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stinkynuts

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Made up story.

The only things that is missing is that the next day the girl showed up at his doorstep crying and begging him to book at least a half-hour lol
I diagree. I can usually sniff out a made-up story. To me, there are just too many tells that lead me conclude this is 100% real. However, I do still think that on some level he does have feelings for her, although he denies it. I could be wrong on that, though.
 
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dotdotdot69

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Doesn't seem like he has emotional feelings. He generally only brought her 2 gifts which were small and the 3rd was due to being her bday. Either way it's annoying af and a huge mood kill what she did. And at $600/90mins it's good he got a full refund. Some people are that oblivious in this world, but he finally told her what the issues were when he was trying to even sway the convo and she wasn't getting it. Some people are built like that.
 

xix

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La la land
I show her the respect that’s asked by us as clients when we book and when we see a SP that day. All I was hoping for was the same. She learned from this and whomever sees her from here on out will hopefully never have my kind of experience I had with her.
She never learned from this lesson. And she never will. 95 % of the people never learn from anything.
Not good to give a second chance RFM.
You have to stand up for the paid service or this would not be respect to the client.

Made up story.

The only things that is missing is that the next day the girl showed up at his doorstep crying and begging him to book at least a half-hour lol
I have to agree, one of those AI or the loco poster lurking / trolling here.

Also to @SlickRickBBD to me this sounds like someone mentioned / posted, she was getting ready to dump you because she moved up to the big leagues or was bored with you, seen this type of behavior with regular people.
 
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dotdotdot69

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I agree with the above user. If she did this on purpose instead of being ditsy there was probably 2 reasons:

1. Like already stated above to dump you and move on. Her having a 5 hour longer date and putting the dress out there could have been a lie, but it doesn't really matter if it was the truth or not.

2. Because she reached back out to you and apologized she probably still wants you as a client but perhaps her motive was to make you jealous or something so that you yourself would spend more on her next time than 90 mins or you get jealous and want to match or out due the guy who's coming for 5 hours.

Could be a business tactic a SP uses to lure clients into spending more. In this "game", "session", "play", etc. whatever you wanna call it it's about at times knowing how to sell so the consumer spends more. Some of these SPs who can get miserable due to their wants will also at times perhaps use emotion to get someone to help them out without putting in the work like some trade worker renovating her place at very little or free of charge basically with maybe some action here or there. It's generally the nice guys who fall for it or think in the back of their mind she'll actually fall for him or want them.

I personally won't date anyone anymore who's wanting, wanting and wanting and will cry wolf because I didn't give into another request. I have dated the few like this in my 20's and it's super annoying. The guy seeing her for 5 hours might only see her a few times then move on to another lady. Then she'll be miserable because she's lost that revenue coming in. Some of these ladies have some "Cinderalla" mindset where some wealthy guy will end up with them and shower them. It's also annoying if you start gifting people bigger items like a luxury bag because then they expect gifts in that price range or higher and it gets annoying. It becomes a game of "OMG my client/bf got me an authentic LV bag, but after that he keeps getting me items worth less". In their minds they think that you think they are worth less and get upset and move on to the next guy with funds. A lot of rich people and celebs typically deal with this too if they date those kinds of woman and men tend to lash out once the money is draining or they get tired of spending on things to constantly please someone that's highly materialistic and most people (men or women) that are materialistic in a sense live sad lives. The idea you need to walk out of your place rocking a brand that shouts "I'm wearing a badge that cost $400" usually leads to a sad life where people like that struggle with happiness.

You got time to think about the entire thing in your head and if you and her still wanna see each other because the sex was fire then continue otherwise there's nothing wrong with moving on because there's tons of options out there for her and yourself. Shrug it off and carry on. And generally when a SP finds a suitable partner/bf she tends to retire from this line of business and most times there's no need for her to tell any client (including who was her first) that she's done with the business.
 
