Sugar Dating Experience

[Soccersweeper]

Sure. But you’re fooling yourself if you think it’s any kind of authentic connection. They are with you for the $.

There can be an authentic connection even with money involved. It's female genetics to equate resources with love. Ineed, the most common question a cheated on wife or girlfriend will ask isn't "Do you love her" but "Did you spend money on her" which is their way of asking the first question. If you can feel something while paying for her date, she can feel something while receiving. She may even feel more because you do.

 

[Tony2000]

There can be an authentic connection even with money involved. It's female genetics to equate resources with love. Ineed, the most common question a cheated on wife or girlfriend will ask isn't "Do you love her" but "Did you spend money on her" which is their way of asking the first question. If you can feel something while paying for her date, she can feel something while receiving. She may even feel more because you do.

Yup. Yes, I believe I have an authentic connection with my SB. Many of you will claim that I am naive but it's there.
Sure, the money is important to her but it's not the only thing.

 

[brian4hartley]

I was chatting with a friend who doesn't know about SA, but knows about Bumble. And he gets 2-3 girls at a time. Is completely open with them, and it's all FWB type of arrangements. Only difference is he's not paying them anything, except for the odd brunch out or something.

So the concept works regardless of the platform.

 

[CurlyGentleman]

I was chatting with a friend who doesn't know about SA, but knows about Bumble. And he gets 2-3 girls at a time. Is completely open with them, and it's all FWB type of arrangements. Only difference is he's not paying them anything, except for the odd brunch out or something.

So the concept works regardless of the platform.

The usual rule of being attractive helps

 

[Tony2000]

The usual rule of being attractive helps

Just curious .... how old is this friend and how old are the women that he meets.
I am late 50s and don't think I could interest 22-year-olds without the financial aspect .... haha

 

[RobI]

I was chatting with a friend who doesn't know about SA, but knows about Bumble. And he gets 2-3 girls at a time. Is completely open with them, and it's all FWB type of arrangements. Only difference is he's not paying them anything, except for the odd brunch out or something.

So the concept works regardless of the platform.

Yeah, Seek is just the name brand, but if you're on that US guideboard (forget if we can mention other websites or not) there are guys using Instagram for meeting ladies.

Not saying everybody can do this (definitely easier if you're in 30/40s) but yes I've heard similar stories too.

 

[RobI]

The usual rule of being attractive helps

Attractive and having some game too.

 

[rocco_s]

I have found my beat slaves on sa. One recently is a pain princess. She did it all. Lol. $500 for a few hrs of torture.

 

[oral.com]

I decided to conduct an experiment by setting up a fake profile on Seeking as a hot 22-year-old woman. I grabbed a photo off the internet and got started.
What I discovered was shocking.
I never sent any initial emails - I just waited to see who messaged me. I received about 20 messages every day.
Here's the shocking part. Almost all of the messages were lame; only one out of those 20 was enticing. This is what I received:
- About 50 percent said just one word: "Hey" or "Hello". Delete.
- Another 25 percent went like this: "Hello. You are so beautiful. We should get together. Here's my number. Are you free tonight?" Delete. We haven't had a conversation and you want me to meet you tonight? Do you think I have no life? Delete
- About 20 percent actually started a conversation. However, their photos were awful. If you are ugly and stand in front of a bright red sports car, it does not make you more attractive. If you are wearing a ratty t-shirt, it does not exactly convey that you are a successful man who can afford an SB. Delete.
- OK, so what about the remaining five percent? Yes, one message a day was from someone who could put a sentence together and had some decent photos.

Here's the lesson learned. Yes, there is competition out there. But you can compete if you put together a well-written profile with some photos that are not of you with no shirt or in front of your sports car. Send messages that are more than one line and that have some thought in them. Ideally, address something in her profile.

Good luck!

