$2000 for an hour - which expectations?
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Yes, divorce has broke him down.. But that can be his personality. I met one guy before I took a break last year. He couldn't reach me, but in convercation I mentioned that Magi is my friend. He booked her for an hour extended for 2hrs guess what they did - talked about his feelings to me. And he saw me just once!Mia.Colpa said:
Now I have a guy who pays long term appoins just to talk, go for dinner, etc - I'm like a magnet for desperate divorced men
Kristy: you are not alone in having some clients who prefer to be with you just to talk, dinner ect. Quite a few of the more mature well spoken girls in the business also have this happening. Its a good thing, and a reflection on your personality. PS Keep the coat. GBKristy7700 said:Yes, divorce has broke him down.. But that can be his personality. I met one guy before I took a break last year. He couldn't reach me, but in convercation I mentioned that Magi is my friend. He booked her for an hour extended for 2hrs guess what they did - talked about his feelings to me. And he saw me just once!
Now I have a guy who pays long term appoins just to talk, go for dinner, etc - I'm like a magnet for desperate divorced men
Be gentle with him, very gentle. Lots of hurting out there. Lots of suicides.Kristy7700 said:
P.S. No ladies will ever have to worry about getting a long stunning $2,000 leather coat from me. Maybe a baseball cap with a "Coors Light" logo. If you see a guy in an SC wearing a "Coors Light" baseball cap it is likely me.
You need to straighten this guy out and get him to wake up! He is thinking of you too much. If you are not "in to him" then make sure he knows it so he can move on and find somebody else.
This guy sounds like he should join a dating service and leave the escorts for right now. He is looking for love, companionship...sure an escort can give him companionship but not love.
There is many single ladies who are looking for someone to love, he needs to find her and get on with his life. (ok they may not be smoking hot, lol) He should move on thou. Your friend may need to explain it to him if you are unable.
This guy sounds like he should join a dating service and leave the escorts for right now. He is looking for love, companionship...sure an escort can give him companionship but not love.
There is many single ladies who are looking for someone to love, he needs to find her and get on with his life. (ok they may not be smoking hot, lol) He should move on thou. Your friend may need to explain it to him if you are unable.
Kristy
You probably should not see him for a while...maybe ever!
It is also best you tell him personally.
An email is fine, a phone call is better, a face to face only if you think he's been more than a client to you, but be gentle for sure.
After all, going through a divorce is always stressful.
Also remember, he is not a close, endearing and longtime friend. He is your client who went too far and became emotionally attached! Whatever way you feel comfortable is best. You obviously have deep respect and consideration in people.
Offering the coat back would also be an honourable thing to do since you don't even like it! He will probably say no. You can do what you like with it. Wear it...give it away...cut it up into something you like. At least you would have tried to do the respectful thing.
My two cents
HtM
You probably should not see him for a while...maybe ever!
It is also best you tell him personally.
An email is fine, a phone call is better, a face to face only if you think he's been more than a client to you, but be gentle for sure.
After all, going through a divorce is always stressful.
Also remember, he is not a close, endearing and longtime friend. He is your client who went too far and became emotionally attached! Whatever way you feel comfortable is best. You obviously have deep respect and consideration in people.
Offering the coat back would also be an honourable thing to do since you don't even like it! He will probably say no. You can do what you like with it. Wear it...give it away...cut it up into something you like. At least you would have tried to do the respectful thing.
My two cents
HtM
I say keep the coat. Continue to see him as a client if you like him, but tell him that while you are grateful for the beautiful coat and like having him as a client, you aren't interested in a relationship, just so he knows.
I mean, if you are interested in a mistress relationship, go for it, but if you're not, just tell him that upfront. If he complains, then you can say you'll return the coat, and it is unlikely he will take it back. He may or may not keep coming as a client (pardon the pun).
I've dated SP's before outside of work. If you don't want that, just tell him upfront if he asks you to come to his house to hang out. If a guy is looking for a mistress or g/f in his SP, it is up to her to decide if she wants that or not and tell him. Every SP is different...I've seen SP's who very much are looking for a mistress relationship with one rich client.
If he is upset over his divorce and he is looking for the second Mrs. Big and he thinks you are hot and nice and fit the bill quite nicely, thank you (and I clicked on your pics and you are HOT so he has good taste...I'll have to see you one time too), just nicely tell him that while you like having him as a client you're not looking for a relationship outside of work.
