Provider’s “Sadie Hawkins” - Comments and Questions

[KittyCaterina]

Ah sorry that really didn’t come out right. Wasn’t meaning to shame anyone at all. Was just trying to share the original intent of the auctions.
I just saw a couple posts that didn’t include a charity at all.

No, I know you weren't intending that at all.
I don't see you as that type of malicious person.

I was moreso referring to the text I received as shaming, with the few posts referring to charity preference as their ammo.

I'm pretty sure I know who was behind the text and it most definitely isn't any of the great SPs or MAs who are participating in the auction.

 

[KittyCaterina]

And this is how it gets ruined for the rest of us. Way to go, gents

It's ridiculous.

I just received a bid of 250 for my fantasy #3...

Lucky me.

I set a minimum bid of 300 plus 50 for charity for this fantasy.

I can't even. SMH. The stupidity of some.

It's INSULTING that someone thinks one hour of my time with an extensive fantasy is worth 200 and 50 to charity.

I'm accepting the one decent bid I have and am pulling out of this and deleting my fantasies, the frustration isn't worth it.

Good luck to everyone.

 

[johnnyonthespot]

It's ridiculous.

I just received a bid of 250 for my fantasy #3...

Lucky me.

I set a minimum bid of 300 plus 50 for charity for this fantasy.

I can't even. SMH. The stupidity of some.

It's INSULTING that someone thinks one hour of my time with an extensive fantasy is worth 200 and 50 to charity.

I'm accepting the one decent bid I have and am pulling out of this and deleting my fantasies, the frustration isn't worth it.

Good luck to everyone.

This is why we can't have nice things. Sorry to you (and all the ladies) that this is happening. Guys, the rules were very clearly laid out in advance (such as general rule #5 - "Do not make any bids that are below the minimum bid stated by the provider.") and words have meanings - MINIMUM, for example. Do better.

 

[BeastKingGoLion]

They have to be on here and not just a lurker if they sent @KittyCaterina a DM - so who it? This person going to own up to it?!?

 

[McKenna King]

Honestly it’s pretty disheartening to see @KittyCaterina droping out due to the behaviour of some people on this board.

I have to echo her sentiment here though.
Compared to the success of the last auction, this auction has been terrible. Which is a little surprising considering the enthusiasm many here had when they were thirsting at the idea of hearing all of our fantasies!

It takes time and effort to organize these things, not just in making the posts and taking away time from our personal lives to respond to questions or reply on these threads.
The lack of effort on the client’s part (when actually in this auction you’re supposed to be doing all the legwork but realistically it’s still us doing the labor) is just laughable.

I’m considering just accepting the one decent bid I’ve received and dropping out because this is an incredible waste of my time and effort.
Pretty sad considering you won’t see me post these fantasies at these discounted rates ever again.

 

[boomboom]

Sad in deed
Couple of duffisus wreck it for all

 

[BeastKingGoLion]

Sounds like fishing to restock the spank bank. I guess lost on some is make the bid, see the charity gain some bank, and make the provider smile which should see you rewarded in your bid win

 

[Tomspanks]

Sorry to hear the poor response but this has inspired me to send out two bids! Fingers crossed

 

[Olivialuxee]

Do we update our bid with the “min bid” once we’ve received more than one bid and they’re a lot higher than the initial minimum bid???? Just to avoid letdowns of people PM’ing with other offers…

sorry if this doesn’t make sense I’m just a tad confused

 

[McKenna King]

Do we update our bid with the “min bid” once we’ve received more than one bid and they’re a lot higher than the initial minimum bid???? Just to avoid letdowns of people PM’ing with other offers…

sorry if this doesn’t make sense I’m just a tad confused

Yeah you can update the minimum so new bidders know what the new minimum is at. Or leave it as is. I know some providers are going to accept runner ups or more than 1 winner so you can leave that option open too.

 

[Olivialuxee]

Yeah you can update the minimum so new bidders know what the new minimum is at. Or leave it as is. I know some providers are going to accept runner ups or more than 1 winner so you can leave that option open too.

Thank you!

 

[McKenna King]

I’ve removed my posts from the auction.

I had much more success in my auction on Twitter last year which raised over 2,000$ for the SWPDF.