What was your handle (I may have messaged you)
Not the first time I was duped by a guy posing as a hottie.
BTW good research! Always been curious about the competition

 

[Tony2000]

What was your handle (I may have messaged you)
Not the first time I was duped by a guy posing as a hottie.
BTW good research! Always been curious about the competition

The handle I used was Hotgirl8000.
My apologies if you messaged me! I tried not to waste people's time. With most messages that I received, I just read and deleted them. So there was not a lot of back and forth to waste the time of SA members.
I just wanted to see what the initial messages were like.

 

[FunInToronto2023]

The usual rule of being attractive helps

I was chatting with a friend who doesn't know about SA, but knows about Bumble. And he gets 2-3 girls at a time. Is completely open with them, and it's all FWB type of arrangements. Only difference is he's not paying them anything, except for the odd brunch out or something.

So the concept works regardless of the platform.

100% that's been my experience. I can't go on something like Bumble because I'm married but even on SA I've met several girls who just want to hook up. Maybe go for a bite to eat but not usually because I don't want to be seen out in public in case I run into people I know. If you're good looking and have solid things to talk about - while also listening to their goals instead of just talking like you're a big shot - then it can be done. But if you're married be forewarned it's a really slippery slope.

 

[superman12]

100% that's been my experience. I can't go on something like Bumble because I'm married but even on SA I've met several girls who just want to hook up. Maybe go for a bite to eat but not usually because I don't want to be seen out in public in case I run into people I know. If you're good looking and have solid things to talk about - while also listening to their goals instead of just talking like you're a big shot - then it can be done. But if you're married be forewarned it's a really slippery slope.

Agree. If your married you do have to be a bit more careful on sites like SA and cover your tracks as best you can. But there is no reason why you wouldn't be able to find a girl to hook up with on sites like SA or bumble or whatever people use these days if your a guy that's generous with your time and money and have somewhat of a personality and can keep a conversation going. From my experience i know that there are a lot of girls out there looking for a guy to be there sugardaddy but unfortunately a lot of guys just act very douchy and why they don't get what there looking for.

 

[GeeBee]

100% that's been my experience. I can't go on something like Bumble because I'm married but even on SA I've met several girls who just want to hook up. Maybe go for a bite to eat but not usually because I don't want to be seen out in public in case I run into people I know. If you're good looking and have solid things to talk about - while also listening to their goals instead of just talking like you're a big shot - then it can be done. But if you're married be forewarned it's a really slippery slope.

I’m curious about Bumble. Very female focused I’ve read, and I’m fine with that. I’m a married guy too and really not comfortable putting my face on a dating APP. How has it worked for anyone who’s tried it?

 

[FunInToronto2023]

I’m curious about Bumble. Very female focused I’ve read, and I’m fine with that. I’m a married guy too and really not comfortable putting my face on a dating APP. How has it worked for anyone who’s tried it?

I was married and on Tinder years ago and very very lucky I wasn’t called out. I wouldn’t go on an app like that again. I probably went on about 30 dates and I’m embarrassed typing this. At the same time I think I wanted to get caught because my wife never initiated anything and I felt totally alone. And eventually things took a worse turn with my behaviour but anyways…. Don’t do regular apps for sure

 

[IMBob]

I just got another month membership on Seeking . How do I cancel auto renew ? It was always hidden away . Now it's buried on the website. Can it be done on an Android App ? TIA

 

[Not getting younger]

Yup. Yes, I believe I have an authentic connection with my SB. Many of you will claim that I am naive but it's there.
Sure, the money is important to her but it's not the only thing.

Can you not get the same with an SP?????
I mean let’s not fool ourselves, and think it’s ever going to lead to some kind of relationship ( I suppose that does once in blue moon occur with both SB/SP)

I’ve spent the past 18 months trying to find a few I “click” with. Just now transitioning from trying many out, to ok, time for repeats. While the arrangement is transactional with the right “SPs” , there is zero reason things can’t move from purely transactional to friendly familiarity.

obviously I’m not going to name names. But more than one have suggested ways we can spend time “off the clock”………good luck with that with SBs…with some I know their real names, have been shown pics of their children, etc, etc. point here, is that you can get “the same” with SPs.

