I am both a variety guy and guess a perv too. Just hard to not engage, both for self-enjoyment, but finding gems that love sex. I have seen several that just love to be pleasured, and have to say, that in itself adds to the enjoyment. Unfortuantely I have also seen many ladies are in it for the money only, and don't seem to be having much fun. I still try to pleasure those ladies, some seem to subcomb to their desires, but not without a lot of effort and it isn't the same as if they enjoy it. And there are those that just can't be pleased. lol
Why do you hobby?
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Personally for me, love the freedom of seeing so many beautiful SP, in addition love my single life and freedom to do what I want when I want. With that said though, this comes with age and wisdom and knowing what you want and being comfortable being alone. Enjoy this industry for what it is and those who enter it early - experience relationships and find out all emotions that evolve in that realm before diving into this industry. Stay safe always gents.
This is exactly why i started to hobby as well. I got with a beautiful girl i was 35. We quickly had 2 kids. The second kid had a disease at 2 months. I spent a whole week sleeping on the floor of his hospital room. There was no way i would leave without him. After 7 days on life support he recovered. The doctor wrote a medical abstract about it. Now he's an elite 15 years old athlete.For me it's complete lack of sex with my wife. I do not hate her, she is great company and we are good friends. First few years after getting married I tried a lot to initiate for sex but it felt so one-sided, feels like she is just forcing herself to do it so stopped completely. She has zero sex drive, zero. Man has need so started 8 yrs back and going on. If she ever genuinely comes forward for sex I will stop hobbying. I have never had emotional attachment with anyone else and not looking for it. I am willing to go old with my wife. However, I also don't want to deny myself with the pleasure of life.
but then my girlfriend suddenly had zero libido. absolutely no more interest in sex... after a few years i told her we would split.
then i had a business trip to Vancouver. I decided to contact an escort. My first time. It turned out amazing. But fucking silly me i had imessage turned on. So my girl read all messages i had with that escort, and me telling her how wonderful she was, on my ipad i had left at home
when i came back she didn't came to pick me up at the airport. I felt something was really wrong
So yeah we split and i started to see many escorts ever since simply because i do not want another girlfriend.
Lucky enough to have a nice lady...after 20 years married.....once I started eating her at every session, it has been yes, yes , yes.
This is similar to me. I love my wife and our marriage has been great. Only thing not great is the frequency of sex. It's not like she does not like sex, it just she doesn't need it as much as I do and I am tired of being the one always trying to initiate it. That sometime put a strain on our relationship. I started with MA and then switched to SP. I don't hobby much and I think my hobbying may helps our relationship as I don't always have to nag my wife for sex.For me it's complete lack of sex with my wife. I do not hate her, she is great company and we are good friends. First few years after getting married I tried a lot to initiate for sex but it felt so one-sided, feels like she is just forcing herself to do it so stopped completely. She has zero sex drive, zero. Man has need so started 8 yrs back and going on. If she ever genuinely comes forward for sex I will stop hobbying. I have never had emotional attachment with anyone else and not looking for it. I am willing to go old with my wife. However, I also don't want to deny myself with the pleasure of life.
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A lot of good points especially lazy, debt building and sexless. Reminds me of the vast majority of my marriage.
I do it for the need to be touched eventually. Too bad I don't have a regular closer by. I'll probably check Tinder out again eventually or a SD site again. I like communication at times just not someone overly chatty and clingy. Plus I wouldn't mind going out at times with someone like for a meal too. I know some SPs offer that, but meh.
And yeah the one sided stuff gets annoying where only one person is always making the move and initiating it. I've told some ladies this who were just dull. They don't understand "spice". Otherwise life is too dull. My one buddy found a great FWB on Tinder. Jealous af! LOL
No relationship BS.
A young body - 30-40 years younger than what I can get otherwise.
The encounter I want, and not doing any shit I don't feel like doing and not being guilted about it.
Clear expectations.
Being able to end seeing someone with no hassles.
A young body - 30-40 years younger than what I can get otherwise.
The encounter I want, and not doing any shit I don't feel like doing and not being guilted about it.
Clear expectations.
