$2000 for an hour - which expectations?

[Kristy7700]

I've met that gentleman few weeks ago and that was pleasant time with nice person. On the second date he gave me as a present long stunning leather coat. In conversation he mentioned when I will be off I should visit him in his house somewhere north to see all that beauty. Now he will be in Toronto every couple weeks..

I would not fall in love with that gentleman, but that is not what I would worry about. The worth is that he went through divorce recently. He told he gave me the present because I made him feel good. When I saw him again he even looked better..

How to tell man about perspective absence with minimum risk to hurt his feelings

 

[hunter001]

If you not interested tell/message him politely that you are not interested. We are all adults.

 

[K Douglas]

Hi Kristy. I'm not sure exactly what you are asking advice on so I will reply based on what I think you need to hear.

I'm assuming you are seeing him on a professional basis as opposed to socially. He seems a bit overbearing giving you such a nice gift on the 2nd appointment. It looks like he is emotionally vulnerable and wants to establish a social relationship with you. You need to keep the boundaries clear, you are not looking for a relationship. You are escorting to build a financial nest to buy a house, take a trip, go to school etc..

I wouldn't go up to his house unless you are extremely comfortable with it. Trust your gut instincts. Good luck!

KD

 

[Rockslinger]

On the second date he gave me as a present long stunning leather coat.

OMG! Please say that you politely declined such an expensive gift.

 

[Barca]

I personally don't see anything wrong with accepting gifts from him since it probably makes him feel good as well...so long as you have been clear and upfront about his chances for a future with you. Humans tend to delude themselves sometimes and need to be shaken into reality.

 

[squash500]

OMG! Please say that you politely declined such an expensive gift.

If Kristy did in fact accept the expensive gift wouldn't it be leading the vulnerable recently divorced guy on?

 

[Stoo]

If Kristy did in fact accept the expensive gift wouldn't it be leading the vulnerable recently divorced guy on?

Yup. Kristy, I would contact him and thank him for the gift, but tell him that you can't accept it. If he insists (and he probably will), graciously accept it, but be certain he understands that your relationship is professional only, even though you enjoy his company... assuming you do of course!

 

[5hummer]

I personally don't see anything wrong with accepting gifts from him since it probably makes him feel good as well...so long as you have been clear and upfront about his chances for a future with you. Humans tend to delude themselves sometimes and need to be shaken into reality.

Ditto.

Just be upfront and remind him every time you see him.

 

[squash500]

Yup . Kristy, I would contact him and thank him for the gift, but tell him that you can't accept it. If he insists (and he probably will), graciously accept it, but be certain he understands that your relationship is professional only, even though you enjoy his company... assuming you do of course!

Wouldn't it just be easier to return the gift?

 

[Rockslinger]

I personally don't see anything wrong with accepting gifts from him since it probably makes him feel good as well...

But this gift is not a bottle of wine or a $100 gift certificate to Holt Renfrew, this is a long stunning leather coat valued at $2,000. This is way over the top. We are talking mistress territory now.

 

[S.C. Joe]

Yup. Kristy, I would contact him and thank him for the gift, but tell him that you can't accept it. If he insists (and he probably will), graciously accept it, but be certain he understands that your relationship is professional only, even though you enjoy his company... assuming you do of course!

I agree but my gut feeling is many younger women would accept it...the under 25...with time they understand its not right to lead somebody on.

Yes it made him feel good...cause she accepted it and he has his hopes up now. That $2000 would be better spent on more SP for him, IMO.

 

[Barca]

But this gift is not a bottle of wine or a $100 gift certificate to Holt Renfrew, this is a long stunning leather coat valued at $2,000. This is way over the top. We are talking mistress territory now.

Not necessarily, it would depend on his net worth/income.

For you maybe this is mistress territory, maybe not for him.

The point is not the value of the gift but rather if people are being honest with each other.

 

[squash500]

Not necessarily, it would depend on his net worth/income.

For you maybe this is mistress territory, maybe not for him.

The point is not the value of the gift but rather if people are being honest with each other.

IMHO, regardless of his net worth doesn't the accepting of this expensive gift cross some invisible sp boundary line?

Who is really honest with each other in this line of work?

 

[Barca]

The OP seems to have the intention of at least making things clear. Not all SPs are there to scam you for every penny you're worth and not all clients are pathetic emotionally damaged naive wallets. Sometimes people know exactly what is going on and are willing to be active participants.

I've certainly dropped more than a couple of grand on my favourite girl over the course of a couple of months, I certainly don't see how a guy who probably makes a shitload more money than I do can afford a pricey gift for a girl who makes him feel good.

 

[S.C. Joe]

As long as he is making very good money and is not being lead on.

Divorced men have been out of the dating game for a while--not all men cheat I don't believe.

The SP should make it very clear that she has no feeling towards him, only then it be ok to accept a large gift.

 

[Doctor Zoidburg]

I can vouch for Dr. Lector

We graduated medical school together and seems to be a fine person, cept for his bad breath from eating onions, liver and fava beans!

 

[hunter001]

But this gift is not a bottle of wine or a $100 gift certificate to Holt Renfrew, this is a long stunning leather coat valued at $2,000. This is way over the top. We are talking mistress territory now.

Without knowing the guy, $2K could be like $10 for you or I.

 

[stang]

So what, the coat was probably his ex-wife's.


As for what you may be asking advice for, can you please rephrase it in english???

 

[mac]

who knows what's in this guys head or bank account.....but Kristy...what are you asking.....1. should I let him down, 2. how do i let him down or 3. how do i let him down and not screw up my income stream? Not knowing your situation, I can't know what your objective is....if you are in fact not confortable with apparently feels he has for you and don't care about getting more money from him....tell him that you are not confortable and that he is only a customer. Any othe rthibg you do will send mixed signals and you may have to deal with the negative effects of the ambiguity.

 

[Captain Fantastic]

Maybe he's on TERB and has heard the message loud and clear. Or at least drawn his own conclusions...