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Why do you hobby?

Why do you hobby?

  • Difficulty to find sexual partners otherwise

    Votes: 23 18.3%
  • Sexless or unsatisfactory relationship

    Votes: 43 34.1%
  • Experience sex with different partners

    Votes: 57 45.2%
  • Kinks and unique sexual preferences

    Votes: 23 18.3%
  • The simplicity of a transactional encounter

    Votes: 51 40.5%
  • Intimacy, a need to feel loved and desired

    Votes: 32 25.4%
  • I'm just a perv and that's the easiest way to embrace it

    Votes: 30 23.8%

  • Total voters
    126

the general

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Oct 31, 2010
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I am both a variety guy and guess a perv too. Just hard to not engage, both for self-enjoyment, but finding gems that love sex. I have seen several that just love to be pleasured, and have to say, that in itself adds to the enjoyment. Unfortuantely I have also seen many ladies are in it for the money only, and don't seem to be having much fun. I still try to pleasure those ladies, some seem to subcomb to their desires, but not without a lot of effort and it isn't the same as if they enjoy it. And there are those that just can't be pleased. lol
 

Sonic Temple

Dreamers learn to steer by the stars
Feb 14, 2020
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Personally for me, love the freedom of seeing so many beautiful SP, in addition love my single life and freedom to do what I want when I want. With that said though, this comes with age and wisdom and knowing what you want and being comfortable being alone. Enjoy this industry for what it is and those who enter it early - experience relationships and find out all emotions that evolve in that realm before diving into this industry. Stay safe always gents.
 

jalimon

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Jan 10, 2016
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For me it's complete lack of sex with my wife. I do not hate her, she is great company and we are good friends. First few years after getting married I tried a lot to initiate for sex but it felt so one-sided, feels like she is just forcing herself to do it so stopped completely. She has zero sex drive, zero. Man has need so started 8 yrs back and going on. If she ever genuinely comes forward for sex I will stop hobbying. I have never had emotional attachment with anyone else and not looking for it. I am willing to go old with my wife. However, I also don't want to deny myself with the pleasure of life. ;)
This is exactly why i started to hobby as well. I got with a beautiful girl i was 35. We quickly had 2 kids. The second kid had a disease at 2 months. I spent a whole week sleeping on the floor of his hospital room. There was no way i would leave without him. After 7 days on life support he recovered. The doctor wrote a medical abstract about it. Now he's an elite 15 years old athlete.

but then my girlfriend suddenly had zero libido. absolutely no more interest in sex... after a few years i told her we would split.

then i had a business trip to Vancouver. I decided to contact an escort. My first time. It turned out amazing. But fucking silly me i had imessage turned on. So my girl read all messages i had with that escort, and me telling her how wonderful she was, on my ipad i had left at home 😩

when i came back she didn't came to pick me up at the airport. I felt something was really wrong 😷

So yeah we split and i started to see many escorts ever since simply because i do not want another girlfriend.
 

FUCKMEISTER

Active member
Nov 6, 2011
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Lucky enough to have a nice lady...after 20 years married.....once I started eating her at every session, it has been yes, yes , yes.
 

ABitHorny

Member
Apr 20, 2019
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I love my partner but I have higher sex drive than her. Hobbying save me from having to continually bugging her for sex and
For me it's complete lack of sex with my wife. I do not hate her, she is great company and we are good friends. First few years after getting married I tried a lot to initiate for sex but it felt so one-sided, feels like she is just forcing herself to do it so stopped completely. She has zero sex drive, zero. Man has need so started 8 yrs back and going on. If she ever genuinely comes forward for sex I will stop hobbying. I have never had emotional attachment with anyone else and not looking for it. I am willing to go old with my wife. However, I also don't want to deny myself with the pleasure of life. ;)
This is similar to me. I love my wife and our marriage has been great. Only thing not great is the frequency of sex. It's not like she does not like sex, it just she doesn't need it as much as I do and I am tired of being the one always trying to initiate it. That sometime put a strain on our relationship. I started with MA and then switched to SP. I don't hobby much and I think my hobbying may helps our relationship as I don't always have to nag my wife for sex.
 
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that6969

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Nov 18, 2024
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Sorry to hear that. Life must be miserable. I split up with mine (described by others as a ''smoke bomb") when I surmised that she had become, nevertheless actractive, sexless, lazy, self-serving, debt-building, smart phone, Starbucks, and reality-tv addicted to the point that would make a straight guy remotely consider blowing cock... but after we split, I chose hobbying instead. Life is full of disappointments, yes, and I am full of life. Ironically, years later, we are good 'friends' without benefits after she figured it all out. How many 'couples' haven't argued in almost 10 years? 'I see couples that seem happy and I wonder how they got that way, are they blind or are they stupid, or just having a good day?' ....Line from a John Gorka song (Full of Life) that you can Youtube. And I still enjoy fine young ladies that enhance my days.
A lot of good points especially lazy, debt building and sexless. Reminds me of the vast majority of my marriage.

