best friend is dating an SP I saw but he doesnt know she escorts

[AJstar]

Ending up with someone else's leavings is hardly lucky
More pitiful

When an average terb user meets an sp we all know she is nothing more than a sperm receptacle
He is stuck with trying to get over the thousands of guys she slept with for money

Why are you even on this board?
You have no respect and are just a TROLL.

 

[red]

I got shocked when I saw their pics on facebook, I asked him about it and seems they are going for an LTR

Should I let him have fun for a while or should I tell him immediately?

Stay out of it

Tell us who she is.:eyebrows:

No - don't tell us

 

[red]

I got shocked when I saw their pics on facebook, I asked him about it and seems they are going for an LTR

Should I let him have fun for a while or should I tell him immediately?

It's none of your fucking business.

She's a human being and she's entitled to a bit of happiness and a personal relationship. Ditto your friend.

I find it really rich a guy who pays for sex judging a woman who sells sex.

Well said

 

[ikea123]

Make sure you post in the future when the reverse happens to you. You're out with your wife, Girlfriend, mother, sister when an SP you've seen in the past approaches you "with no problem saying hi"

See how you like it.

Idiot.

very well said James ...;-))

 

[lomotil]

After all, what are best friends for? What is the value of your friendship as best friends are invaluable. Your friendship may outlast this the sp ? Maybe the sp is indeed an honourable lady or maybe she is two(three,four..........,) timing your buddy the sucker? You can take the lady out of the trade but you cannot take the trade out of the lady. Having said that I can think of a few ladies still in the trade and some since retired for whom I have more respect and admiration for than for many civilian ladies. To the white knights in this thread who are defending the sp, put yourselves in the op's friend's shoes and tell me that you would not want to be told the truth!

 

[Allegra Escorts]

Let's flip the script for a second. Guys, let's say you're out with your wife/gf/significant other, and one of her friends (a former SP) recognizes you as one of her past clients. She's friends with your wife/gf/significant other.

Are you cool with her coming up to you, and asking you, "Does she know you used to be my client?"

Are you cool with her emailing you and saying, "You should really tell her what you used to do with me - when will you tell her?"

Are you cool with her deciding to tell your wife/gf/signigicant other what you do behind her back, because hey, you might be two/three/four-timing her sister?

Thought so.

Discretion is the better part of valour, for everyone in the hobby. If you don't understand that, you should really just stay home and jerk off instead.

~Allegra

 

[jcpro]

After all, what are best friends for? What is the value of your friendship as best friends are invaluable. Your friendship may outlast this the sp ? Maybe the sp is indeed an honourable lady or maybe she is two(three,four..........,) timing your buddy the sucker? You can take the lady out of the trade but you cannot take the trade out of the lady. Having said that I can think of a few ladies still in the trade and some since retired for whom I have more respect and admiration for than for many civilian ladies. To the white knights in this thread who are defending the sp, put yourselves in the op's friend's shoes and tell me that you would not want to be told the truth!

Exactly. Too many here have no clue what friendship is about.

 

[Titalian]

I can never understand why people here get involved in answering a troll like this. He only posted this
For attention. This exact story was rehashed in the past with 10 pages of posts behind it. Bottom line on this
Story, it's nobodies Fuken business. If their both happy, let it be. After all, who are we to voice what should be
Done. Except maybe for certain trolls on this board. I mean are we that hard up ????'

 

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I can never understand why people here get involved in answering a troll like this. He only posted this
For attention. This exact story was rehashed in the past with 10 pages of posts behind it. Bottom line on this
Story, it's nobodies Fuken business. If their both happy, let it be. After all, who are we to voice what should be
Done. Except maybe for certain trolls on this board. I mean are we that hard up ????'

Don't forget the white nights.

We all know the OP is trolling. Nobody cares about him. This is now about principles.

I think its fucking bullshit how many are blatantly laying about this whole thing and getting white knighted.

We are not talking about outing anybody here or approaching somebody out on the street. This is just wrong on all levels.

What we are talking about is your best fucking friend or a good friend. If you don't find a way to tell him or her and know he /she is getting played you are a BAD friend. If my wife's best friend knew I was cheating on my wife with MPAs, she has a hard choice to make, break up a happy marriage or keep her mouth shut. In this case she does what is ethical to her and I am prepared for the consequences, plus I think she knows. However, what we are talking about is the friend dating the SP with the possibility of being used and having SP fucking dudes on the side for money without him knowing.

Anybody with some common sense will figure it out, provided the friend is not a complete dumb ass. OK let's say he is a dumb ass, falls for the girl and eventually plans to marry her. But you know based on what he says and your observation that she is using him for money and he has no clue about it. If he/she is your good friend you bet your ass this guy/girl owes it to his/her friend to at least try to warn him/her without destroying the relationship. Yes yes yes, if the tables were reversed I would expect her girlfriend who say is an MPA and see's this guy regularly, somehow warn her friend if she is being used or played or is starting to fall for this cheating mofo.

