Sugar Dating Experience

[ValuedSupporter]

I’ve never fully understood the SB-SD relationship dynamic. What’s the etiquette? What are the rules?

It's weird, time consuming and just....odd. I recognize some MPs and some SPs at the site I'm at so there is a lot of cross-over.
For $, they do Pay Per Meet where the duration is 'flexible'. That is, the social rate tends to be <<$200 social rate that SPs charge. For sex, it's still $500 PPM which is more than the $300-400 that I'm used to but the duration is 60-90 minutes so pricing is 'similar'.
Some poor girls have no idea about pricing and they do get taken advantage of.

As you've said, some are just wacked on their romantic expectations.

 

[ValuedSupporter]

That’s just escorting? Not really a sugar daddy, more like a Splenda daddy in this case…

Yup. That's the way I treat it, it's escorting. I say I'm just interested in once or twice a month where she hosts. No dinners, no socials. The difference between SB and SP? Shrug...volume?

As I mentioned before, I'm surprised at the number that will host me at their house though. Just got off the phone with #4 of "sure I can host". Kids are at school, camp, they work from home...all they need is a photograph...

 

[Tony2000]

Damn you’ve been watering that German plant for a long time! Hope it goes well!

Haha ..... I usually don't invest that much time.
And, of course, I have seen a couple of other young women over the past 12 months.
Nothing quite clicked so now I am looking forward to seeing Miss Germany!

 

[xix]

Yup. That's the way I treat it, it's escorting. I say I'm just interested in once or twice a month where she hosts. No dinners, no socials. The difference between SB and SP? Shrug...volume?

As I mentioned before, I'm surprised at the number that will host me at their house though. Just got off the phone with #4 of "sure I can host". Kids are at school, camp, they work from home...all they need is a photograph...

You must be great looking and 6'1".

 

[shane4]

Just wondering what are we looking for in terms of $ per meet up?

 

[avocat]

Just wondering what are we looking for in terms of $ per meet up?

Most good looking, semi normal SB's want $500 per meet. You may get $400 if lucky. There are a few that may ask more, usually they are strippers. Just say no, $500 seems to be what they are looking for as a "gift".

 

[ValuedSupporter]

You must be great looking and 6'1".

Shrug. There is a 25 year old but most are 32 to 39, kids, HATE the dating scene, don't want the dinner/evening bullshit because they don't have time for it, don't want a relationship because they own a house and guys around their age get weird about it, just want sex and money is the upside. I've also been rejected by about 50. Since my profile states that I just want paid hookups, I assume most don't even bother contacting me.

I'm mid-50s but in the right light I do have a six pack so I'm unusual in that regard I'm told. I don't share my face on the site - one did ghost me today after I sent a face pic though

 

[xix]

Shrug. There is a 25 year old but most are 32 to 39, kids, HATE the dating scene, don't want a relationship because they own a house and guys around their age get weird about it, just want sex and money is the upside. I've also been rejected by about 50.

I'm mid-50s but in the right light I do have a six pack so I'm unusual in that regard I'm told. I don't share my face on the sight - one did ghost me today after I sent a face pic though

I am aware about the house. That is their RETIREMENT Equity unless they meet a MANSION guy.
They don't HATE dating scene just hate the work that comes with it. Just like the work you do to find them.
I know I heard it.

6 pack that would it. And also you own your own home and they know you jump ship to ship. That is what they want.

 

[Leimonis]

They don't HATE dating scene just hate the work that comes with it.

I don’t like cocaine, I just like the smell that comes with it

 

[avocat]

I’ve never fully understood the SB-SD relationship dynamic. What’s the etiquette? What are the rules?

The basic process that works, is online (seeking site) chatting, move offline, e.g. texting, Telegram, whatever, exchange a couple photos, then get the "gift" figured out before meeting up. Then set up a in person rendezvous asap. I prefer to meet up in a public place, have a drink, coffee, boba, ice cream whatever. If the girl is a straight up pro, she will say she is DTF let's just meet up. That works only if you are very comfortable with the her after the texting part or had a Facetime chat. Since the premise is an ongoing SB/SD relationship, a free non-sexual meet up needs to happen. The guy if it works out should reimburse the girl's Uber, but gotta to see the dynamic. I have had women refuse the money and say, we are going to be special friends, don't worry about it the Uber. Also, there is nothing wrong (and is usually what I do) tell them let's meet up for a drink, if we are "vibing" then we can start the the sugar flowing back in my place after we meet up. I hope that helps with how a SD often goes about the process.

