Should I Offer to Pay Her?

[curr3n_c1000]

and women are suppose to trust men?

They are at working, cooking, cleaning, raising children, busting their ass all day and men are out here reviewing women they see.

What’s the difference? You judge men with that same brush?

Women control sex. It goes as far as they allow it.

So the acts may look similar but they are not. Women chose to have sex, Men are only allowed the opportunity.

Judge not the men, but the women. For they are the ones that have truly forsaken the boundaries of trust.

 

[Not getting younger]

Just curious.
If a woman came up to any of you. Said “will you fuck me” . Whether you say yay or nay. That’s not your choice? And let’s not forget that this isn’t the Stone Age anymore thankfully and women are “freer” to be more forward…..

I am so reminded of my time spent online dating post divorce. Man what a cesspool that is filled with both males and females. All chasing the same thing…like teens out of high school again... Most of them plastic and shallow. I know for a fact I turned a lot would be messagers off because I’m my profile I said..

“I don’t want to see you on a beach in a thong, or dressed up and dressed to the nines for a Friday Saturday night. I want to see what you look like Sunday morning because that is what I’ll live with…yep turned a lot off. I was good with that.

know dozens, dozens of divorced men and women just hating on each other blaming each other for everything. Trust and jealousy ( often more about insecurity) issues to no end.

“we are just given the opportunity”
/chuckle

back to the double standards.
it/they amaze me.

 

[Chaka Khan]

How is it useless? The 5 pages of responses would suggest otherwise. If it were posted as a review I might agree, but it's in The Lounge. It's here for discussion, not to review or promote a particular sp. Clearly there's interest. Which suggests that your response is far more useless than the thread.

Chill out, and get a sense of humor . You take yourself and this hobby way too seriously.

 

[jsanchez]

Chill out, and get a sense of humor . You take yourself and this hobby way too seriously.

Must have been the missing emoji

 

[Chaka Khan]

Must have been the missing emoji

The expectation, is that people can comprehend text without the aid of emojis.

 

[dirtyharry555]

“I don’t want to see you on a beach in a thong, or dressed up and dressed to the nines for a Friday Saturday night. "

I do...

 

[Not getting younger]

I do...

sure.
and then you spend the next 364 days, in PJs, and comfy clothes, no make up, hair messy, cleaning house. Being people. The morning after hangover…….

it’s not for me to say what’s right for you. But have fun in the online dating world if that’s your thing

 

[Y_Diner]

and women are suppose to trust men?

They are at working, cooking, cleaning, raising children, busting their ass all day and men are out here reviewing women they see.

What’s the difference? You judge men with that same brush?

There are plenty of dbl standards that are not fair towards men and women. There is little to no trust between any man and woman especially if they met in this world. Imho, no judgement, just is what it is.

 

[Not getting younger]

There are plenty of dbl standards that are not fair towards men and women. There is little to no trust between any man and woman especially if they met in this world. Imho, no judgement, just is what it is.

when it comes to sex, or aspects of it. How many can you name that apply to Males.
Let’s start with
chasity/virginity
Genital mutilation
appearance and grooming (just curious how much a year you spend on Beauty products )
“Nice girl but her tits are starting to sag”
“Good time but she has stretch, marks fucking TDL and photoshop”…Say the guy with a beer belly.

adultry.
Promiscuity.
Isn’t being tight highly desirable for SPs……and in this thread alone. There are times of well if you’re a guy and have hundreds of partners. You da man. If a girl has hundreds of partners. Who would want to have a relationship, get married to that.

Lol jeez.
Certain cultures women are still stoned to death. Honour killings, treated like pariahs (western soceity)

Want to open the rape can of worms? Can you walk to your car at the far end of a parking late at night and feel safe?

less obvious, or better today
We men like woman that can speak their minds in the bedroom. The filthier the better. Outside the bedroom?
Ink?
Oral and bodily fluids
Birth control………………….
The list is pretty fucking long and just things off the top of my head……….

And while a guy, and there are double standards, or more accurately things that “unfair” for us. Lmao, while things are certainly way better today. Historically and presently women get the short end, and that’s saying it politely. And it is actually kind of sad, a number of guys obviously, still, just don’t get it.

/edit add.
About the “only” real thing I can think of for guys. Is how big our dicks are, and performance anxiety. Inso much as, women talk about or are fast to talk the pressure society puts on them. Many “say “size” doesn’t matter but……... So this is a double standard.

But if worried about that, that’s more about insecurity. Kinda like cosmetic surgery for women.

 

[Jenesis]

Women control sex. It goes as far as they allow it.

So the acts may look similar but they are not. Women chose to have sex, Men are only allowed the opportunity.

Judge not the men, but the women. For they are the ones that have truly forsaken the boundaries of trust.

Men don’t choose to have sex. You are all raped. Really???

Please don’t tell me you are quoting the bible.

 

[Jenesis]

Are you drunk?

