Threads like this exist on every John message board, and I am always fascinated by the amount of marketing that is voluntarily done by Sugar Daddies.
I liken it to Crossfit and Southwest Airlines (sorry, an American concept, and their pre-travel meltdown). There is some personality characteristic of guys who like the Sugar system that correlates with a belief that everyone else would like it, also. That is of course helped by the marketing done by Seeking Arrangement itself basically proclaims that the women are not sex workers (presumably therefore, a step above sex workers) and that the men are wealthier and more sophisticated than ordinary Johns. The chance of rejection and being more akin to ordinary dating makes the participants feel they are more “normal” perhaps? As much derision as their is on the board for the U.S. sex work scene makes it interesting that much of the marketing done by Seeking was to set up a defense in case of an investigation by U.S. Federal law enforcement. It is, according to Seeking, merely a dating site. And it is one of the most exposed, so it needed to go heavy on that marketing component, since Seeking did not originally, or even after Fosta/Sesta, relocate abroad.
Sex work is like any other industry. There is not a personal service industry, including medicine, law and accountancy, where the workers are not asked the simply question. You need to generate $500,000 of revenue a year. Would you rather have a few clients paying you a lot each, a bunch of clients paying you quite a bit each, or an absolute shitload of clients paying you a little bit each. The same societal distinctions exist in these industries, by the way. The concierge doctors (sorry, a U.S. concept again) think they are superior to the Immediate Care doctor who is treating a gunshot wound behind one curtain, and waiting for the relaxants to take for the person behind the other curtain who was not aware of the flanged base principle and had the sex toy go all the way up the anus. I am always cognizant of what a young soldier told me once on public transit. He said the Israeli soldiers are the best because the constant fighting keeps them sharp. I suspect the sex worker with the most Johns is the best at giving oral.
I do think a few misconceptions are in order from the posts above. If restaurant dining and/or other public accompaniment is desired, there are a ton of independent escorts who offer that. It is, I suppose, “transactional” in that you are purchasing a six or twelve hour block of time, but the activities will be the same as a Sugar Baby, absent the potential for rejection if it is a first time encounter. Of course, a rational customer would likely purchase a one-hour block with her previously. She will not likely reject either offer, just as the ER or Immediate Care doctor will not decline to remove the sex toy from the anus. She might like some of her customers and experiences better than others, but she gives everyone the same service and attention. She has chosen to either see a bunch of clients paying her quite a bit each, or an absolute shitload of clients paying her a little bit each, just as personal service workers in numerous industries do. In theory, her price for the long time block is higher than the Sugar Baby who is playing the long game. But we all know guys who have left the “escort scene” and pay $20,000 to $30,000 or more to a single Sugar Baby they think they are in love with to support her. Christ, it is almost like alimony.
From the customer perspective, some people value only penis in vagina/mouth/hand/anus time and choose the shortest time blocks possible. Others choose longer time blocks from escorts to have a greater level of conversation along with sex. Personally, I find a declining level of enjoyment as the time block grows too long in length.
I am glad guys who enjoy these long-term arrangements like them. But to answer the marketing-oriented question in the original post of why I don’t do it, the answer is quite simple. Because I have analyzed it, and I don’t like the fundamental premise of it based on my wants and needs. The same way the escorts here on Terb have analyzed it and decided to remain escorts. They aren’t stupid. Most of the escort ladies who are reviewed on Terb are educated, well-traveled, well-read and more computer-literate than the Johns. Every John here knows about the Sugar system, hell they advertise on John message boards. Most Johns aren’t stupid, either. We have decided more enjoyment is obtained for us by seeing more traditional escorts, with each guy choosing the block of time that balances sex and other components of companionship and conversation.
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