$2000 for an hour - which expectations?

[fuji]

If Kristy did in fact accept the expensive gift wouldn't it be leading the vulnerable recently divorced guy on?

Is it possible he is offloading his ex-wife's stuff and really doesn't ever want to see or be reminded of it again? Maybe it would depress him to try and sell it, but equally depresses him to have it around. Giving it to the first attractive woman that comes along might be making him happy!

I know if I ever got a divorce we have lots of expensive things which are also sentimental for various reasons and it would depress the hell out of me to have to sell that stuff. Handing it all out to pretty girls might be my solution too!

 

[Rockslinger]

On the second date he gave me as a present long stunning leather coat. I would not fall in love with that gentleman

Ok, there is only one solution. You have to cut him off. It might hurt for a little while but it is best for all concerned.

 

[squash500]

Is it possible he is offloading his ex-wife's stuff.

Why wouldn't his ex-wife take her own coat with her?


I'm totally speculating here. Kristy is a very attractive sp. This guy is just recovering from a divorce. He is probably needy as hell---lol.

I've learned a few things in my 46 years---lol. People don't do things without ulterior motives in mind. This guy already wants Kristy to go up north with him. Why else give her such an expensive gift right off the bat?

I could be totally wrong but I think Kristy should return the coat. As always just my opinion!

 

[tboy]

But this gift is not a bottle of wine or a $100 gift certificate to Holt Renfrew, this is a long stunning leather coat valued at $2,000. This is way over the top. We are talking mistress territory now.

To you, but to some people a $2000.00 coat is a cheapie. it's all relative.

There is nothing wrong with a woman accepting a gift from a customer. I often have given things to my favourites. The only time it is a problem is if it is given with strings attached. (and it seems there are in this case).

To the OP: make sure you make it perfectly clear that this is a business transaction, nothing more.

 

[Barca]

To the OP: make sure you make it perfectly clear that this is a business transaction, nothing more.

And that goes a long way to absolving any responsibility in my mind. If the guy then continues to fantasize, that's his problem. She's done the decent thing and made things clear to him. Guys believe what they want to believe and the price they pay is their own responsibility. It's not up to her to solve his issues.

 

[smylee52]

Are you sure he paid retail for the coat ?

 

[Aardvark154]

Not necessarily, it would depend on his net worth/income.

For you maybe this is mistress territory, maybe not for him.

The point is not the value of the gift but rather if people are being honest with each other.

Your last point is entirely true, but by anyone's mathematics I'm pretty sure that type gift is "mistress territory."

Furthermore, another issue here is that the man is newly divorced, that is a vulnerable time of life, I give Kristy, credit for on some level consciously or semi-consciously seeing that.

 

[Barca]

Your last point is entirely true, but by anyone's mathematics I'm pretty sure that type gift is "mistress territory."

Furthermore, another issue here is that the man is newly divorced, that is a vulnerable time of life, I give Kristy, credit for on some level consciously or semi-consciously seeing that.

Normally I would agree.

But I know of professional athletes who have dropped tens of thousands of dollars in escorts or strip clubs. One in particular I know dropped 5Gs one night in a strip club, and I doubt it was on 50 different girls. The quantity of money is only relevant in comparison to the income or net worth of the gift-giver.

 

[Aardvark154]

Normally I would agree.

But I know of professional athletes who have dropped tens of thousands of dollars in escorts or strip clubs. One in particular I know dropped 5Gs one night in a strip club, and I doubt it was on 50 different girls. The quantity of money is only relevant in comparison to the income or net worth of the gift-giver.

You have a point, but given that people in that income category are but a handful of society, and not all of them "spend like sailors on a drunk", I'd be willing to place my money on the fact the man is depressed, vulnerable, and wanting someone who will love him.

I think Kristy in a polite way needs to raise this with him. I'm sure some more experienced SPs here would agree with me when I say that this is not all about sex some of it is about affirmation and wanting a human connection.

 

[Barca]

But man we'd like to be them wouldn't we?

Although to be honest...if I had that kind of money, I'd probably blow it all on girls and other forms of fun!

 

[Kristy7700]

That was a new coat it has a label. He has paid for an hour and tiped. He also told me how much his income, which properties he has, what type of car he drives.

I never had a problem to say "sorry just biz", but I'm really confused in situation with coat. The fanniest (or sad) thing is that I would never wear it as that's completely not my style - gorgeous leather though. I did not think about return it because that seems it was given from heart, but I see that's really good idea.

Sorry for my english, but you actually gave me the answer Thanks!

 

[Barca]

Now that the discussion is over with...may I just add that I just clicked on your link and you are smokin' hot!

 

[a 1 player]

Now that the discussion is over with...may I just add that I just clicked on your link and you are smokin' hot!

I second that statement.

 

[Kristy7700]

I second that statement.

You will spoil me

One more question is that polite to leave coat on the reception his hotel and send him e-mail?

Thanks

 

[Barca]

You will spoil me

One more question is that polite to leave coat on the reception his hotel and send him e-mail?

Thanks

Absolutely not!

I would do it in person and have a frank conversation with him. I know it may be unpleasant but if you have the coat, returning it must be done with some tact.

 

[a 1 player]

You will spoil me

One more question is that polite to leave coat on the reception his hotel and send him e-mail?

Thanks

I think that this is one of those situations where a face to face meeting would be in the best interest of both parties involved.

 

[DanceBabe]

Boo, no men even left me quarters on the stage tonight....give the coat to me. It'd make a great stage tip

 

[tboy]

Boo, no men even left me quarters on the stage tonight....give the coat to me. It'd make a great stage tip

never mind a tip, I'd give you the whole damn thing! lol......

leaving it at the reception desk is just tacky (in poor taste). It should be done face to face and you should explain to him why you can't accept it.

Who knows? Maybe he's just interested in being your sugar daddy with no strings attached?

 

[great bear]

Kristy, keep the coat. It was given to you by someone who obviously can afford it. The man is obviously doing quite well in his financial life. He knows what you do for a living, there are no secrets between you.

In his situation a $2000.00 leather coat equates to a $50.00 tip from the average customer. You owe him nothing more than to treat him with the same respect you would treat any other client leaving you a $50.00 tip.

Many of us become infatuated with escorts. We get over it. He will do the same. Cheers GB.

 

[eldoguy]

Kristy didn't you just left a relationship last summer are still pineing for him? Maybe your not ready for a commitment yet? Should tell him let him off easy. Keep the coat, it's business, make him a deal if he turns out to be a regular! His ex wife is probably working at Holt Rentfrew big discounts, lol
Btw there are going to lot of ex- real estate moguls crying in there beer in future to pick from "lol