Absolutely. A number of years ago I met with an SP and we really clicked. She gave me her number and real name and we saw each other for more than a year. Yes, still helped her out financially but I would pay for an hour or so and we would spend several hours going for dinner, seeing a show or having drinks. It was very much like an SB experience.
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- Thread starter FunInToronto2023
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Just wondering - do you hide your real identity (name, occupation, address...) from the SB? Even if you are single and have no concern about someone finding out?
How do you give payment or "allowance"? Cash only? If you e-transfer, you would disclose you real name.
Would you ever bring SB to your own home (assuming you are single)?
How do you give payment or "allowance"? Cash only? If you e-transfer, you would disclose you real name.
Would you ever bring SB to your own home (assuming you are single)?
Your safety is always important. Initial SB meetings no different than meeting an SP so use the same safety protocols. Meet at a hotel or someplace public for initial meetings. In time, once you get comfortable with each other, then taking her to your home is up to you. Just use common sense. Think with the big head not the small one no matter how hot she looks.
As for the money situation that's something you work out with your SB. IMO cash is king and no paper trail compared to e-transfer.
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Absolutely. Cash is best and don't bring them to your home, at least at first.
The vast majority of SBs are fine but I have met a few crazies on the site.
Same here, safety first even if she looks like an innocent angel. Scams exist in the SB world and can turn out badly, so wait until you’ve see the girl a few times before you get too open.
I always go by my online alias name and I would assume she is as well, although some girls are surprisingly open in sharing their names and social media etc… even early in an arrangement.
I have never had an SB ask if it’s my real name, no matter how long we’ve been seeing each other. I’ve always expected it to happen, but it never has. It’s a fantasy world for the most part so I like to keep it that way.
I've been completely reckless when it comes to all of this so don't follow my lead. On my profile I never use my real name but when we exchange numbers I tell them my real name if they seem legit and they've almost always told me theirs. I'm very easy to find online and in the business world and I guess it's never bothered me. I've done e-transfer and they see my name there too. I bring them cash if that's what they prefer. I've brought SB's to my home when my family isn't there but would never do it again, it's really the scummiest thing you can do. Also interesting... out of 250+ number exchanges I've only ever had about 10 of them using a texting app, they also tend to give their real number. For those doing the texting app (I don't mean WhatsApp where you use your real number for it), I didn't end up meeting with any of them. Actually one I went back and forth with nicely for a good week, she asked to meet for coffee and when I showed up I'd been ghosted. None of the girls using texting apps ended up in meets so there's that to consider as well.
But definitely start with an alias name (at least to start)
Always do cash
Meet somewhere other than your house
If your mobile is easy to find then use a texting app
Re texting, I’ve found that most young women use SnapChat and are happy to communicate using it when taking a conversation off the Sugar dating site. It’s easy and discreet from my perspective.
I'm back on seeking after a year and ppm requests have definitely gone up (standard used to be 500, now am consistently seeing 800-1000, although my standards have gone up as well perhaps.)
Also, hotels are fucking expensive in Toronto right now
Also, hotels are fucking expensive in Toronto right now
It's definitely high season for hotels right now!! Like crazy expensive in GTA (especially for what I'm used to booking the rates are really high). If you want to half it you need to book Mississauga or somewhere like that. 800-1000 ppm is way too high. I've only done the odd overnight with a girl from seeking (usually meet for a couple of hours) and never had to give more than 300.
Professional or semi-pro SBs would often ask for more than 500. These fake asses and boobs are not free, you know.
Same. About a year ago I had a thing with an SP that went on for a few months. Like others have described, paid for an hour but hung out 1-2 hrs. Wasn't really amazing, but a good start. Eventually I got paranoid with my identity and ended it. But then I started to use SA where for the past few months I've been, reckless, in what information about myself I end up revealing. One thing I did do was delete all social media including Linkedin. At this point I'm un-google-able. I have gotten a few extortion threats, but with Linkedin gone, they all vanished. And yeah same for me everyone gets my real number. The block feature on the phone is really handy.
