Sexless relationship of 3 years - tips?

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Does anyone know what the OP ended up doing?

I lived through my own version of this. Eventually saw the writing on the wall and got out of the marriage (expensive sadly - but the right thing to do for future happiness).
 
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Okay so I know Ive been posting a lot on here but to be honest Ive lived through this all and come out the other end with a pretty good relationship. Although it goes up and down and has faltered somewhat. But get this I had an epithany tonight...

So when I wasnt having much sex (young kids tire you out and keep you up all night) I read a book called 4 Hour Body by Tim Ferriss and in it he talks a lot about hacking your sex life. Long story short he talks about eating steak and grass fed butter and was in a restaurant and all the women were staring at him. Later that night his girlfirend ripped his clothes off - jumped him and scratched the crap out of his back with her nails. She had also noticed that any woman that came near him the night before in the restaurant was cranking her neck to check him out. Then he noticed his scratches healed in a day or so - crazy - anyway hes a body hacker so always checks his blood and realises his Testosterone is through the roof... Anyhoo I wanted to try it and realised I couldnt afford steak or even the grass fed butter so i looked for other solutions and kinda forgot about it.

These days kids are grown up and relationship is kinda all right - up and down - nothing spectacular - I get BJ maybe every week or 2. Kinda unenthusiastic and actual sex maybe every few months. So its not bad - and with kids and work and everyone being tired I bet its a pretty good average. Not that I'm happy about it - which is why Im on here...

Anyhoo - getting old struggling with depression and ED - I goes to doctor and he puts me on Testosterone replacement Therapy.... my Testosterone was pretty low for my age.... 2 months on it and last bloodwork my T is back up to a pretty good level... I'm feeling like I have more energy, not as depressed and dont need naps every day. My boners back too.

And this is the interesting bit - weve been going through a good patch - BJs more regular and Ive noticed shes up for sex every week too. I was thinking we were both in good moods and life was good - though nothing much has changed and its also winter so we should both be sad and depressed right? So now I'm thinking its the TRT stuff. Tim ferriss did it natural - but for all those women to notice him it... he must have been giving off pheromones or something.

Ive also read that semen contains testosterone. So 2 and 2 together. T laden BJs upped my wifes T maybe? And I'm giving off more T pheremones - so double wammy? All of a sudden the sex life is back.

I have read that women need T to keep their libido going and as they get older it drops just like the male.

I also read that if you hang out with young girls your body also gives off more T.

So maybe thats the solution -

1. Hang out with young girls and wifey gets jealous and also your T goes up.
2. go see your doc and get TRT - Google how to lower your testorsterone so you pass the blood test. Then get the TRT
3. Eat steak and grass fed butter.
4. Try and get her to give you a BJ instead of sex.. Her T goes up and you start giving off the T pheremones...

And maybe bobs your uncle.

Maybe all this time weve been looking for psychological solutions - communication - playing games to create jealousy etc... when really we just have to go back to biology... she needs more T and we need more T.

Im also thinking that womens T levels are naturally low so it doesnt take much of a drop for her to go off. Whereas guys start higher and so we have more leeway.

I should have been a scientist or something...
 
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Or maybe the dudes are having sex with each other? 😂
(Not that there is anything wrong with that).
I actually thought about that for a while - being gay for a bit - those dudes are all having sex at the gym, their houses are always imaculate and they always seem sooooo happy. I have a few buddies who are gay and whenever they see you they are always like "Hiiiiyaaaa" with the biggest smile. Probaby cos they are having sex all the time. Then I go into the office and all the women are so cranky and bitchy it drives me nuts.... and especially at a certain time of the month the whole mood in the office changes.... like its full moon or something...
 

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I actually thought about that for a while - being gay for a bit - those dudes are all having sex at the gym, their houses are always imaculate and they always seem sooooo happy. I have a few buddies who are gay and whenever they see you they are always like "Hiiiiyaaaa" with the biggest smile. Probaby cos they are having sex all the time. Then I go into the office and all the women are so cranky and bitchy it drives me nuts.... and especially at a certain time of the month the whole mood in the office changes.... like its full moon or something...
 

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Okay so I know Ive been posting a lot on here but to be honest Ive lived through this all and come out the other end with a pretty good relationship. Although it goes up and down and has faltered somewhat. But get this I had an epithany tonight...

So when I wasnt having much sex (young kids tire you out and keep you up all night) I read a book called 4 Hour Body by Tim Ferriss and in it he talks a lot about hacking your sex life. Long story short he talks about eating steak and grass fed butter and was in a restaurant and all the women were staring at him. Later that night his girlfirend ripped his clothes off - jumped him and scratched the crap out of his back with her nails. She had also noticed that any woman that came near him the night before in the restaurant was cranking her neck to check him out. Then he noticed his scratches healed in a day or so - crazy - anyway hes a body hacker so always checks his blood and realises his Testosterone is through the roof... Anyhoo I wanted to try it and realised I couldnt afford steak or even the grass fed butter so i looked for other solutions and kinda forgot about it.