Being able to end seeing someone with no hassles.
i lived in asia most my life (i'm canadian caucasian) and as u know we live like kings there. here it's practically impossible to get a gf compared to when i could land in [anywhere in asia] and have a gf or two or three overnight who would do anything for me. so i dont even bother trying in canada. not worth the effort.
i have a very handsome friend who has a rotation of up to ten girls at a time here. but even then he has to work hard, often for months and months or years on tinder/real world to get all these girls.
i just tell him, ya man i just bang these hookers they are [this much $] and it was so much fun. and he says, damn why don't i just do that lol
i have a very handsome friend who has a rotation of up to ten girls at a time here. but even then he has to work hard, often for months and months or years on tinder/real world to get all these girls.
i just tell him, ya man i just bang these hookers they are [this much $] and it was so much fun. and he says, damn why don't i just do that lol
Convenience mainly. Lot's of civi regulars, but it is so easy to middle of the day book a tryst, and not skip a beat in the day. Also as Charlie Sheen would also say "getting some 'strange' is always fun"
Did she screw you in divorce papers? Sorry to hear that. This happens to many many guys after the wife has 2 kidsThis is exactly why i started to hobby as well. I got with a beautiful girl i was 35. We quickly had 2 kids. The second kid had a disease at 2 months. I spent a whole week sleeping on the floor of his hospital room. There was no way i would leave without him. After 7 days on life support he recovered. The doctor wrote a medical abstract about it. Now he's an elite 15 years old athlete.
but then my girlfriend suddenly had zero libido. absolutely no more interest in sex... after a few years i told her we would split.
then i had a business trip to Vancouver. I decided to contact an escort. My first time. It turned out amazing. But fucking silly me i had imessage turned on. So my girl read all messages i had with that escort, and me telling her how wonderful she was, on my ipad i had left at home
when i came back she didn't came to pick me up at the airport. I felt something was really wrong
So yeah we split and i started to see many escorts ever since simply because i do not want another girlfriend.
Even when I am in a long term relationship I get bored being with the same person , so seeing SPs reignite my sex drive. I also in my case, my exGF's / wife are less and less interested in sex as the relationship progress but I am still a horny dog.
and I get tired of using my left hand, and love to feel physical intimacy.
and yes even when I bring it up I am always the one who is in the wrong.
to add seeing an SP once a week was actually way cheaper than my divorce.
and I get tired of using my left hand, and love to feel physical intimacy.
and yes even when I bring it up I am always the one who is in the wrong.
to add seeing an SP once a week was actually way cheaper than my divorce.
What do you do to keep your wife from being suspicious?
I'm so glad I all my girlfriends are actually escorts and they understand, Inara Shah keeps me satisfied in the relationship but I still need and crave variety!
Men are simple. We need variety and simplicity in affection
nNo in Quebec the proportion of couples that actually marry is very low. We simply made an arrangement.
So 1- I always bring a change of cloth with me,
2- I would only see an SP when I know my GF / wife is away for a few hours and I have time to go home and shower before she comes home and I throw the cloth in the laundry basket
I work in construction so I always bring extra clothing with me anyway so for me easier than other people.
I don't understand why some cause I've experienced similar are less interested in sex. It's super annoying. Give me someone who isn't in crazy debt over tons of wants and is into being sexual and I'm happy as a pig. Most of us men aren't that complicated. A lot of people today including guys just watch too much on socials and blow their funds and it's usually who they hangout that impacts their wallets. And the guilt trips with waterfalls get super annoying to try and get what they want. Hell, I've talked with one or two women who say they've used the waterfall stuff to even get out of a speeding ticket and it can work. I do have empathy and stuff but I'm also not to fall for obvious tricks.
This is why as others mentioned this hobby can be great cause you're paying to gtfo lmfao.
wow DITTO! its amazing how many guys I speak with say this...but then I meet some ladies online and they say the opposite, the hubby has no interest in sex with them so they look elsewhere and hence my success with Bumble! The only issue with that is the ladies seem to want more than I can provide. That is why the SP is ideal. They don't want me past the hour either!!For me it's complete lack of sex with my wife. I do not hate her, she is great company and we are good friends. First few years after getting married I tried a lot to initiate for sex but it felt so one-sided, feels like she is just forcing herself to do it so stopped completely. She has zero sex drive, zero. Man has need so started 8 yrs back and going on. If she ever genuinely comes forward for sex I will stop hobbying. I have never had emotional attachment with anyone else and not looking for it. I am willing to go old with my wife. However, I also don't want to deny myself with the pleasure of life.
Hawk.
Loser. Can't get a date to save my life. Have tried everything from dating apps, blind dates, arrange marriage set ups, single events. Also religious. Finally decided to give it a go last year and so far no real bad experiences. Its been a relief, cause now I can pay attention to my real life without worrying about who and when I'll end up with.
The thrill of meeting someone new is intoxicating! Couple that with the discrete access to so many amazing ladies in all shapes and sizes is just too hard to resist. I have met so many incredible ladies over the years. I feel lucky to have explored all my fantasies with them. Variety really is the spice of life!
