Should I Offer to Pay Her?

[Not getting younger]

Too many variables as far as I’m concerned.

As Jenesis said, if you haven’t bought a gift or thought about one. Do so now. It’s her birthday.

With respect to “paying” her. Not sure I would. I would also certainly pick up the tab for what ever you do…….call it taking her out for her birthday.

For starters you might offend her. You could also end up setting a tone you don’t want to…Aka the nature of your friendship is it transactional again?

long winded way of saying there’s being a friend, and there’s being a John. Which are you?

Only you can really have a sense. Only you know the past “chemistry” per se. If I became actual friends, or was on a short list of those see would see as a quasi independent with an SP, and then at some later time we reacquainted.

Rome wasnt built in a day. Lay the foundation first.

 

[Greytop19]

Don't offer to pay. I wouldn't give her a birthday present either-taking her out for a nice dinner is enough.

She should pay for the room too since she suggested it- counter by offering to split it.

I know you're not going to take any of my advice but she'll be more attracted to you if you follow my advice instead if simping which is your plan.

He is going on a date with a Gold Digger. More she wants, the more he gives. Not worth the trouble.

 

[Greytop19]

Hey Everyone - thanks again for taking the time to provide advice. While I had a notion of what the situation was, I truthfully wasn’t wholly sure.

So, I’m happy to say that it was definitely a hook up!

Her fiancée (yup, she’s engaged) has been out of town for work, so she was feeling both lonely and horny. My reaching out to her when I did was fortuitous, because it was absolutely perfect timing.

When I was with her today, there was no talk of money or anything.

When we got to the room, there was chit chat for around a minute and then we couldn’t keep our hands and lips off of each other.

(Sorry to disappoint, but I’m not going to provide a review. Let’s just say that the passion was intense and we made up for lost time.)

We ended up staying in the room for around 3.5 hours. We didn’t even have a chance to go out for lunch.

Before we left, I gave her her birthday card and gift. She read the card and said thank you for the gift. It was a gift card for her favourite store, and she didn’t even look at the amount on the card or gift receipt. She didn’t care.

As we walked to our cars, she asked when we were going to see each other again.

I’m going to try and set something up for July.

She did tell me that when she does get married next year, then she’ll definitely stop seeing me.

I really don’t mind, because I ultimately want her to be in a happy marriage, so until then I’ll just savour the moments that we will have together.

Every man needs to be engaged to a woman like this gold digger.
If they get married she will be cheating on him for gift cards and cash.
Its all about money, no morals, no love, no commitments. Lust and greed.

 

[Sonic Temple]

Don’t bring it up until after you’ve fucked, had lunch, had wine etc.

You’re going to want to see her again - after she’s cum, you’ve cum, you’re dressing or wrapping up, it seems like a real conversation.

We have something real here - it’s an adult conversation about the parameters of your relationship, including exclusivity and financial arrangements.

Just don’t do it beforehand.

@RichardG2020 Go and enjoy your date and stop making assumptions. It will be degrading and insulting to offer her money when she did not mention it to you.
If you feel obligated get a gift card. That is more polite and respectable for a gentleman to do.

Hey Everyone - thanks again for taking the time to provide advice. While I had a notion of what the situation was, I truthfully wasn’t wholly sure.

So, I’m happy to say that it was definitely a hook up!

Her fiancée (yup, she’s engaged) has been out of town for work, so she was feeling both lonely and horny. My reaching out to her when I did was fortuitous, because it was absolutely perfect timing.

When I was with her today, there was no talk of money or anything.

When we got to the room, there was chit chat for around a minute and then we couldn’t keep our hands and lips off of each other.

(Sorry to disappoint, but I’m not going to provide a review. Let’s just say that the passion was intense and we made up for lost time.)

We ended up staying in the room for around 3.5 hours. We didn’t even have a chance to go out for lunch.

Before we left, I gave her her birthday card and gift. She read the card and said thank you for the gift. It was a gift card for her favourite store, and she didn’t even look at the amount on the card or gift receipt. She didn’t care.