A lot of girls see it as their mission to outdo my sexless "home situation". One girl even told me she wanted to blow me all night and went on about how much she loved me... the passion was ridiculous. Unfortunately along with the passion came beyond normal carelessness and I had to end it after a few weeks.
The thing about SA and similar sites is you can spend some money to be with a 9 or 10. You'd never get this on Bumble or Hinge. And the path from chat --> coffee --> bedroom is actually pretty quick, compared to the silly drama that takes place with traditional dating, not to mention the public exposure. Most girls on seeking are used to talking to married men and don't really judge you for it. But some do, and for those, they get blocked and I move on.
What I've been doing lately is different from what I had read on this thread and experimented with. I found someone and pay her an allowance that I felt was high, at least at first. I'm not going to reveal it. We spend long days together. Average $/hr works out to be less than any other SB/SP setup I've ever had. But here we have a good connection and I like her. No red flags, no baggage. There's a lot of good quality girls on SA, but they tend to be experienced SBs that were well "compensated" in the past. The one I'm seeing now is using up my entire hobby monthly budget, but honestly I don't care. I've gotten more work done (outside of this world) in the past month than most of the year and things are all falling into place now.
If you're on this forum then you probably make a decent income. Time is money. Sometimes giving a girl whatever she is asking for is just a drop in the bucket in exchange for the value you get. But as a number of people here have mentioned, really no need to compensate a girl for the first coffee date. That's just silly.
Regarding the expensive hotels, those day-time hotels have been great. Ends up costing $150 max, all in. We never end up spending more than 3-4hrs there though. I usually make the booking on the way there, and select the "pay now to save 25%" option. Then it's closer to $100. When you book these, try to get a room with a walk-in shower. Nothing kills the mood like a bathtub shower.
Yes coffee or tea is the interview and that is it unless it is the bed.
Now which app / website do you use to book your hotel. I been told by one guy when he used hotwire-com and hotels-com cost can be different. For quick booking -same day - he would use Hotels for booking in the long run like a 1 -2 weeks in advanced he use hotwire.
What is your experience or anyone else who wants to add something.?
If you just search on this site you'll find that thread where people talk about the hotels they use. I think one of the sites is called DayUse or something like that.
I just signed up to SA as I am seeing a huge difference in terms of looks vs. current pool of SPs.
I've messaged around 40 profiles in the past 24 hrs. Only 1 response from what looks like a legit SB, the other from a clear SP (has lip fillers, implants, BBL & went right to text with hourly prices etc). Interested in seeing where this all goes.
I've messaged around 40 profiles in the past 24 hrs. Only 1 response from what looks like a legit SB, the other from a clear SP (has lip fillers, implants, BBL & went right to text with hourly prices etc). Interested in seeing where this all goes.
I think we all, have our preferences, our motivations for this or that. Personally if I think about myself, If I were inclined to try/go the SB route. The main draw would be the thrill of the chase. I’d accept some won’t end up how I want. But when they do..
The question ( not really challenge) sort of remains the same. I have now some SPs I’ve decided are regular material. To a small degree are still in the vet/test stage. I’ve had SPs talk about ways to spend time off the clock. Some not really “regular material” so don’t even entertain the idea of a repeat. One has suggested I book last appointments so we can order food and just chill. Without getting long and boring one SP trusted me with her burner number. Still not sure if she’s completely regular material but probably is due to periodically the odd text or three. Or 2 hour chat just about life..while I would never pay for it, “ I could book an appt just to chill”
is that not the same/similar?
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Pretty much. I think these types of experiences are really what make this the SP community in Toronto great. Being an SP is not particularly easy. Especially someone who's studying, has goals, saves, etc. Some of the girls at HPL or TDL are just paying their bills so they can get on with life. I talked to one last year who put her mother through chemotherapy from her earnings as an indy.
Not just SPs... MPAs... SBs.... Dom girls. Fascinating industry and fun to chat with girls into it, who are attractive and often smart too.