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Snapcat

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I had a 1 hour meeting, services were fulfilled, she got up to freshen up a little after which I expected her to return to bed but instead she said she had to take care of something and got dressed. I didn't object since I figured we would carry on when she returned but then her words made it obvious that once she came back she expected me to leave. It was only when she had left that I realized I had been there for only +/- 35 minutes! Remember we're supposedly paying for companionship ( this wasn't a low cost or leolist sp ) and I had seen her before.
I didn't complain when she returned but followed her cues and left. Now by this point I had been there for almost an hour but she hadn't been!
Should I go see her ever again? :unsure:
 
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stinkynuts

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I had a 1 hour meeting, services were fulfilled, she got up to freshen up a little after which I expected her to return to bed but instead she said she had to take care of something and got dressed. I didn't object since I figured we would carry on when she returned but then her words made it obvious that once she came back she expected me to leave. It was only when she had left that I realized I had been there for only +/- 35 minutes! Remember we're supposedly paying for companionship ( this wasn't a low cost or leolist sp ) and I had seen her before.
I didn't complain when she returned but followed her cues and left. Now by this point I had been there for almost an hour but she hadn't been!
Should I go see her ever again? :unsure:
Absolutely not
 

dotdotdot69

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You could inform her over text nicely about the situation and decide if you want to see her one more time or not. Some clients will speak up about it during a 1 hour session if the lady ends things early like after the first shot too. She could have spent time with you cuddling and making light convo or offering a massage, but most aren't RMTs and I find their massage to be just okay from the few who did give me one lol. For a hour session you should be getting close to the entire time you booked with her. Some ladies to pull things on clients like saying they have a headache as in hinting they don't want you to go round 2 either and just leave. Not worth repeating I'd say typically and they probably wonder why they can't get repeats at times.
 

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The provider forgets the money will not be endless. Their income is impacted by the economy like everyone else. When a recession hits the client, they have less money for this hobby. The 5 hour date may get reduced 1 or 2 hours.

Looks fad. If they want to survive in the industry, service needs to be the priority.
 

BobbyRyan81

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I had a 1 hour meeting, services were fulfilled, she got up to freshen up a little after which I expected her to return to bed but instead she said she had to take care of something and got dressed. I didn't object since I figured we would carry on when she returned but then her words made it obvious that once she came back she expected me to leave. It was only when she had left that I realized I had been there for only +/- 35 minutes! Remember we're supposedly paying for companionship ( this wasn't a low cost or leolist sp ) and I had seen her before.
I didn't complain when she returned but followed her cues and left. Now by this point I had been there for almost an hour but she hadn't been!
Should I go see her ever again? :unsure:
No and on 2 months time if not sooner with the way the economy is going she will regret not having as you as a reg.
 

GeeBee

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It sounds like she was taking a good client for granted, got called out on it (good on you OP) and eventually saw the error of her ways. She apologised and returned the fee (good on her)

It’s pretty hard for most of us to admit we’ve made a mistake, and TBH she seems more mature than I’d initially thought.

I find it very distasteful when SP’s talk about other clients though, both good and bad. Any other professional should never do this and if an SP wants to be treated like one she shouldn’t either. If my lawyer started telling me about her other clients she’d be done as my counsel in a heartbeat. For a lawyer it’s simply unethical. But the best SP’s are fantastic creating an illusion of companionship and connection for her clients. The guy she’s with should be the focus of her attention for every minute of the date, and when an SP achieves this she’s at the top tier of her profession, no matter what her rates are.

It’s also similar to SP’s posting pictures of expensive gifts and trips on their social media. I don't like it, and it turns me off of wanting to see her.
 

whitmore

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I find it very distasteful when SP’s talk about other clients though, both good and bad. Any other professional should never do this and if an SP wants to be treated like one she shouldn’t either.
When she talks about other clients, she probably talks about you as well.
 
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Sorry to hear about your experience, OP.

I've had many terrible experiences as well. And sometimes repeating multiple times leads to worse service, as the provider becomes complacent and feels that she can get away with putting in less effort. This is because you keep coming back, no matter what.