As we walked to our cars, she asked when we were going to see each other again.

I’m going to try and set something up for July.

She did tell me that when she does get married next year, then she’ll definitely stop seeing me.

I really don’t mind, because I ultimately want her to be in a happy marriage, so until then I’ll just savour the moments that we will have together.

All great advice and you lucky bastard! I wish shit like this happened to me.

 

[Jenesis]

Hey Everyone - thanks again for taking the time to provide advice. While I had a notion of what the situation was, I truthfully wasn’t wholly sure.

So, I’m happy to say that it was definitely a hook up!

Her fiancée (yup, she’s engaged) has been out of town for work, so she was feeling both lonely and horny. My reaching out to her when I did was fortuitous, because it was absolutely perfect timing.

When I was with her today, there was no talk of money or anything.

When we got to the room, there was chit chat for around a minute and then we couldn’t keep our hands and lips off of each other.

(Sorry to disappoint, but I’m not going to provide a review. Let’s just say that the passion was intense and we made up for lost time.)

We ended up staying in the room for around 3.5 hours. We didn’t even have a chance to go out for lunch.

Before we left, I gave her her birthday card and gift. She read the card and said thank you for the gift. It was a gift card for her favourite store, and she didn’t even look at the amount on the card or gift receipt. She didn’t care.

As we walked to our cars, she asked when we were going to see each other again.

I’m going to try and set something up for July.

She did tell me that when she does get married next year, then she’ll definitely stop seeing me.

I really don’t mind, because I ultimately want her to be in a happy marriage, so until then I’ll just savour the moments that we will have together.

Really happy to hear it all worked out and both of you had a great time. And I think it is good you took the advice and didn’t bring up money. That was the right call.

Just like you said - enjoy the time you have while you have it.

 

[LC18]

A former escort who is cheating on her fiancé with her former client. I definitely didn’t have that on my bingo card.

Happy for you if it’s real, if not it was a good read.

 

[RichardG2020]

Bullshit.

Interesting comments here.

I really don’t care whether some of you believe me or not, but this is an escort review board, so our credibility is our only currency here.

That’s why I’m posting some screenshots of our convo below, which essentially validate all that I had previously described.

I don’t think she’s a gold digger at heart per se. She would have a line up of guys paying for her time if she wanted to, but she hasn’t got paid for sex for close to two years. If she needed easy money, she could have reached out to me anytime, but she didn’t.

And yes, her morals are suspect, because she’s an engaged woman who’s cheating on her fiancée. Then again, all of us men here are seeing escorts, so let’s not be overly judgmental.

The reality is that there’s no happy ending for she and I. She’s going to go back to her life, and I’m going to go back to mine. I’m just appreciative of the time we have together, because I had thought that we would never be intimate again.

And now I’m sensing that she’s trapped in her own guilt once more - just like before. In the heat of passion, she doesn’t care about what she’s doing, and she doesn’t care what lines she crosses. However, when she gets home, she is hit with the cold and sobering reality of cheating on her fiancée and she gets consumed by guilt.

That’s what happened to us last time, and that’s what kept us apart for more than a year. And I can already see that it’s happening again.

That’s cool with me. I’m not relying on her for long term companionship or emotional support.

Women are complicated creatures. Regardless, we can’t help but be so enamoured by them…

 

[RichardG2020]

It's like reading Penthouse forum.

Dear Penthouse Forum,

I know this is going to sound like a crazy fantasy, but every word of this story is true....

Really, Penthouse Forum?

Okay, Boomer.

 

[RichardG2020]

AVOID cash, it's going to ruin everything, trust me.

Pay for dinner, and get her a very expensive gift. I'm thinking at least $800, the equivalent of what she'd probably charge yoiu if she were still escorting. A new iphone, eg.

I offered to get her an Apple Watch to help with her running, but she already had one, so I suggested Lululemon so she could look sexy when she’s running. It turned out that she loves Lulu.

