Akwward situation.....need advice!

[scubadoo]

Hi All,

I have a bit of an akward situation and I am in need of some advice.

Last night I over heard a conversation between my wife and my best friends wife. My best friends marriage has been a little shaky as of late. His wife was describing to my wife how she can bare to have sex with my best friend anymore. At one point she described a situation from a couple of nights ago, my best friend wanted sex and kinda poked her on the shoulder and said hey can we have sex. His wife said yes..but she was telling my wife how awful she felt doing it. That she spent most of the time making up a shopping list in her head while they were having sex etc etc.

Should I tell my best friends what I overheard? Should I just keep my mouth shut? Any advice would be welcome.

 

[beaver]

hi.

tell ur bestfriend...wouldnt YOU want to know if the roles were reversed?

 

[great bear]

Give him a shopping list. Wait until he goes shopping. Bang his wife.

 

[check_mate]

try to take your best friends wife shopping, making sure she gets everything off her list.......then take her home and you can start going through your list

 

[Questor]

Hi All,

I have a bit of an akward situation and I am in need of some advice.

Should I tell my best friends what I overheard? Should I just keep my mouth shut? Any advice would be welcome.

I can't imagine what you would hope to accomplish by telling your friend what his wife said to your wife in confidence. And I missed the part where your friend asked for your counsel in his sex life.

 

[fjdude]

Give him a shopping list. Wait until he goes shopping. Bang his wife.

Scoobadoo...is Great Bear your best friend?

 

[rub & tug]

tell him and dont even think twice about it. thats what best friends do for eachother. these guys telling you not to probably have a warm can of beer for a best friend.

 

[scubadoo]

Thanks.....looks like the majority think I should say nothing. I'll keep this to myself.

 

[rub & tug]

Thanks.....looks like the majority think I should say nothing. I'll keep this to myself.

dont make that mistake. tell him. he deserves it...especially if it is your "best friend"

 

[scubadoo]

To tell you the truth....the "I made up my shopping list" line was actually kinda funny in a weird way...she was talking about my best friend. I wonder if making a shopping list is what the majority of wives do while having sex?

 

[Stoo]

...my best friend wanted sex and kinda poked her on the shoulder and said hey can we have sex.

If you are going to talk to your friend, you might give him some tips on foreplay. Otherwise, stay out of their lovelife, unless they invite you for a threesome. You can't win.

 

[papasmerf]

either tell him or help he disappear from the face of the earth. Remember this that who ever files for divorce wins

 

[PHNINE]

You shouldn't tell him yet, not off one over heard conversation. You have no idea what the consequences may be when he finds out. Perhaps you should ask him about their sex life first. Play detective in a way, try to mend the situation indirectly without telling him the actual information. Recommend a sex book, an intimate getaway, or perhaps sex therapy. You cannot just tell him this damaging information when you have no idea of any further details. This may ruin their marriage and you would be responsible. Take your time with this, and try to help them instead of planting a "bad" seed in his head. I hope my advice helps, it may be a more logical way of approaching this.

 

[torex]

Last night I over heard a conversation between my wife and my best friends wife

question?.... What does your wife tell her about you? ... does your wife know you over heard the conversation?

either way , keep your mouth shut. If your wife does'nt know you heard the conversation, don't let her know.... pretend you never heard it.

 

[rub & tug]

but it is a more logical way of approaching this.

logical in the way a mouse trys to eat a cat. tell your buddy you overheard the conversation. then he has something to look for before he files for divorce.

 

[PHNINE]

logical in the way a mouse trys to eat a cat. tell your buddy you overheard the conversation. then he has something to look for before he files for divorce.

huh?

 

[rub & tug]

huh?

exactly. no logic to your "way" of going about it. tell the dude and tell him now, he will thank you for it.

 

[scubadoo]

question?.... What does your wife tell her about you? ... does your wife know you over heard the conversation?

either way , keep your mouth shut. If your wife does'nt know you heard the conversation, don't let her know.... pretend you never heard it.

My wife has no idea I overhead the conversation.

 

[papasmerf]

My wife has no idea I overhead the conversation.

Why not ask her is your friends wife said anything to her about their marriage. When she asks why tell her it is because your friend feels like it is slipping away

See how honest she is with you

 

[torex]

Originally Posted by torex
question?.... What does your wife tell her about you? ... does your wife know you over heard the conversation?

just wanted to clarify that in no way was that a poke at you or your wife...just interesting to see if your wife tells you.

papasmerf's suggestion might be a good way to approach it