I’m in the process of writing this article and I want to get a client’s perspective. What do you think should be talked about more? Let’s make a list together.
Here are some starting points for this discussion.
1) Are there any questions you always want to ask providers, but simply can’t do it in person? (Don’t want to be rude or invasive; don’t want to ruin the fun of the moment).
2) What aspect of this industry would you like to learn about? It doesn’t matter if you simply want to be entertained — I know you are curious about something. What is it?
3) Anything you don’t want to hear anymore?
4) Any strong opinions you would like to share?
5) Finally, what are the most entertaining/controversial threads on this forum?
I’ll go first.
In general, the “hidden costs” of being a part of the industry should be known by everybody from the start. For example, the cost of disclosing your status (as a provider or a client) to literally anybody, such as family/friends/coworkers/health professionals/financial instituons, etc. It can have both external and internal components. Real-life consequences (getting fired or being denied a work opportunity) are nothing compared to internalized shame/guilt. All providers and all clients should be aware and prepared to deal with such feelings if/when they arise.
1) Occasionally, I uncover what stereotypes/biases/prejudice clients seem to have about me specifically and sex workers in general. I wish I could just ask clients what they *really* think about sex work. I’m curious.
2) As a provider, I want to learn more about running a business because, well, it is a business venture and should be treated accordingly.
3) “Sex work is work” type of discussions feel outdated to me. I acknowledge that others might have a different perspective, especially if they think morality is somehow involved. If you think it’s morally wrong, then you won’t see it as “real” work. But discussing morality feels even more outdated.
4) This forum no longer serves its original purpose of preventing clients from being scammed.
5) In my opinion, “Worst Experience” threads are both entertaining and informative. I think that “DDG” threads are the most controversial because people engage for the sake of engaging. There is no real discussion to be had and yet, everybody has something to say.
All comments are welcome.
Here are some starting points for this discussion.
1) Are there any questions you always want to ask providers, but simply can’t do it in person? (Don’t want to be rude or invasive; don’t want to ruin the fun of the moment).
2) What aspect of this industry would you like to learn about? It doesn’t matter if you simply want to be entertained — I know you are curious about something. What is it?
3) Anything you don’t want to hear anymore?
4) Any strong opinions you would like to share?
5) Finally, what are the most entertaining/controversial threads on this forum?
I’ll go first.
In general, the “hidden costs” of being a part of the industry should be known by everybody from the start. For example, the cost of disclosing your status (as a provider or a client) to literally anybody, such as family/friends/coworkers/health professionals/financial instituons, etc. It can have both external and internal components. Real-life consequences (getting fired or being denied a work opportunity) are nothing compared to internalized shame/guilt. All providers and all clients should be aware and prepared to deal with such feelings if/when they arise.
1) Occasionally, I uncover what stereotypes/biases/prejudice clients seem to have about me specifically and sex workers in general. I wish I could just ask clients what they *really* think about sex work. I’m curious.
2) As a provider, I want to learn more about running a business because, well, it is a business venture and should be treated accordingly.
3) “Sex work is work” type of discussions feel outdated to me. I acknowledge that others might have a different perspective, especially if they think morality is somehow involved. If you think it’s morally wrong, then you won’t see it as “real” work. But discussing morality feels even more outdated.
4) This forum no longer serves its original purpose of preventing clients from being scammed.
5) In my opinion, “Worst Experience” threads are both entertaining and informative. I think that “DDG” threads are the most controversial because people engage for the sake of engaging. There is no real discussion to be had and yet, everybody has something to say.
All comments are welcome.
In fact, I would love more books recommendations (about this industry, human sexuality and all things sex-related). I got some pretty great suggestions from the girlies; now it’s your turn, boys! If you’re up to it, of course 🤍