 

[ValuedSupporter]

The basic process that works, is online (seeking site) chatting, move offline, e.g. texting, Telegram, whatever, exchange a couple photos, then get the "gift" figured out before meeting up. Then set up a in person rendezvous asap. I prefer to meet up in a public place, have a drink, coffee, boba, ice cream whatever. If the girl is a straight up pro, she will say she is DTF let's just meet up. That works only if you are very comfortable with the her after the texting part or had a Facetime chat. Since the premise is an ongoing SB/SD relationship, a free non-sexual meet up needs to happen. The guy if it works out should reimburse the girl's Uber, but gotta to see the dynamic. I have had women refuse the money and say, we are going to be special friends, don't worry about it the Uber. Also, there is nothing wrong (and is usually what I do) tell them let's meet up for a drink, if we are "vibing" then we can start the the sugar flowing back in my place after we meet up. I hope that helps with how a SD often goes about the process.

True but for me the initial f2f has been just meet for sex. Again, the old debate about SP v. SB. I call it the drop zone process. You know the feeling of that ride where they drop you? That what I call it for both of us when the door opens.

 

[avocat]

My experience (a long time ago) was different. I got paid for sending selfies, some money was sent to spoil me while we were chatting, dinners, a few presents, shopping sprees, paying my rent. We only had sex once and even then he had money for me. I now see that this is not a common practice?… Crazy. The whole point of SD is to provide allowance and spoil you with gifts and outings. I can do PPM at work LMAO.

I have never had a SB ask for a regular allowance. Either they proposed or I proposed the PPM. Essentially an SB is an escort who will not watch the clock, and I'll almost always go out for drinks or dinner. But yes, its basically a discounted escort if you measure it by the length of the date. However, it is different because the woman also chooses the guy. E.g. the exchange of photos, chatting makes it more of a "normal date" but a sure thing to have sex. If the woman is creeped out or finds the guy gross, she can say no. Escorts are pretty much locked into having sex with everyone.

 

[Lv Wmn]

That’s just escorting? Not really a sugar daddy, more like a Splenda daddy in this case…

Splenda daddy might be the funniest thing I have seen on this site. Perfect description.

I tired these sites a couple times and frankly it was too much work/effort for me. I would rather just book someone in most cases.

 

[ValuedSupporter]

My experience (a long time ago) was different. I got paid for sending selfies, some money was sent to spoil me while we were chatting, dinners, a few presents, shopping sprees, paying my rent. We only had sex once and even then he had money for me. I now see that this is not a common practice?… Crazy. The whole point of SD is to provide allowance and spoil you with gifts and outings. I can do PPM at work LMAO.

Not necessarily.

I have no data but my guess is that your experience is likely more common. Talking about Sugaring on TERB is likely a very narrow sub-set of the Sugaring experience since we're all 'focussed' on sex , less on relationships, and likely don't have a provider-mentality that SDs are to stereotypically have.

 

[rocco_s]

Sbs are generally different from sps in the sense that some don't look at what they do as selling sex. Lol.

Some of the sbs I have seen have been university students. Nurses. Retail workers etc. Before covid I think the range was 250 to 500 max. Now it's around 400 to 500. The talent seems to be dwindling. My wildest slavish sex has been with sbs.

Btw. Do any of you guys get msgs from other members asking for the contact info of sbs. Wtf is wrong with people asking for personal information? Lol

 

[cunnilinguist]

My experience (a long time ago) was different. I got paid for sending selfies, some money was sent to spoil me while we were chatting, dinners, a few presents, shopping sprees, paying my rent. We only had sex once and even then he had money for me. I now see that this is not a common practice?… Crazy. The whole point of SD is to provide allowance and spoil you with gifts and outings. I can do PPM at work LMAO.