We didn’t get around to dining out, so I saved around $200 there.

 

[RichardG2020]

All great advice and you lucky bastard! I wish shit like this happened to me.

Yeah, it was pretty cool Sonic.

We had an awesome time yesterday, but I know that I can’t bank on her.

Like I had mentioned in my original post, I only saw her once in the last two years, because she felt guilty about cheating on her BF.

I can already sense she’s feeling guilty again - especially considering that she’s going to get married next year.

 

[massman]

Glad it worked out for you (didn’t need to post the text exchange IMO tho). TBH, I was going to post that you should clarify the terms of your meeting (pay or no pay) beforehand, looks like I was wrong.

Tough situation tho, as there is an expiry date on this thing. I guess all you can do is enjoy while you can. Being the “other guy” is fraught with all sorts of complications. Hopefully the both of you can enjoy living in the moment together and then go back to your respective lives with no regrets or bad feelings.

 

[Y_Diner]

Hey Everyone - thanks again for taking the time to provide advice. While I had a notion of what the situation was, I truthfully wasn’t wholly sure.

So, I’m happy to say that it was definitely a hook up!

Her fiancée (yup, she’s engaged) has been out of town for work, so she was feeling both lonely and horny. My reaching out to her when I did was fortuitous, because it was absolutely perfect timing.

When I was with her today, there was no talk of money or anything.

When we got to the room, there was chit chat for around a minute and then we couldn’t keep our hands and lips off of each other.

(Sorry to disappoint, but I’m not going to provide a review. Let’s just say that the passion was intense and we made up for lost time.)

We ended up staying in the room for around 3.5 hours. We didn’t even have a chance to go out for lunch.

Before we left, I gave her her birthday card and gift. She read the card and said thank you for the gift. It was a gift card for her favourite store, and she didn’t even look at the amount on the card or gift receipt. She didn’t care.

As we walked to our cars, she asked when we were going to see each other again.

I’m going to try and set something up for July.

She did tell me that when she does get married next year, then she’ll definitely stop seeing me.

I really don’t mind, because I ultimately want her to be in a happy marriage, so until then I’ll just savour the moments that we will have together.

Glad you enjoyed. Who’s the sp?

 

[RichardG2020]

Glad it worked out for you (didn’t need to post the text exchange IMO tho). TBH, I was going to post that you should clarify the terms of your meeting (pay or no pay) beforehand, looks like I was wrong.

Tough situation tho, as there is an expiry date on this thing. I guess all you can do is enjoy while you can. Being the “other guy” is fraught with all sorts of complications. Hopefully the both of you can enjoy living in the moment together and then go back to your respective lives with no regrets or bad feelings.

Yeah, I didn’t really want to post the texts, but her privacy was fully maintained. No one could really glean real world information from them.

I also redacted some things and left out a few texts that were maybe too personal.

The only real complication is if I start developing real feelings for her. Of course, I do care about her, but I would never delude myself into thinking that we have a future together.

 

[RichardG2020]

Glad you enjoyed. Who’s the sp?

 

[IM469]

I am probably the odd guy in this particular thread. I find the whole situation pathetic and foreshadows a shallow and unhappy life for both of you.

I don't knock seeing a favorite escort but you seem to have squandered your own life getting reality and fantasy hopelessly mixed up. Why not get a real relationship and plan a future that doesn't involve following / waiting for someone who is obviously not interested in you as a partner ? If she really is attracted to you and thought you were more than a reliable source of cash/gifts - hasn't it dawned on you that she would be with you and not marrying someone else ?

I also have the distinct impression that her boyfriend is in reality her pimp. How can he possible see his fiancée flashing gifts and money after her night out with the girls without being suspicious ? Or maybe he is the gullible rich patsy that she can manipulate - her definition of a perfect husband. Judging from her latest escapade , if this isn't her pimp - he is going to be emotionally gutted by his new wife.

 

[black booty lover]

I am probably the odd guy in this particular thread. I find the whole situation pathetic and foreshadows a shallow and unhappy life for both of you.