Unfortunately this forum doesn’t seem to be the right place for supporting charity or respecting the efforts made by many of the providers here, and it’s truly disheartening.

I’ll be posting a new auction over on my Twitter account probably next month. So if you missed your chance here, hopefully you’ll have better luck next time.

I don’t offer regular discounts or specials, so if you’re on a budget and haven’t been able to see me previously then your best bet is to wait till I offer some type of incentive in support of CORAS or the SWPDF.

Good luck to everyone else still participating.

 

[dynomyte]

When I saw the rules listed, I actually thought this would go off the rails because of the min bid requirement. Why have that rule? Providers don't have to accept any bid they don't want to so just ignore the bids that are below a threshold that one might have. Having a min bid rule simply leaves room for people to be offended that an unnecessary rule was broken. Now people are bailing because they are insulted. I know that this was not an official charity auction but, in my opinion it shows low class to bail on a charity auction because you did not like a bid that was not gonna win anyway.

To be clear, I did not bid on any of the scenarios so this is certainly not sour grapes. Just my observation of what is happening.

 

[johnnyonthespot]

When I saw the rules listed, I actually thought this would go off the rails because of the min bid requirement. Why have that rule? Providers don't have to accept any bid they don't want to so just ignore the bids that are below a threshold that one might have. Having a min bid rule simply leaves room for people to be offended that an unnecessary rule was broken. Now people are bailing because they are insulted. I know that this was not an official charity auction but, in my opinion it shows low class to bail on a charity auction because you did not like a bid that was not gonna win anyway.

To be clear, I did not bid on any of the scenarios so this is certainly not sour grapes. Just my observation of what is happening.

Minimum bid makes it clear to people what amount the provider needs to receive for the services she's providing and to be able to also make the donation to charity. In theory (although apparently not in practice), it should weed out the time wasters and the people who aren't taking this seriously. It also sets a floor to encourage people to exceed it, because of the charity component. I've never once been involved with a charity auction that didn't include minimum bids.

Regardless, even if it was an unnecessary rule, they're still the rules and everyone knew them going in - it was literally the first post in the thread. All people had to do was follow them. It's not complicated.

 

[McKenna King]

When I saw the rules listed, I actually thought this would go off the rails because of the min bid requirement. Why have that rule? Providers don't have to accept any bid they don't want to so just ignore the bids that are below a threshold that one might have. Having a min bid rule simply leaves room for people to be offended that an unnecessary rule was broken. Now people are bailing because they are insulted. I know that this was not an official charity auction but, in my opinion it shows low class to bail on a charity auction because you did not like a bid that was not gonna win anyway.

To be clear, I did not bid on any of the scenarios so this is certainly not sour grapes. Just my observation of what is happening.

That’s not why I’m bailing. And if you’re insinuating it’s low class to bail on an auction, I’d like to just reiterate the amounts above I’ve already raised for charity… and am continuing to do so on a platform where the bidders have been much more respectful in their offers.
That’s all.

Also, having a minimum bid was the best way to ensure providers would at least have their overhead expenses covered and enough wiggle room for the pledged donation. This way they aren’t providing any labor for free and all of the donations out of pocket.

 

[BeastKingGoLion]

When I saw the rules listed, I actually thought this would go off the rails because of the min bid requirement. Why have that rule? Providers don't have to accept any bid they don't want to so just ignore the bids that are below a threshold that one might have. Having a min bid rule simply leaves room for people to be offended that an unnecessary rule was broken. Now people are bailing because they are insulted. I know that this was not an official charity auction but, in my opinion it shows low class to bail on a charity auction because you did not like a bid that was not gonna win anyway.

To be clear, I did not bid on any of the scenarios so this is certainly not sour grapes. Just my observation of what is happening.

I get that take. Flip side though is asking providers to ignore bids beneath their interest which then gives rise to venom from bidders who aren’t getting a response. Which a look in the mirror could reveal being a low baller when you account for the provider, the charity component, and what is being put out there. Heck I was in a grocery store for Super Bowl today and a Taylor Swift limited edition print was up for auction and they state the minimum opening bid was x. This way if bid isn’t achieved there isn’t a winner. Plain and simple. But then again perhaps providers could have just stated minimum not met. Having one of my bids accepted knowing what provider was after helped me to know what I needed to get the CMJ time.