I do it for the need to be touched eventually. Too bad I don't have a regular closer by. I'll probably check Tinder out again eventually or a SD site again. I like communication at times just not someone overly chatty and clingy. Plus I wouldn't mind going out at times with someone like for a meal too. I know some SPs offer that, but meh.

And yeah the one sided stuff gets annoying where only one person is always making the move and initiating it. I've told some ladies this who were just dull. They don't understand "spice". Otherwise life is too dull. My one buddy found a great FWB on Tinder. Jealous af! LOL
 
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rexscott

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Aug 18, 2020
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No relationship BS.

A young body - 30-40 years younger than what I can get otherwise.

The encounter I want, and not doing any shit I don't feel like doing and not being guilted about it.

Clear expectations.

Being able to end seeing someone with no hassles.
 

classic_action185

New member
Apr 17, 2024
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i lived in asia most my life (i'm canadian caucasian) and as u know we live like kings there. here it's practically impossible to get a gf compared to when i could land in [anywhere in asia] and have a gf or two or three overnight who would do anything for me. so i dont even bother trying in canada. not worth the effort.

i have a very handsome friend who has a rotation of up to ten girls at a time here. but even then he has to work hard, often for months and months or years on tinder/real world to get all these girls.

i just tell him, ya man i just bang these hookers they are [this much $] and it was so much fun. and he says, damn why don't i just do that lol
 

Riverrunner28

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Apr 27, 2020
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Convenience mainly. Lot's of civi regulars, but it is so easy to middle of the day book a tryst, and not skip a beat in the day. Also as Charlie Sheen would also say "getting some 'strange' is always fun"
 

Sternly

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Aug 3, 2024
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This is exactly why i started to hobby as well. I got with a beautiful girl i was 35. We quickly had 2 kids. The second kid had a disease at 2 months. I spent a whole week sleeping on the floor of his hospital room. There was no way i would leave without him. After 7 days on life support he recovered. The doctor wrote a medical abstract about it. Now he's an elite 15 years old athlete.

but then my girlfriend suddenly had zero libido. absolutely no more interest in sex... after a few years i told her we would split.

then i had a business trip to Vancouver. I decided to contact an escort. My first time. It turned out amazing. But fucking silly me i had imessage turned on. So my girl read all messages i had with that escort, and me telling her how wonderful she was, on my ipad i had left at home 😩

when i came back she didn't came to pick me up at the airport. I felt something was really wrong 😷

So yeah we split and i started to see many escorts ever since simply because i do not want another girlfriend.
Did she screw you in divorce papers? Sorry to hear that. This happens to many many guys after the wife has 2 kids
 

surfer83

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Aug 26, 2018
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Even when I am in a long term relationship I get bored being with the same person , so seeing SPs reignite my sex drive. I also in my case, my exGF's / wife are less and less interested in sex as the relationship progress but I am still a horny dog.

and I get tired of using my left hand, and love to feel physical intimacy.

and yes even when I bring it up I am always the one who is in the wrong.

to add seeing an SP once a week was actually way cheaper than my divorce.
 
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Sternly

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Even when I am in a long term relationship I get bored being with the same person , so seeing SPs reignite my sex drive. I also in my case, my exGF's / wife are less and less interested in sex as the relationship progress but I am still a horny dog.

and I get tired of using my left hand, and love to feel physical intimacy.

and yes even when I bring it up I am always the one who is in the wrong.

to add seeing an SP once a week was actually way cheaper than my divorce.

What do you do to keep your wife from being suspicious?

I'm so glad I all my girlfriends are actually escorts and they understand, Inara Shah keeps me satisfied in the relationship but I still need and crave variety!

Men are simple. We need variety and simplicity in affection
 

jalimon

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Did she screw you in divorce papers? Sorry to hear that. This happens to many many guys after the wife has 2 kids
nNo in Quebec the proportion of couples that actually marry is very low. We simply made an arrangement.
 

surfer83

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Aug 26, 2018
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What do you do to keep your wife from being suspicious?

I'm so glad I all my girlfriends are actually escorts and they understand, Inara Shah keeps me satisfied in the relationship but I still need and crave variety!

Men are simple. We need variety and simplicity in affection
So 1- I always bring a change of cloth with me,

2- I would only see an SP when I know my GF / wife is away for a few hours and I have time to go home and shower before she comes home and I throw the cloth in the laundry basket
I work in construction so I always bring extra clothing with me anyway so for me easier than other people.
 
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