What you are describing sounds more like findom. The appeal for me is to have something more consistent than an escort, less commitment than a romantic relationship, and a better time/cost ratio than escorts. I have met a couple of women who are clearly out of my league for a relationship, yet our initial meeting allowed us to see that we would enjoy time together with and without clothing. I'm in my 50s and have a dad bod, but everything felt natural with the women I met. They weren't "perfect" porn star types. They were 28 and 32 , pretty, easy to be with, and loved that I respected and listened to them. One woman I met on Seeking joined me for an amazing dinner and we went back to my hotel for a nice unrushed evening. She was curvy, but not BBW, but I sensed that sex had always been about pleasing guys and not ever receiving satisfaction. She never even brought up money, I saw her a few times until life got in the way for both of us. The other woman was naturally pretty, but brilliant as well. We had amazing deep conversations before any clothes came off. The arrangement was PPM but it really did feel like I was helping her with extra cash rather than paying for "get it in, get it off, get it over with". It didn't cost much more than a conventional date, but there was always a guarantee that we would enjoy our time, and that my face would wind up between her legs and she'd return the favour before the night was out

 

[GeeBee]

I have never had a SB ask for a regular allowance. Either they proposed or I proposed the PPM. Essentially an SB is an escort who will not watch the clock, and I'll almost always go out for drinks or dinner. But yes, its basically a discounted escort if you measure it by the length of the date. However, it is different because the woman also chooses the guy. E.g. the exchange of photos, chatting makes it more of a "normal date" but a sure thing to have sex. If the woman is creeped out or finds the guy gross, she can say no. Escorts are pretty much locked into having sex with everyone.

For me that’s the big difference between a SB and an Escort. A SB wants a meet and greet to scope out the guy, see if there is any sort of vibe, and make sure he’s not a creep. I like this and always want a meet and greet for much the same reasons.

In short and over simplified. Sugaring, the SB chooses the guy from a lot of options on a SB site. Escorting, the guys choose the ladies they want to see.

 

[ValuedSupporter]

That’s just escorting? Not really a sugar daddy, more like a Splenda daddy in this case…

Hahahaha.I looked up the term. Interesting.

1. A man who strives to be a Sugar Daddy but just doesn't have the funds to pull it off.
2. An older man who dates younger women but nowhere near as wealthy as a "sugar daddy." Not quite the same as the real thing.
3. When the guy your dating isn't a millionaire, but still tries to spoil you.

Shrug - maybe. However,
1. My budget is $800-$1,000 per week. I'd rather see two @ $500 then 1 @ $500 plus providing dinners and gifts that just take time and doesn't really change anything. My "love language" is not gift giving
2. Beat me what wealthy and "the real thing" is. I think both of these are manufactured stereotypes or are really statistical outliers.
3. Who isn't a millionaire but I have no desire to spoil anyone. I'm married and I spoil only one person and it's not an SB nor SPs/MPs asking for gifts. It just is.

From the POV that I'm not a 'real' SD, absolutely correct. I treat it as a different form of Leolist.

 

[ValuedSupporter]

Btw. Do any of you guys get msgs from other members asking for the contact info of sbs. Wtf is wrong with people asking for personal information? Lol

This is standard & normal behavior on TERB for SP/SB/MP. There are a few private chat groups where TERB members get together for this explicit reason. I think it's gross and fucked. I should have accepted a few invites so I can screen shot and call them out.

 

[Prentice]

Sbs are generally different from sps in the sense that some don't look at what they do as selling sex. Lol.

Some of the sbs I have seen have been university students. Nurses. Retail workers etc. Before covid I think the range was 250 to 500 max. Now it's around 400 to 500. The talent seems to be dwindling. My wildest slavish sex has been with sbs.

Btw. Do any of you guys get msgs from other members asking for the contact info of sbs. Wtf is wrong with people asking for personal information? Lol

I agree, some of my wildest sex has been with SBs. I've given out referrals to some members who have asked - not phone numbers but seeking names and received a few good ones in return. Nothing wrong with that and kind of like the purpose of this board.