items back and being a bitch like she is?!? I'm not sure what to do, cause I don't want to leave her but...ur input guys will be helpful and pls no wise_guy comments here...I'm being emotionally drained so suxs ass....thxs
Cheers
In your case, a lawyer. If he advises you that the law allows you to reclaim that property and your situation meets the legal standard, do so accompanied with a police officer. Your lawyer should be able handle the logistics of such a thing.
If the lawyer says its gone forever as the law treats it as a gift, consider it a lesson learned. Going forward, just use and lose em, son.