Shame on you for being bed friends and not doing what is expected of good friends, shame on all the white knights being encouraged to sell their friends out for some fake promise of pussy.

I just shake my head since lot of truth is coming out here.

BTW WTG lomotil you some balls to say it how it is, to say the truth and what is right thing to do with a good friend.

 

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It is just her job, not her character.
At some point, yes it should be disclosed if they're seriously dating as when you're in a relationship you should know, purely for the health of it, whether or not your partner has other sexual partners outside of the relationship. However, it is up to the SP to divulge that, not the friend. The SP girlfriend is the same person, regardless of her profession. She could be an escort or a cashier or a lawyer - she still has the same character.
An SP working is a lot different than 'cheating.'
SP's aren't any more likely than any other women to use men in real life that aren't clients.
If anything; I'd say she's less likely to use him as she has plenty of other people p*ssyswhipped that she knows have a decent amount of $ that she doesn't have personal feelings for that she could 'use.'

OK let's take the SP out of the question. Let's you say best GF just found this wonderful guy and is so happy everything is perfect. Well one day you are strolling through the park and in the parking lot you see her BF fucking another woman in the car. Let's say you somehow know for sure she if getting played. What do you do, just stay quiet or tell you best friend what you saw or know. Or do you maintain the player code and give him a high five when you get a chance.

To me it is irrelevant if it is an SP or NOT. If you know your best friend is getting played you owe it to them to let then know if they are getting serious.

Unless the BF is okay with her being an SP, it is not right getting close to him + being intimate without him knowing or letting him know even if its for pay or play IMO.

 

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Again, the SP sleeping with CLIENTS is not her 'playing' him; it her job
If she is sleeping with civvies for pleasure then yes, yes that is cheating

It does not matter and you know it. If she does not tell her BF that she is currently fucking or making love to that she is also fucking other guys for money this is wrong.

The only way this is okay is if the guy is okay with it and she tells him. The same is true if the roles were reversed.

Would you say the same thing if you knew your best GFis dating a male SP that she does not know is a male SP and you knew she did not know about him being an SP but they are still being intimate. Would you tell her or not?

 

[TeeJay]

The SP girlfriend is the same person, regardless of her profession. She could be an escort or a cashier or a lawyer - she still has the same character.
An SP working is a lot different than 'cheating.'

How so?

By your warped view is it also not cheating if a guy's girlfriend has a sugar daddy on the side? After all she is only with him to pay the rent

Or even for that matter if she goes out, gets drunk, and sleeps with someone (after all the guy did pay her bar tab which could easily be $100+)

Sex for money is cheating
I would think that is obvious to anyone

 

[TeeJay]

Why are you even on this board?
You have no respect and are just a TROLL.

It's funny how truth hurts eh
No this is not a troll but I am sure some white knights think it is trolling

If I had a friend I would out her
Regardless of whether I paid for her in the past or just randomly saw her posts on this board or wherever

After I was sure he knew what she did (or used to) then it is his choice

 

[boomboom]

It's none of your fucking business.

She's a human being and she's entitled to a bit of happiness and a personal relationship. Ditto your friend.

I find it really rich a guy who pays for sex judging a woman who sells sex.

BANG on correct

 

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Quote Originally Posted by james t kirk View Post
It's none of your fucking business.

She's a human being and she's entitled to a bit of happiness and a personal relationship. Ditto your friend.

I find it really rich a guy who pays for sex judging a woman who sells sex.
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BANG on correct

You guys are out to lunch with this. It is not about the SP, this is about your best friend.

Difference here is that we know it is wrong and acknowledge it that we cheat on our wife by paying for SPs or MPAs, and still we choose to cheat.

You guys pick and choose what's right and wrong and convince yourself it is right because you want to.

The only way this is okay of he or she knows about it. Being in an intimate relationship and not telling your partner that you fuck people for a living is wrong on so many levels, especially if you are just starting a relationship. Also lying on here that you wouldn't back your best friend (he or she) just for knight points is also plain wrong and pathetic.

I would rather acknowledge something is wrong and still choose to do it, vs. just pretending to say things that will get me a pat on the back and peoples approval. Just fucking pathetic.

 

[Asclepius]

I'd be far more upset if I was dating a woman and then found out that her job involved cold calling elderly people to rip off their savings with some Ponzi scheme.

 

[TeeJay]

I'd be far more upset if I was dating a woman and then found out that her job involved cold calling elderly people to rip off their savings with some Ponzi scheme.