These days kids are grown up and relationship is kinda all right - up and down - nothing spectacular - I get BJ maybe every week or 2. Kinda unenthusiastic and actual sex maybe every few months. So its not bad - and with kids and work and everyone being tired I bet its a pretty good average. Not that I'm happy about it - which is why Im on here...

Anyhoo - getting old struggling with depression and ED - I goes to doctor and he puts me on Testosterone replacement Therapy.... my Testosterone was pretty low for my age.... 2 months on it and last bloodwork my T is back up to a pretty good level... I'm feeling like I have more energy, not as depressed and dont need naps every day. My boners back too.

And this is the interesting bit - weve been going through a good patch - BJs more regular and Ive noticed shes up for sex every week too. I was thinking we were both in good moods and life was good - though nothing much has changed and its also winter so we should both be sad and depressed right? So now I'm thinking its the TRT stuff. Tim ferriss did it natural - but for all those women to notice him it... he must have been giving off pheromones or something.

Ive also read that semen contains testosterone. So 2 and 2 together. T laden BJs upped my wifes T maybe? And I'm giving off more T pheremones - so double wammy? All of a sudden the sex life is back.

I have read that women need T to keep their libido going and as they get older it drops just like the male.

I also read that if you hang out with young girls your body also gives off more T.

So maybe thats the solution -

1. Hang out with young girls and wifey gets jealous and also your T goes up.
2. go see your doc and get TRT - Google how to lower your testorsterone so you pass the blood test. Then get the TRT
3. Eat steak and grass fed butter.
4. Try and get her to give you a BJ instead of sex.. Her T goes up and you start giving off the T pheremones...

And maybe bobs your uncle.

Maybe all this time weve been looking for psychological solutions - communication - playing games to create jealousy etc... when really we just have to go back to biology... she needs more T and we need more T.

Im also thinking that womens T levels are naturally low so it doesnt take much of a drop for her to go off. Whereas guys start higher and so we have more leeway.

I should have been a scientist or something...
a lot of women struggle with over testosterone these days and that’s why they need to be on birth control pill. PCOS

I was rolling my eyes thinking you were selling the lion diet here
 

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a lot of women struggle with over testosterone these days and that’s why they need to be on birth control pill. PCOS

I was rolling my eyes thinking you were selling the lion diet here
I wonder what it is women are doing that gives them too much testosterone? I'd love to try it.

I looked at the Lion Diet - never heard of it before - that seems expensive. Also not a big fan of Steak... I'm mostly a fan of whatever diet allows me to eat Burritos all day. Which probably accounts for my low T :)
 
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I wonder what it is women are doing that gives them too much testosterone? I'd love to try it.

I looked at the Lion Diet - never heard of it before - that seems expensive. Also not a big fan of Steak... I'm mostly a fan of whatever diet allows me to eat Burritos all day. Which probably accounts for my low T :)

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Get out while the gettin's good.
If you don't put yourself in a position to get everything you want out of life.....no one will.
 

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xix said:
Now at work I see the divorcees have their FWB or one night stand. And they always try to hint or hit on me. I


- - Erm... where do you work? and are they hiring?
 

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Its funny but sometimes I will eat a sandwich whilst taking a dump. So even though you shouldnt shit where you eat you can actually eat where you shit.
And are you vegan, carnivore or omnivore ? Can you eat a tuna fish sandwich, smoke meat sandwich or peanut butter and banana sandwich whilst defecating ? And you eat with your hands, can you eat with utensils whilst pushing out a good load? I witnessed a Japanese lady eating ramen with chopsticks whilst constipated on the toilet a while back .
 

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Its funny but sometimes I will eat a sandwich whilst taking a dump. So even though you shouldnt shit where you eat you can actually eat where you shit.
Speaking of shitting, wasn't there a Quebec radio guy who made the controversial remark that shitting is better than sex? Maybe he was on to something.
 

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And are you vegan, carnivore or omnivore ? Can you eat a tuna fish sandwich, smoke meat sandwich or peanut butter and banana sandwich whilst defecating ? And you eat with your hands, can you eat with utensils whilst pushing out a good load? I witnessed a Japanese lady eating ramen with chopsticks whilst constipated on the toilet a while back .
Ive never tried eating with utensils - I'll give it a go next time. I'm not vegan or anything specific and I"m not sure Id like a peanut butter and banana sandwich normally -let alone while taking a dump - thats just weird.
 

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