I think he is. That is some fucked up thinking if he is not.

 

[Greytop19]

I think he is. That is some fucked yo thinking if he is not.

Can you write a sentence without expletive words ?
Even the men do not use four letter words as much as you do.

 

[Not getting younger]

Can you write a sentence without expletive words ?

Rhetorical question.
Would the same question be posed to a male?

Some people would, most wouldn’t. See “women that speak their minds outside the bedroom.”

 

[Greytop19]

Rhetorical question.
Would the same question be posed to a male?

Some people would, most wouldn’t. See “women that speak their minds outside the bedroom.”

Women can speak their mind like a lady and not cuss frequently

 

[Not getting younger]

“like a lady”….
Wouldn’t this/that be one of those double standards? One standard for females and one for males?

I like all your post, viewpoints. But have to wonder. Are you ok then with dirty talk in the bedroom. Just not in public?

Everyone likely has different “standards” in terms of what is/isn’t acceptable . I don’t swear a lot, except when at work. But what I find acceptable, or worded differently doesn’t phase me. Applies to both.

 

[IM469]

Men don’t choose to have sex. You are all raped. Really???

Please don’t tell me you are quoting the bible.

Women chose to have sex, Men are only allowed the opportunity

If there is any lesson guys learned in high school without being taught - that would be it.

 

[Jenesis]

Women chose to have sex, Men are only allowed the opportunity

If there is any lesson guys learned in high school without being taught - that would be it.

And what is wrong with that?????? The being able to choose part, what is wrong with that?

This jealously that some men seem to have over the notion that women get to choose sex and men don’t is laughable. You sure choose not to have sex with a 600lb bald woman with no tits and no teeth. So don’t tell me you don’t have choice. You just don’t have the chance with the some of the women you would like. Boohoo - cry me a river - men can’t fuck everyone they want when they want.

What about gay men? Who “holds the cards” there? Or lesbians? All sorts of people are having sex and whole bunch aren’t and not all of it is women holding sex over a man.

So Yes - PEOPLE get to choose to have sex. If you want to think that only women choose and men are suckers waiting for the yes - then think that but yeah - having the right to CHOOSE is the way it should be.

 

[Not getting younger]

And what is wrong with that?????? This jealously that men seem to have over the notion that women get to choose sex and men don’t is laughable. You sure choose not to have sex with a 600lb bald woman with no tits and no teeth. So don’t tell me you don’t have choice. You just don’t have the chance with the some of the women you would like. Boohoo - cry me a river - men can’t fuck everyone they want when they want.

What about gay men? Who “holds the cards” there? Or lesbians? All sorts of people are having sex and whole bunch aren’t and not all of it is women holding sex over a man.

So Yes - PEOPLE get to choose to have sex. If you want to think that only women choose and men are suckers waiting for the yes - then think that but yeah - having the right to CHOOSE is the way it should be.

I sometimes think, a lot men want to go back to the Stone Age, arranged marriages, barefoot and pregnant days……

“The right to choose”
Again, so reminded of my online dating days (about 7 years post divorce)….So many men and women all chasing peaches and cream. Acting like teenagers again. And also whining about their kids, TV shows, music, gratuitous sex/promiscuity. And not understanding apples don’t fall far…

All hating on each other. Women hating men for leaving, being unfaithful. Men hating women for being gold diggers, leaving them, .

All forgetting we are all allowed to be happy. To CHOOSE what is right for us.

I came home one day to the proverbial “dear John empty home”. She’s still with her former boss and happy…no problems, she’s allowed to be happy. Free.

what I didn’t care for was it came 5 weeks after being diagnosed with a cancerous tumor in my head…..and not knowing if I’d see my girls the next Christmas…

“Girls get to choose, we just have the opportunity.

what a crock.
A) There is all kinds of opportunity out there. Maybe your standards are too high, or just looking in the wrong places.

B) was a time not many years ago, women weren’t free to choose who they had sex with. Or any sex outside of procreation was a sin…..FFS teenage girls that get pregnant today, still go into hiding……………

give me a free woman. One who is outspoken, has a mind and a will of her own. Who knows what she wants in life. And I will die a happy man.

And with respect to the double standards. “Get with the times. This isn’t the 1950s”….
Imo

 

[IM469]

Women chose to have sex, Men are only allowed the opportunity

If there is any lesson guys learned in high school without being taught - that would be it.

And what is wrong with that?????? The being able to choose part, what is wrong with that?

I am glad you agree with it but there is no reason to be defensive. I was not trying to either analyze or judge female behavior. You took issue to a post by curr3n_c1000 that contained the same quote and I was filling in some background.

 

[Valcazar]

Women chose to have sex, Men are only allowed the opportunity

If there is any lesson guys learned in high school without being taught - that would be it.

That's a tragically mistaken "lesson" to have learned, but then lots of people learn stupid, wrong things in high school.