Really EVERY sales job is ripping people off
Regardless of what company you work for

Some people are more ruthless than others but everyone will take $$$ off a sucker to make quota sooner or later

 

[fuji]

Let's flip the script for a second. Guys, let's say you're out with your wife/gf/significant other, and one of her friends (a former SP) recognizes you as one of her past clients. She's friends with your wife/gf/significant other.

Are you cool with her coming up to you, and asking you, "Does she know you used to be my client?"

Are you cool with her emailing you and saying, "You should really tell her what you used to do with me - when will you tell her?"

Are you cool with her deciding to tell your wife/gf/signigicant other what you do behind her back, because hey, you might be two/three/four-timing her sister?

Thought so.

Discretion is the better part of valour, for everyone in the hobby. If you don't understand that, you should really just stay home and jerk off instead.

~Allegra

More or less yes, I am OK with those questions, but I judge it to be far less likely to be brought up.

An SP is FAR more public than a client, SP's advertise, have a stage name, likely have at least partial pictures up online, develop a public reputation, and are recognized by FAR more people, some of whom may have no interest in discretion, or just no tact.

Point being that your friend WILL find out what his gf used to do, it is only a matter of time. Somewhere at some party summer obnoxious drunk will confront him with it.

So the only question really is do you want your friend to find out from his GF so they can discuss it honestly and decide how to handle that scenario together?

Or do you want to just let him get thrown to the lions when trust happens, shocked and unable to respond ACS looking stupid?

Of course he has to know, and the best way for him to find out is from her.

 

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More or less yes, I am OK with those questions, but I judge it to be far less likely to be brought up.

An SP is FAR more public than a client, SP's advertise, have a stage name, likely have at least partial pictures up online, develop a public reputation, and are recognized by FAR more people, some of whom may have no interest in discretion, or just no tact.

Point being that your friend WILL find out what his gf used to do, it is only a matter of time. Somewhere at some party summer obnoxious drunk will confront him with it.

So the only question really is do you want your friend to find out from his GF so they can discuss it honestly and decide how to handle that scenario together?

Or do you want to just let him get thrown to the lions when trust happens, shocked and unable to respond ACS looking stupid?

Of course he has to know, and the best way for him to find out is from her.

Wow...I actually agree what Fuji has to say.

This is exactly the heart of the matter. If she/he really wants to take this relationship further it is in their best interests to disclose these kind of things. Unless, they have ulterior motives for not disclosure, how can trust be build if you are not honest provided the relationship is progressing in the positive direction.

The only time it is okay not to disclose to your SO what you do if it's a matter of Canada's security or well being, such as if you work undercover or for the government classified and/or restricted projects.

In addition there are many guys that accept what you do and will respect you a lot more if you are honest near the beginning. I am not saying on the first date, but if things start to get real or just before is a good time for the well being of trust and respect.

Well put Fuji :frusty: never thought I would ever say that

Remember true friendship can last a lifetime however SOs can come and go. How can you betray your friend like that, of course its your business to watch out for a good friend.

 

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+1

Exactly.

How is an sp using this guy when she is most likely the one with more money, sexual experience, more personable and friendly.
What does this guy have to bring to the table that she can't get for herself?

Women don't use their so if they are in this field bc they are highly independent and financially well off.
Civilian women are more apt to use a man and suck him dry by pretending to be madly in love with him.

Most of us girls just want to love and be loved by our so.
Everything else doesn't matter. While the job entails sexual services with other men what we do t get from other men while on the job is intimacy, cuddling, making love, experimenting with our so sexual ly what his limits are, and learning about the other persons morale and character. We love spending "time" with our man outside of work.
We value that individual and treat that man way better then any civilian woman would because we understand their value.

I highly doubt that woman is using this fella. And I bet she is giving him the time of his life. If this OP does say anything to his friend it's not out of friends ship that he would say abything , it would be out of jealousy.

Wow, what a fucking double standard, it would be out of jealousy, seriously are you a psychic now in addition to knowing everything there is to know about a client from the first couple of minutes you see them (your words from a previous thread). Is this why the SP does not want to disclose to the one she is falling for or may love what she really does. And this is not using him. This is the prime betrayal of trust, and trust me we know your loser clients

If you are not being honest with your SO in a deep relationships with what you do, provided it is not a matter or national security, you are using them, being selfish and only thinking about your self.

I guess being an SP gives your permissions to keep this part back from your SO but expect honesty in return.

Well at least this thread can severe as a good public announcement to highlight the jellous selfie clients that are people like me and are just trying to make SPs look bad because we are jellous.


I guess being an SP gives you permission to be secretive in a relationship and make up your own rules and double standards as you please Zup zup...:thumb: let's all bow down to the mighty SP

Good thing not all SPs/MPAs are like this and are some of the most realest women I've met with more integrity that all of us put together in this thread.