Provider’s “Sadie Hawkins” - Comments and Questions

[McKenna King]

Fair enough. My concern of people taking their ball and going home because a few players are making it not fun for them remains. Why air it out in the thread? Seems like they want others to quit with them. Participate, or don't,. It really doesn't matter, but bringing this out for everyone seems to be trying to sour everyone on the experience. There are some great scenarios presented and I am sure there are some fantastic bids. Let it play out. No need to make this a public dispute spewing negativity.

So if we don’t air out the bad behaviour… we just ignore it and let it continue?

No, I hope this helps clients reflect on how they choose to participate. I’m sorry if you don’t agree, or don’t like people shedding light on these issues. This is a pretty unique case considering it’s an auction for charity. But it’s also reflective of the poor behaviours many providers have to just “deal with” as part of the job.

We’ll still raise money for charity regardless of this auction or not.

It would just be nice to see the same respect, enthusiasm and support from members on this board. Especially considering members would be getting a pretty fantastic return out of winning one of these bids.

And if you aren’t participating by making a bid, why are you butthurt about us calling out the “bad players” here? You have no skin in the game.

 

[BeastKingGoLion]

So if we don’t air out the bad behaviour… we just ignore it and let it continue?

No, I hope this helps clients reflect on how they choose to participate. I’m sorry if you don’t agree, or don’t like people shedding light on these issues. This is a pretty unique case considering it’s an auction for charity. But it’s also reflective of the poor behaviours many providers have to just “deal with” as part of the job.

We’ll still raise money for charity regardless of this auction or not.

It would just be nice to see the same respect, enthusiasm and support from members on this board. Especially considering members would be getting a pretty fantastic return out of winning one of these bids.

And if you aren’t participating by making a bid, why are you butthurt about us calling out the “bad players” here? You have no skin in the game.

Last part of the 4th paragraph is the for me. These providers put something with their passion out there. Have to believe a bid with some good for charity which helps them and other ladies at large registers. Plus THEY defined the fantasy they want to try. Sure there are providers out there that can make an effort to be your fantasy with the required donation. I could very well be wrong but I think this sees the passion and return coming from their end - we saw excitement out of the gate. What was posted early, we cant have nice things. Good job, winners. I hope you can enjoy what Ive stated here and I am right.

 

[dynomyte]

So if we don’t air out the bad behaviour… we just ignore it and let it continue?

No, I hope this helps clients reflect on how they choose to participate. I’m sorry if you don’t agree, or don’t like people shedding light on these issues. This is a pretty unique case considering it’s an auction for charity. But it’s also reflective of the poor behaviours many providers have to just “deal with” as part of the job.

We’ll still raise money for charity regardless of this auction or not.

It would just be nice to see the same respect, enthusiasm and support from members on this board. Especially considering members would be getting a pretty fantastic return out of winning one of these bids.

And if you aren’t participating by making a bid, why are you butthurt about us calling out the “bad players” here? You have no skin in the game.

Not butt hurt at all. Just calling out the negativity and hypocrisy that contributes to a toxic or negative environment. It works both ways. I have no doubt that there are men who make participating on this board, Twitter, etc challenging for providers. Shame on them for doing so. But there are many providers who contribute to the toxicity.

Are they simply calling it out? Perhaps, but it often comes across something more than that. Instead of just saying "guys do better. You are underbidding which is against the rules." It becomes generalizations of torment that clearly only applies to a few bad apples and an attempt to sabotage an otherwise kind initiative for charity for all by unnecessarily stating that they are not playing any more implying that others should do the same. It starts with Blissin, the Kitty, and then McKenna. Minimal bids remain and the thread officially derailed. Initiative sabotaged.

I know that my opposition to some comments made by respected providers will make me the bad guy now, but it is frustrating watching so many threads become toxic or negative because some posters (men and women alike) can't remember that this is supposed to be fun, entertaining, and to some degree an escape from negativity. Instead, some people seem to lack respect for the very people they are paying a lot of money to see or making a lot of money from seeing them. It has come to the point where it is risky to tell a provider you have a terb account because they assume that you are one of the assholes writing shit that targets their income potential. Just go on X and you will notice the number of providers who seem to hate the men of terb as they have lumped us all together.

 

[BeastKingGoLion]

Not butt hurt at all. Just calling out the negativity and hypocrisy that contributes to a toxic or negative environment. It works both ways. I have no doubt that there are men who make participating on this board, Twitter, etc challenging for providers. Shame on them for doing so. But there are many providers who contribute to the toxicity.

Are they simply calling it out? Perhaps, but it often comes across something more than that. Instead of just saying "guys do better. You are underbidding which is against the rules." It becomes generalizations of torment that clearly only applies to a few bad apples and an attempt to sabotage an otherwise kind initiative for charity for all by unnecessarily stating that they are not playing any more implying that others should do the same. It starts with Blissin, the Kitty, and then McKenna. Minimal bids remain and the thread officially derailed. Initiative sabotaged.

