Fingering: The basics

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Since Oral was mentioned in this thread.

 

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Posted Just Because.

 

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It doesn't fit the subject of the thread, I think its funny.

 

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[KittyCaterina]

I’ve noticed a few of you complained about not being able to finger escorts. A lot of my peers don’t allow it for valid reasons. Let me help you out. Most common reasons are: hygiene, sensitivity and comfort

Never and I mean it never:
• Stick a finger in someone without consent
• Stick your fingers in someone if your hands are dirty
• Go from ass to vag

Quick reminders:
• Always wash your hands before
• Keep your nails short and make sure they’re not broken
• Ask for consent
• Ask if it’s ok to add a finger
• Use lube especially for anal play

These can seem very obvious to some and I’m happy if it is but sadly, far too many men don’t know the basics. Vaginas are very sensitive and a small detail like forgetting to wash your hands before you play with it can disrupt its pH. You know what that means? Bacterial vaginosis or yeast infection. Those aren’t pretty or sexy words, I know. That also means that the provider won’t be able to see clients while she’s treating herself. Don’t be rude, wash your hands.

You aren’t a DJ and the clit isn’t a mixing table so there’s no need to rub it in all directions super rapidly. Ask your partner how she likes it, not only is it super sexy but on top of it you’ll know exactly what she likes.

We are not hiding gold in our cervix so there’s no need to go that deep. The g spot isn’t even there.

It’s not a race either so you don’t need to speed up as soon as you slide your fingers in. Start slowly and ask your partner if she’d like you to go faster or better yet, maybe she’ll tell you herself.

TLDR: Providers refuse DIGITS(fingering) because they’re afraid you’ll hurt them or that you’ll disrupt their pH. Don’t shove your fingers rapidly like you’re in some kind of competition. Don’t go from ass to vag.

Need more advice:
How to book an indy
How to introduce yourself like a pro

Thank you so much for posting this.

My website clearly states to be gentle while using fingers and to have trimmed nails and clean hands.

I did say no fingers for about a month and had two TERB members complain and refuse to see me because of it, like they were telling me this to pressure me, so I went back to fingers allowed with the requirements above.

Other than my regulars, nobody who uses fingers seems to listen to the requirements, so I will be going back to no fingers at all (yes your thumb counts and I say this for a reason, not that I should have to).

Ramming fingers or thumbs into me while I'm dry, being rough with fingers, trying to basically fist me with multiple fingers that obviously won't fit, using fingers with untrimmed nails, etc... have all caused me injury that prevents me from working the next day, or next few days.

Once I had someone being so rough, fast and hard that their fingers and nails would ram onto my clit or lips multiple times instead of going back inside me and I bled... They had caused small cuts.

Some need to realize that our internal vaginal walls are sensitive with very thin "skin" and that they need to work up to fingers, get us wet before ramming them in there.

Another thing I personally hate is when a client bends or crooks their finger and twists it around and around. It hurts! A lot!
The finger should only be slightly bent in a come hither motion where the g spot is, not in the opposite direction facing my asshole.

Sorry guys, rant over.

 

[LC18]

I did say no fingers for about a month and had two TERB members complain and refuse to see me because of it, like they were telling me this to pressure me, so I went back to fingers allowed with the requirements above.

That’s horrible, I’m sorry. No one should feel pressured to offer a service they’re not comfortable with.

 

[SchlongConery]

Ramming fingers or thumbs into me while I'm dry, being rough with fingers, trying to basically fist me with multiple fingers that obviously won't fit, using fingers with untrimmed nails, etc... have all caused me injury that prevents me from working the next day, or next few days.

Once I had someone being so rough, fast and hard that their fingers and nails would ram onto my clit or lips multiple times instead of going back inside me and I bled... They had caused small cuts.

Another thing I personally hate is when a client bends or crooks their finger and twists it around and around. It hurts! A lot!

The finger should only be slightly bent in a come hither motion where the g spot is, not in the opposite direction facing my asshole.

Sorry guys, rant over.

Valid Rant .

I can't even imagine a fellow human being so out of touch with the reality of touching. And with the fucking gross, dirty nails and hands I see on a lot of men. Imagine those assholes having a guy like themselves doing that to their ass hole?!?! And those are likely the type of guys who would whine and (figuratively) be butt hurt if you tried to tell them how to touch a pussy correctly. On the hands of the right man, fingers are more versatile and pleasure inducing than anything short of a Hitachi Magic Wand!

Sorry you have experienced this.