I've forgotten to tip after some of my best sessions because I get after orgasm stupid, and can be pretty thunderstruck if the session was very good. Needless to say I just hand off the donation right after I arrive...
When to Leave/Ask for Donation?
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Hey Kitty. Thanks for this. In my experience you shouldn’t have to ask for either. Best to hand over the donation right away. Why make things awkward and uncomfortable. if the girl is much more comfortable with you from the get go, “In Theroy” the session will go a lot better for both.
With a reg, or at times w a new girl that is popular and I’ve been waiting to see, I like to be a bit playful to break the ice.. If I’m wearing a jacket or some thing over my shirt with pockets, I’ll usually say, “please look in here”, I’ll have some chocolates, a treat, or a gc (regs). Then I’ll say “something else in here” and it’ll be the donation. If not I just place it down and let her know after hellos. It’s not always worked in breaking the ice, some have not been amused, but most of the times it has I think. YMMV, not everyone is going to like everyone, or are poor at faking it.
When it’s almost time to go if she hasn’t said anything, I’ll ask. Then if it’s tight, or in hear the alarm I’ll ask for the eta and I’m exhausted, I’ll politely ask to, “please give me a minute to lay here w you so I can recharge and then hit the shower.” The start and end can really define how things will go, and next time if you repeat.Please don’t take this as an absolute.
With a reg, or at times w a new girl that is popular and I’ve been waiting to see, I like to be a bit playful to break the ice.. If I’m wearing a jacket or some thing over my shirt with pockets, I’ll usually say, “please look in here”, I’ll have some chocolates, a treat, or a gc (regs). Then I’ll say “something else in here” and it’ll be the donation. If not I just place it down and let her know after hellos. It’s not always worked in breaking the ice, some have not been amused, but most of the times it has I think. YMMV, not everyone is going to like everyone, or are poor at faking it.
When it’s almost time to go if she hasn’t said anything, I’ll ask. Then if it’s tight, or in hear the alarm I’ll ask for the eta and I’m exhausted, I’ll politely ask to, “please give me a minute to lay here w you so I can recharge and then hit the shower.” The start and end can really define how things will go, and next time if you repeat.Please don’t take this as an absolute.
I mean.... this is why you place it in clear view as soon as you arrive. We don't want to have to ask you.
Yeah this is poor behaviour imo. Good clients want us to feel comfortable. That means following your instructions and leaving your payment in clear view upon arrival like you asked. If it kills the mood for them they could also ask to pay in full in advance via e-transfer.
It's funny because here the exact thing that turns him off is the thing that turns me on. Like show me your fat stack babe! I get wet for those bills!
I have a client that always counts it out from his wallet infront of me- Haha I always found it a bit odd as he's the only one of my clients that does it (the counting) , but I imagine it's like you say here- he just wants to make sure we both know it's all there and can both feel at ease- and I can appreciate that.
I always leave the donation on the counter first thing.
Only once did a provider ask me for it but that is because she didn't see me leave it on the counter, so I just pointed it out to her.
I don't mind being asked though.
We don't have to pretend money isn't involved lol.
Only once did a provider ask me for it but that is because she didn't see me leave it on the counter, so I just pointed it out to her.
I don't mind being asked though.
We don't have to pretend money isn't involved lol.
Yes because they don’t go in this profession for money. It’s all out of the kindness in their hearts. Dont be a dick and pay up front. Of course it’s about the money! Many take pride in what they do but either way it’s all about the money. Don’t be daft.
Most of the time I visit spas - I have several regulars who I visit every 2 to 4 weeks. Most of them I have been seeing for more than 1 year. My protocol is always the same - I pay the door fee as soon as I enter the room or before. I always tip after the session and the provider always knows how much the tip will be.
I also visit a couple of indies whom I have been seeing for a long time. Occasionally I also visit a new to me provider . I always provide the donation as soon as I come in the door.
I dont mind asking for the money when they get in the door. I generally try to ask them for the money on the table before they get undressed so they're not all bent over balls to the wind rummaging through their pant pockets.
Sometimes I forget to ask but I get it at the end. For people I've seen for ages, im not worried about it. I'll get it when I get it.
If someone wants to upgrade, we have to stop and they have to pay me the difference unfortunately. Once I've provided the service I've lost all of my leverage so there has to be cash in hand before I move forward.
Sometimes I forget to ask but I get it at the end. For people I've seen for ages, im not worried about it. I'll get it when I get it.
If someone wants to upgrade, we have to stop and they have to pay me the difference unfortunately. Once I've provided the service I've lost all of my leverage so there has to be cash in hand before I move forward.
QFT. On arrival, a hug type greeting, a little chitchat at the door, drop the envelope on the counter near the door or similar and head to the shower. I don’t seal the envelope or write anything on it.
can’t see why, esp on a first meeting you wouldn’t provide the donation on arrival unless instructed otherwise.