I know that my opposition to some comments made by respected providers will make me the bad guy now, but it is frustrating watching so many threads become toxic or negative because some posters (men and women alike) can't remember that this is supposed to be fun, entertaining, and to some degree an escape from negativity. Instead, some people seem to lack respect for the very people they are paying a lot of money to see or making a lot of money from seeing them. It has come to the point where it is risky to tell a provider you have a terb account because they assume that you are one of the assholes writing shit that targets their income potential. Just go on X and you will notice the number of providers who seem to hate the men of terb as they have lumped us all together.

My X presence is limited to none but now I’m curious what you mean about providers and their views or TERB. Is that across the board or unique to Ottawa?
Only know or one instance where a provider mentioned knowing a date had a terb handle and put one and one together but it was a good exchange

 

[McKenna King]

Not butt hurt at all. Just calling out the negativity and hypocrisy that contributes to a toxic or negative environment. It works both ways. I have no doubt that there are men who make participating on this board, Twitter, etc challenging for providers. Shame on them for doing so. But there are many providers who contribute to the toxicity.

Are they simply calling it out? Perhaps, but it often comes across something more than that. Instead of just saying "guys do better. You are underbidding which is against the rules." It becomes generalizations of torment that clearly only applies to a few bad apples and an attempt to sabotage an otherwise kind initiative for charity for all by unnecessarily stating that they are not playing any more implying that others should do the same. It starts with Blissin, the Kitty, and then McKenna. Minimal bids remain and the thread officially derailed. Initiative sabotaged.

I know that my opposition to some comments made by respected providers will make me the bad guy now, but it is frustrating watching so many threads become toxic or negative because some posters (men and women alike) can't remember that this is supposed to be fun, entertaining, and to some degree an escape from negativity. Instead, some people seem to lack respect for the very people they are paying a lot of money to see or making a lot of money from seeing them. It has come to the point where it is risky to tell a provider you have a terb account because they assume that you are one of the assholes writing shit that targets their income potential. Just go on X and you will notice the number of providers who seem to hate the men of terb as they have lumped us all together.

I’m sorry that you’ve internalized what I’ve posted as a negative response and took it personally despite not having participated in this auction.
I’m really not going to comment further since we seem to have two very different outlooks on the subject.
I’m not going to waste more energy defending myself or feeling guilted by someone who clearly doesn’t recognize what I’ve already done to support these charities over the past year.

 

[dynomyte]

Thank you for apologizing for how you think I feel???

Your benevolent contributions to charity are wonderful and none of my comments are about minimizing that. In fact, I have no clue how or if you contribute to charity. That is for you and those who benefit from it. My comments are solely about this auctoon and the negative impact that some are having on what should have been a fun yet beneficial auction.

 

[NadiaLovechanko]

Anyways back to the positives...
I am now collaborating with @Alison_xox & @Olivialuxee for some spicy duo's for charity!

Also with the last 2 days... I think it is time y'all get out there and bid on your favourite providers fantasies !

Again this is all in the name of fun for charity!

 

[Alison_xox]

On a side note , I can’t wait to finally touch that beautiful body of yours @NadiaLovechanko
I will play with myself thinking of it until it happens….
Just saying …

 

[dominoeffect]

This is disappointing to say the least.

 

[Alison_xox]

I will be keeping my fantasy post here since I have a lot of clients that likes to spy on my Terb posts without being members and will most probably be booking those fantasies eventually.

I will also keep my promise to give to “La SPCA de l’Outaouais” every time I book one of my fantasy. Even if it’s in two , 4 or 7 months.
I’ll come back here and post a receipt of my donation as a proof of my pledge .

Btw.. For the ones that don’t know what is La spca de l’Outaouais, click here : https://spcaoutaouais.ca/
Feel free to donate

Kisses
Ali

 

[Alison_xox]

Did the Auction Thread got erased ?
I can’t find it anymore…

 

[NadiaLovechanko]

Did the Auction Thread got erased ?
I can’t find it anymore…

Gone for me too...
I am wondering if it was mods of the OP...

 

[johnnyonthespot]

OP’s still active and I can’t think why he’d delete it. Assume it was the mods, but ?

 

[McKenna King]

Well that’s really disappointing

My guess would be the mods considered it as advertising and the providers who have posted aren’t paid advertisers on TERB ?

Still, common mods, you couldn’t have just let it slide and support some charitable causes?

 

[Alison_xox]

I’m a bit sad since it was fun , but that’s ok , the ones that were interested enough , already placed their bids and we already are in contact with them so the charity will still receive the money we pledge to them.
If mod decided to erase it , they had their reasons and I respect them even if I don’t understand them.

Let’s move on and have fun now. It’s time to make those fantasies, a reality

Miammmm

 

[Theredmilf]

It would be great if @Mod123 or another Mod could provide some clarification to understand what specifically is allowed or not with respect to this or future charitable auctions? Can clients still post an auction? Can advertising ladies post an auction? Can providers or clients post a link to an auction hosted elsewhere? In other words, what model is acceptable?

Thanks

 

[KittyCaterina]

Today was the due date for bids I think?

So maybe mods were letting it slide until the bid due date? And now they just consider it advertising?