Yes. And the longer the relationship lasts the higher the chances it will eventually happen.Seriously?
You are so certain that she will be recognized?
Why on earth would you think he doesnt know? Really in the age of google- he hasn't googled her and found out -assuming she hasnt told him.I am not proposing that he be ambushed. I am proposing the only solution that gives the relationship the fighting chance it deserves, to ensure that she tells him, on her own terms, with the right lead up so they can discuss it as adults and if he is OK with it then they can move forward and face the issue together as a couple. When some drunk fuck at a party starts yapping they can respond to that together.
Any answer to this question has to be based in reality. Reality is that unless they move away from the city where she worked there are many many men who will recognize her. No way to keep it a secret only question is HOW be finds out and whether it comes to him as a betrayal of as a development.
Well here are the issue with your righteousness. First of all we don't know if he knows or not. Secondly the relationship seems to be relatively young and maybe just maybeYes. And the longer the relationship lasts the higher the chances it will eventually happen.
They have NO FUTURE if she doesn't come clean: This is a big deal to keep secret and he will lose ALL trust in her when he finds out the hard way.
On the other hand if she breaks it to him gently by telling her story in context then he may just deal with it and then they really are set up for success.
If he already knows then asking her to tell him had ZERO DOWNSIDE, she already knows the OP knows. If he doesn't know asking her to tell him is all upside.Why on earth would you think he doesnt know? Really in the age of google- he hasn't googled her and found out -assuming she hasnt told him.
It is very unlikely- so if he hasn't told you- he doesn't want you to know or talk about it with you. Thats more likely than he doesn't know
Your issues with me, anything at all about me, is off topic. The issue is what is best for the OP and his friend and this SP.Well here are the issue with your righteousness.
Doesn't matter. See my post to red for why it doesn't.First of all we don't know if he knows or not.
This will help her make up her mind.Secondly the relationship seems to be relatively young and maybe just maybe
she does truly like him but is wondering whether this guy is ready for the truth so she's pacing herself.
If her livelihood is incompatible with a relationship with the OP's friend that is something they should discuss as a couple and decide how to handle.As well as to not let it affect her lively hood.
Another thing they can discuss as a couple. "I really like you but while you are doing this job let's keep it pretty casual and non committal" is a totally valid adult conversation they might have. Or they might have a different conversion, it is up to them to discuss and work out.After all he himself
might just be enjoying the sex for the time being, maybe she wants to know if its more than that.
Maybe try reading my posts before writing about what you think I would do. My posts are just above, not hard to find, you don't have to make stupid statements like this, just a little advanced reading and you would know I would talk to HER, not himAlong comes Mr. righteous (fugi) yes the be all know it all and spills the beans to his friend.
