- A man once asked me out, and didn't bring any cash. I offered to pay the bill, and did. He let me. I never saw him again.
- A man once jokingly retorted after finding out my civilian occupation at the time, 'oh well, i guess our first date is on you'. We never had a first date.
- A man once asked me out to dinner. I had such a great conversation that I offered to treat him to our meal. He let me. I never saw him again.
- A man once asked me out to coffee. I said I prefer to do dinner rather than coffee, if our goal is to get to know one another. He insisted on coffee. I said no problem, we are on our way to being friends. We met for a coffee - he immediately wanted to have dinner upon seeing me. I reluctantly said yes. Afterwards, he asked if I was interested romantically. I reminded him of his ask for coffee even though I suggested otherwise, and said no thanks. He went home, full of regret.
- A man once offered to take me out to dinner. He also wanted to ensure we were going to fuck that night if he were going to take me out to dinner. I never responded.
- A man once offered to take me out to dinner. We exchanged numbers and I waited a couple days for him to reach out. After realizing he wouldn't, I proceeded with my life.
- A man once took me out to dinner. He appeared like prince charming with his wild ambitions and stories that he shared with me over dinner - I was mesmerized. He didn't contact me for over a week, leaving me feeling cold in the night. We haven't met since.
- A man once took me out to dinner. He couldn't talk about anything else but himself. I wonder who he really wanted to have dinner with, because it wasn't me. Maybe his mother.
- A man once texted me to set up a dinner date. We fell in love and we fell in lust. We dreamed of our futures together in a foreign land. Best sex I ever had. One time, he took me out to dinner, and I was too tired to prolong the evening. The man childishly got angry with me because his dick wasn't being tended to. I stopped lusting for him immediately after that.
- A man once took me out for several beautiful dinner dates. We tried to date, and had an intense rollercoaster professional/personal relationship.. but it just didn't work out in the end. I still think of him fondly to this day and we remain friends. He still takes me out to dinner once in a while, professionally.
- A man once offered to take me out to dinner. Instead, we stayed in and talked all night. We almost got married. We still keep in touch and are a great mental support to one another.
Coffee dates are for people who we are already acquainted and close with, or people we have no intention of getting close to (a co-worker, a friend, a stranger we don't want to give too much time or energy to). I have heard so many stories from jaded women who have the same mentality of 'I only want to expand as much energy as a coffee date would allow.. what if I don't like him?' Personally I feel that anyone with this mentality probably shouldn't even be going out to meet people on a romantic level. If you go about the world with that kind of pessimism, that's what you will attract. 'The other person NEEDS to invest in ME before I'm willing to spend any amount of extra effort or dollars on them' This only shows fear, cowardice, guardedness, rigidity.. as opposed to generosity, love, warmth, male-dominant-provider-stallion kinda vibe. I mean, it goes both ways. Both parties need to be equally willing to risk their time and energy and effort into a first date.. mutual vulnerability is a key factor. If one party is unwilling to be vulnerable, there really is no point in proceeding.