It seems that you had some feelings/connection with her. Hence the repeats and gifts, something that one normally wouldn't do unless they really cared about the person. Also, I can sense the hurt (understandbly) that wouldn't exist if you had no feelings for her.

The sad reality is that escorts generally do not reciprocate those feelings. Your gifts, such as flowers, would be well-received and appreciated by your wife (if you have one), but not most escorts. Flowers have no practical value, and are generally thrown away and not appreciated.

$600 for 90 minutes is a lot of money, and as a repeat cllient, who just brought gifts, it would be reasonable to expect good service. The fact that she didn't dress up, casually tossed the flowers, then talked on and on about her next clients reveals the painful truth: she doesn't value you as much as you'd like. Actions reveal one's true thoughts and feelings. To her, you were not as important than the other guy that day. The real catch is the guy who booked 5 hours and presumably will pay at least $2,000.

Of course, her attitude is completely wrong. She was probably so excited and could only think about all the money she was going to make, and had to share it with someone. It was very poor judgment to share it with you.

Her actions after the event also reveals another truth: she was genuinely sorry and felt terrible for the way she acted. She refunded the money, apologized, and I believe her when she said she didn't realize how much she took you for granted, and that she couldn't enjoy her next date.

If I were you, I would give her another chance. I do think that this event should alert you to the fact that she doesn't have feelings for you, however you feel about her, and that from now on you should enjoy the sessions without any expectation of reciprocal feelings beyond that of escort and client. She viewed you as a good client who she was comfortable with, and could share her thoughts with. In a sense, it is a good thing that she is comfortable with you. However, she crossed a boundary and realized it.

Now that this boundary has been established, perhaps future sessions will be better.

I suggest you book one more session to see how it goes, and take it from there. There is nothing to be lost, really, at this point. However, it seems this lady is very special, and it would be as shame to rob yourself of any future pleasurable experiences because of what may have been a naive misjudgement on her part. Many escorts are in the position they are because they lack certain skills. Some may be on the spectrum, and lack social skills and judgement.

Whatever you do, I wish you all the best.

>> It seems that you had some feelings/connection with her. Hence the repeats and gifts, something that one normally wouldn't do unless they really cared about the person. Also, I can sense the hurt (understandbly) that wouldn't exist if you had no feelings for her. <<<

This shouldn't be an assumption or a blanket statement, IMO. I have seen a handful of SPs for multi hour dates, multiple times (repeats) and I typically have some type of gift(s) for them. Just because I have done what you described, doesn't mean I have feelings for them. I value the time I spend with them, and I appreciate the friendliness the SPs have shown me, but that doesn't mean I've fallen for them. I KNOW this is a business. I KNOW this is a transaction. But, some SPs can turn that transaction into companionship. That's what I look forward. The way I look at it... I repeat with SPs that I am comfortable with. I look at it like I just made another friend...but not a GF. That's why it's called the girlfriend EXPERIENCE. I enjoy giving them a gift because I like being nice to people that are nice to me. If I met a stranger at the bar and we're having a great time yakking it up, there's a good chance I'll buy them a beer. It doesn't mean I want to marry them or become BFF with them!

Going back to the OP post... I couldn't imagine going thru that. I'm just thinking of the SPs I have repeated with... and I can't even fathom them doing such a thing. I am glad you spoke up (professionally and politely) and I am torn on what you should do based on her reaction. I will give her credit for sending back the money and profusely apologizing. Who knows... maybe she was just having a bad day or just wasn't on her game that particular moment. We are all humans. We all make mistakes. She tried to make it right (after the fact) but I can understand why you wouldn't want to go back. This is a sales job. You are only as good as your last sale.
 

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She offered me another date free of charge. Told her I’d get back to her. I don’t know if I will take her up on her offer.
I would take her up on that. That's a lovely gesture. Together with the refund, it sound like she wants to make ammends.

Listen, especially if she is young, she was probably excited about her upcoming 5 hr date and because she is comfortable with you, she wanted to share. It's good that you corrected her but there's no point to have sour grapes about. Forgive her and go enjoy that free session.

If not, let me have it. 🤣
 
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