I don't knock seeing a favorite escort but you seem to have squandered your own life getting reality and fantasy hopelessly mixed up. Why not get a real relationship and plan a future that doesn't involve following / waiting for someone who is obviously not interested in you as a partner ? If she really is attracted to you and thought you were more than a reliable source of cash/gifts - hasn't it dawned on you that she would be with you and not marrying someone else ?

I also have the distinct impression that her boyfriend is in reality her pimp. How can he possible see his fiancée flashing gifts and money after her night out with the girls without being suspicious ? Or maybe he is the gullible rich patsy that she can manipulate - her definition of a perfect husband. Judging from her latest escapade , if this isn't her pimp - he is going to be emotionally gutted by his new wife.

Carefully what you post, he might come at you with calling you "Boomer"...lol.

 

[Jenesis]

I am probably the odd guy in this particular thread. I find the whole situation pathetic and foreshadows a shallow and unhappy life for both of you.

I don't knock seeing a favorite escort but you seem to have squandered your own life getting reality and fantasy hopelessly mixed up. Why not get a real relationship and plan a future that doesn't involve following / waiting for someone who is obviously not interested in you as a partner ? If she really is attracted to you and thought you were more than a reliable source of cash/gifts - hasn't it dawned on you that she would be with you and not marrying someone else ?

I also have the distinct impression that her boyfriend is in reality her pimp. How can he possible see his fiancée flashing gifts and money after her night out with the girls without being suspicious ? Or maybe he is the gullible rich patsy that she can manipulate - her definition of a perfect husband. Judging from her latest escapade , if this isn't her pimp - he is going to be emotionally gutted by his new wife.

I think this wins the post with the most assumptions posted at one time award.

 

[Jenesis]

We are on an escort review board where married men review escorts they have seen on a regular basis but we are going to judge the morals of a former escort who is cheating on her fiancé?????? Really?????

The double standards are strong in this thread.

 

[Not getting younger]

We are on an escort review board where married men review escorts they have seen on a regular basis but we are going to judge the morals of a former escort who is cheating on her fiancé?????? Really?????

The double standards are strong in this thread.

The double standards men and society have for/towards women are at times comical, usually just sad.

this thread alone. “Go get her champ you da man…..and.. “she’s a gold digging whore”.

one of my personal favs
We guys want GFs, SPs that are uninhibited. Will swallow, more than happy to DFK with their juices dripping off our chins. But most guys would absolutely recoil if a SP came up to kiss closed mouth, let alone open..with our juices dripping down their chins….I can just imagine the “review”…..lol.

Even today, while things are certainly more relaxed. Girls with ink are viewed differently and treated differently.

Maybe it’s because I have two daughters, my “world” views are that of a father. One where we can look at, and treat women as just people.

not there yet, not by a long shot.

 

[black booty lover]

The double standards men and society have for/towards women are at times comical, usually just sad.

this thread alone. “Go get her champ you da man…..and.. “she’s a gold digging whore”.

one of my personal favs
We guys want GFs, SPs that are uninhibited. Will swallow, more than happy to DFK with their juices dripping off our chins. But most guys would absolutely recoil if a SP came up to kiss closed mouth, let alone open..with our juices dripping down their chins….I can just imagine the “review”…..lol.

Even today, while things are certainly more relaxed. Girls with ink are viewed differently and treated differently.

Maybe it’s because I have two daughters, my “world” views are that of a father. One where we can look at, and treat women as just people.

not there yet, not by a long shot.

But there's always a double standard for both genders.

I'll never foget the whole Elian Gonzalez controversy back in 2000.

Mom and him defect to Miami in a raft but the mom drown and two fisherman find Elian in a tube and hand him off to the U.S Guard.

The farther in Cuba finds out and wants him back and it becomes a major international controversy. Had the tables been flipped where the father drown and the mom wanted the kid back in Cuba, nobody would have known who the fuck the kid was and she would have had him back in a heart beat.