I don’t blame the providers ultimately for being irked.

 

[dynomyte]

Fair enough. My concern of people taking their ball and going home because a few players are making it not fun for them remains. Why air it out in the thread? Seems like they want others to quit with them.

Minimum bid makes it clear to people what amount the provider needs to receive for the services she's providing and to be able to also make the donation to charity. In theory (although apparently not in practice), it should weed out the time wasters and the people who aren't taking this seriously. It also sets a floor to encourage people to exceed it, because of the charity component. I've never once been involved with a charity auction that didn't include minimum bids.

Regardless, even if it was an unnecessary rule, they're still the rules and everyone knew them going in - it was literally the first post in the thread. All people had to do was follow them. It's not complicated.

Fair enough. My concern of people taking their ball and going home because a few players are making it not fun for them remains. Why air it out in the thread? Seems like they want others to quit with them. Participate, or don't,. It really doesn't matter, but bringing this out for everyone seems to be trying to sour everyone on the experience. There are some great scenarios presented and I am sure there are some fantastic bids. Let it play out. No need to make this a public dispute spewing negativity.

 

[BeastKingGoLion]

Fair enough. My concern of people taking their ball and going home because a few players are making it not fun for them remains. Why air it out in the thread? Seems like they want others to quit with them.


Fair enough. My concern of people taking their ball and going home because a few players are making it not fun for them remains. Why air it out in the thread? Seems like they want others to quit with them. Participate, or don't,. It really doesn't matter, but bringing this out for everyone seems to be trying to sour everyone on the experience. There are some great scenarios presented and I am sure there are some fantastic bids. Let it play out. No need to make this a public dispute spewing negativity.

I can also see this because not one but two auction lot owners were lost in past 2 days. However they also shared what bidders on this board were putting forward and my perception was it was infuriating for them…
I am putting up my commemorative signed Patrick Mahomes game worn Super Bowl jersey - min bid $4500 and someone tells me they have been a lifelong Chiefs fans and will offer me $900

 

[KittyCaterina]

What I think some are not understanding is that we are being vulnerable by posting some very personal fantasies here and the bidding is not for an inanimate object, it is for us.

So when we are receiving very low bids, time wasters and arguments over set boundaries, it is disheartening and insulting as again, the bid is for us, not a signed jersey.

I am leaving because my mental health comes first and I found myself getting frustrated. It isn't due to one low bid as you so simply put; it is due to many crappy behaviours I've been subjected to since I began my participation. The extremely low bid I mentioned was just the last straw, so call that low class if you wish but I do not have to tolerate mistreatment even for charity.

I can donate the money myself, and I do often.
In the last auction I raised $950 for charity and in this auction I did accept one bid, so my total is now $1000.

I'm airing my grievances (as did quite a few others) hoping that some members will wake the fuck up and follow the guidelines or that some will make a bid on the SPs or MAs who are still participating.
I did not post hoping that other ladies will follow and leave, so your assumption is wrong.

PS.
Most auctions have a minimum bid.
I've participated as a bidder in countless auctions and have yet to encounter one without a minimum bid requirement.

To say a minimum bid requirement will only cause issues is basically saying that you know some of your TERB peers are incapable of reading and following simple instructions. These are adult men FFS.

A minimum bid is mentioned in the rules AND our individual posts, so there really is no excuse for the members who underbid.
These are probably the same clients who lowball rates or don't read our ads.

 

[KittyCaterina]

I’ve removed my posts from the auction.

I had much more success in my auction on Twitter last year which raised over 2,000$ for the SWPDF.

Unfortunately this forum doesn’t seem to be the right place for supporting charity or respecting the efforts made by many of the providers here, and it’s truly disheartening.

I’ll be posting a new auction over on my Twitter account probably next month. So if you missed your chance here, hopefully you’ll have better luck next time.

I don’t offer regular discounts or specials, so if you’re on a budget and haven’t been able to see me previously then your best bet is to wait till I offer some type of incentive in support of CORAS or the SWPDF.

Good luck to everyone else still participating.

I think that posting an auction elsewhere is a great idea.

I might offer the fantasies on my website under "Fantasies 4 Charity" and for every fantasy booked I will make a donation.