SBs
Too much work imo when you can get the same with the right SPs. And as much as we or some gripe about poor service/attitude. What we think there aren’t SBs out there with zero intentions of EVER going the distance. Just taking guys for their $$$ and time?

man, if I was a hot 19-30 year old girl and had no qualms playing guys like a fiddle……I’d be fleecing them left, right, center and 9 ways to Sunday on SB.

 

[Tony2000]

Can you not get the same with an SP?????
I mean let’s not fool ourselves, and think it’s ever going to lead to some kind of relationship ( I suppose that does once in blue moon occur with both SB/SP)

I’ve spent the past 18 months trying to find a few I “click” with. Just now transitioning from trying many out, to ok, time for repeats. While the arrangement is transactional with the right “SPs” , there is zero reason things can’t move from purely transactional to friendly familiarity.

obviously I’m not going to name names. But more than one have suggested ways we can spend time “off the clock”………good luck with that with SBs…with some I know their real names, have been shown pics of their children, etc, etc. point here, is that you can get “the same” with SPs.

SBs
Too much work imo when you can get the same with the right SPs. And as much as we or some gripe about poor service/attitude. What we think there aren’t SBs out there with zero intentions of EVER going the distance. Just taking guys for their $$$ and time?

man, if I was a hot 19-30 year old girl and had no qualms playing guys like a fiddle……I’d be fleecing them left, right, center and 9 ways to Sunday on SB.

To each their own of course. I used to see SPs but didn't find there was a great connection.
I now prefer the SB route because I feel there is a better connection. Yes, I am aware that the money is important to them .... LOL

 

[Not getting younger]

To each their own of course. I used to see SPs but didn't find there was a great connection.
I now prefer the SB route because I feel there is a better connection. Yes, I am aware that the money is important to them .... LOL

Of coarse to each their own.
Just pointing out that with respect to some form of “connection” that can found with both.

But with SBs, you can put a lot of work in, and……

 

[FunInToronto2023]

I just got another month membership on Seeking . How do I cancel auto renew ? It was always hidden away . Now it's buried on the website. Can it be done on an Android App ? TIA

I wasn't sure when I was on there either so I just made a calendar reminder to kill my subscription before the month was up.

 

[FunInToronto2023]

Can you not get the same with an SP?????
I mean let’s not fool ourselves, and think it’s ever going to lead to some kind of relationship ( I suppose that does once in blue moon occur with both SB/SP)

I’ve spent the past 18 months trying to find a few I “click” with. Just now transitioning from trying many out, to ok, time for repeats. While the arrangement is transactional with the right “SPs” , there is zero reason things can’t move from purely transactional to friendly familiarity.

obviously I’m not going to name names. But more than one have suggested ways we can spend time “off the clock”………good luck with that with SBs…with some I know their real names, have been shown pics of their children, etc, etc. point here, is that you can get “the same” with SPs.

SBs
Too much work imo when you can get the same with the right SPs. And as much as we or some gripe about poor service/attitude. What we think there aren’t SBs out there with zero intentions of EVER going the distance. Just taking guys for their $$$ and time?

man, if I was a hot 19-30 year old girl and had no qualms playing guys like a fiddle……I’d be fleecing them left, right, center and 9 ways to Sunday on SB.

OK but the thing with SB's is you can find girls that aren't pros that actually don't want very much $$$ because they're genuinely attracted to you and want to hook up. At least that's what I've found. I went to a MP in April and totally clicked with a really amazing girl. She told me her real name and we exchanged numbers, both super busy but chat quite frequently. TBH I'm trying to stop my horrible behaviour and have been cheating-free for about 6 weeks now - yes it's an addiction). IF I were to fall off the wagon it will likely be to meet up with her. Actually I got a text from a girl I saw for quite awhile the other day just chatting and catching up on life and she's super down to meet anytime. So whether it's an SB or a SP, I do believe you can at least have a connection where you genuinely are both caring people who meet for fun that's real for both people every now and then.