I mean, if you are interested in a mistress relationship, go for it, but if you're not, just tell him that upfront. If he complains, then you can say you'll return the coat, and it is unlikely he will take it back. He may or may not keep coming as a client (pardon the pun).
I've dated SP's before outside of work. If you don't want that, just tell him upfront if he asks you to come to his house to hang out. If a guy is looking for a mistress or g/f in his SP, it is up to her to decide if she wants that or not and tell him. Every SP is different...I've seen SP's who very much are looking for a mistress relationship with one rich client.
If he is upset over his divorce and he is looking for the second Mrs. Big and he thinks you are hot and nice and fit the bill quite nicely, thank you (and I clicked on your pics and you are HOT so he has good taste...I'll have to see you one time too), just nicely tell him that while you like having him as a client you're not looking for a relationship outside of work.
To return or not return the coat. Looks like there are two schools of thought. Guess Kristy, and only Kristy, will have to make the final decision.
In any case, Kristy should politely and gently explain to the client in person (no text messaging) that she sees him strictly as a client (nothing more and certainly nothing less.)
In any case, Kristy should politely and gently explain to the client in person (no text messaging) that she sees him strictly as a client (nothing more and certainly nothing less.)
I've seen him just twice and my nice attitude was the result of repect for choosing me from all SPs and being nice. He seems took that a wrong way..
Can I just do not respond his e-mails?
Can I just do not respond his e-mails?
You could always tell him that you do not think the coat is an appropriate gift as you are in a relationship with someone else.Kristy7700 said:I've seen him just twice and my nice attitude was the result of repect for choosing me from all SPs and being nice. He seems took that a wrong way..
Can I just do not respond his e-mails?
Kristy, it seems that you already know what you must do.Kristy7700 said:I've seen him just twice and my nice attitude was the result of repect for choosing me from all SPs and being nice. He seems took that a wrong way..
Can I just do not respond his e-mails?
The question is: by email, phone or in-person.
You must feel comfortable in your choice. Ignoring it would be cruel unless, you think he's a little....unstable...
In my opinion, and it's still only mine, strongly offer to return the coat.
He needs to know that it's not about a coat...
Who knows? In time, he could become a great client, the one we all dream of becoming!
My four cents!!! (God, I should have been a lawyer.)
HtM
I say keep the coat. We men are a strange bunch sometimes. I've spent some crazy money on women myself as I think many of us have. Crazy relative to our earnings that is. Yeah this is a one way deal and as long as you make it clearly known the listening is up to him. He is a grown man afterall.
Having had your pleasure a couple times, I can see how he's smitten.
Having had your pleasure a couple times, I can see how he's smitten.
well coming from a girl that worked in the industry, these type of sugar daddy things don't work. it is simple...why do you think these sugar daddy's insist on giving money, presents, trips, and even cars? And it isn't just them having too much money because there are alot of broke ass scrubs trying to do the same. these guys do all this for one main reason and that is so they can fuck the girl without any obstacles. He feels like he deserves it. The girl looks around and doesn't want to lose the lifestyle, so she takes it. If the girl didn't take the money, then it really becomes just like any other relationship or dating situation. One big difference is obvious...sex is not guarenteed, owed, or expected. lesson i learned...money does make the world go round.
give the gift back if you want him out of your life.
and if you do decide to continue seeing him, take my advice, never see him for more then 2-3 hours at a time. keeps it business that way.
good luck
give the gift back if you want him out of your life.
and if you do decide to continue seeing him, take my advice, never see him for more then 2-3 hours at a time. keeps it business that way.
good luck
Seem to recall a story where a guy spent like $140,000 (cashed in his RRSP) on an escort. He sued and I think he actually won something in court and she had to return some money and gifts. Does anybody else remember this story?ExGFE said:
LOL.. Spoken like someone who isn't divorced!fuji said:
When I left/got tossed, all I took with me was a chair, a stereo, 800 CDs and a bunch of books. Believe me, post divorce, the only thing you're likely to get that's expensive is the lawyer's bill!
I was wondering about that possibility too. If it was, giving it to her might've given him even more pleasure.stang said:
Regarding scams and scruples, the absolute worst is SPs accepting the dead wife's jewellery from grieving widowers!!!!!