I am a rookie with the SP nookie, but both times I brought an envelope and left it with the them when I went to shower. I don't think I would have a problem with them asking if I forgot, and I think there is less chance of a disagreement or trouble if you pay up front. Plus, if I was the SP, I'd want to know that I wasn't going to be stiffed by the john...And, let's face facts, SPs aren't giving it away. They are professionals who deserve the pay for what they do.
I used to find the financial transaction part a bit awkward when I started, but learned to accept it and that the best practice is to get it out of the way asap. (Unless she jumps on me and sticks her tongue down my throat and hand down my pants before I get my shoes off!
).No doubt, there are girls who really get into it, who are on you as soon as you get through the door, before you can even pull the donation out of your pocket. And care about the service and like the sex part. As I posted way earlier in this thread this has led to me or her or both forgetting the $ temporarily at least.
But that’s their choice if they want to start without settling up the finances.
Simply put, if you weren’t paying for time then there would be no time limit based on how much you paid. You would just finish the second she performed all the agreed upon services and then you’re out the door. In that regard, wouldn’t it literally bring you more value to pay for the TIME instead of the ACTS? As long as she performs the services she can kick you out as quickly as 10 minutes and you couldn’t complain because it’s not time that you would have paid for.
I’m sure the judge would agree.
Most of the time a SW would only bring it up if the client isn’t making any moves to pay. He will take a shower and walk straight to the bed if she doesn’t say anything. If the client doesn’t pay up front then what guarantee does she have that he ever will? He could claim to have forgotten his wallet in the car and peel outta there for all she knows. If a SW had to ask it’s because of experience. She’s been ripped off enough times to be cautious going forward and 9 times out of 10 if she is asking she’s usually uncomfortable and asking very nicely instead of being demanding and pushy. Even though this industry is super fun, this is still her JOB and she has a right to ask for compensation up front to avoid a “dine and dash” kind of situation. Especially if it says in her ads and website that she requires payment upfront and the client still fails to do that.
Mind you having tact and class when asking is still important! Asking for money before even a greeting is cringe to me. If I’m forced to ask I smile say something along the lines of, “You’re a naughty boy! I think you forgot a little something for me.” I don’t mention the money at all, I phrase my words so he thinks of the money on his own. I keep it light hearted and recognize that maybe he was so excited that it was an accident. For me this is often the case and it’s no big deal. However if I’m met with resistance then I know there’s a problem and I need to be more assertive when asking. If I’m forced to ask it’s not because I don’t care about the service. It’s because I understand that this is a mutual arrangement and my end of the deal wasn’t taken care of. I find that the faster you take care of business the faster you can get to the pleasure and no one has to ask anything!
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I'm going off topic here. Sorry.
I always roll my eyes at the guys here who feel compelled to say, "It's all about the money!", as though people who do jobs shouldn't want to get paid for doing their job. When it's not motivated by low-key hate, it's at best a method of maintaining emotional distance (which some guys may need), or to encourage others to maintain emotional distance. I get it as a coping mechanism, but that ultimately turns what should be a collaborative (but transactional) relationship into an adversarial one (at best).
When seeing escorts (specifically) get the transaction out of way, then focus on having the best shared experiences you can. Yes, as a client your wants, in so far as a provider is comfortable, should be the focus. Even with that being the case you should never lose sight of a session being a rather intimate shared experience with a fellow human.
A chef loves cooking but gets paid.
A charter loves fishing but gets paid
Plenty of people do jobs they love and do it to get paid.
This idea that an escort who asks for the money upfront doesn’t like her job and is only in it for the money is just ignorance on display.
A charter loves fishing but gets paid
Plenty of people do jobs they love and do it to get paid.
This idea that an escort who asks for the money upfront doesn’t like her job and is only in it for the money is just ignorance on display.
Well said! I tell the complainers these exact things all the time.
“If an artist loves painting does that mean they should never seek to be paid for their craft? NO! Why should they literally be a starving artist to appease you?? So just think of me as an artist in the bedroom. I LOVE what I do but that doesn’t mean I don’t deserve to be compensated if that’s what I want.”
I think the issue is they think all we do with the money is go on shopping sprees and go on trips and pamper ourselves and although that may be true to some degree, MOST of us actually rely on this not as supplementary side income but a legitimate way to pay our bills, further our education and feed ourselves and our families just like anyone else in any other profession.
it is a known fact that women don’t get paid as much as men in the work force and often times men are far more likely to get hired for certain jobs than women. This industry however will always be around and is a reliable and often steady form of income for women just trying to create a better life for themselves and/or their families.
In my opinion the sp should never have to ask. The payment is her consent. Without the payment there isn’t consent. Plus why withhold just have control and be a dick. I prefer to ensure we both have an enjoyable experience.
