When I was younger I would want nice cars and lots of friends. I would care what people thought of me. Not trying to impress anyone or needing there approval. I felt insecure if I drove or wore cheap or old car/clothes. Then over time I stopped feeling this way. I began to enjoy the quiet life without many friends or possessions. Riding the bike or taking the bus versus driving a car. Wearing clothes I like not to follow the trends. Just keeping to myself and not getting involved in other people's affairs or business. A simple almost hermit like life I found brought me the most joy.
The older I get the more I have simplified my life. Simple but good quality clothes, car, audio & video equipment, etc.
My possessions used to own me lol. A huge vinyl and cd collection plus guitars and amps, etc., etc., that I would have to lug with me every time I moved. Ripped the music to my computer and iPod, then sold the vinyl and cd's, and most of the guitars and amps.
As far as friends I have my grown-up kids who I see for dinner once or twice a week. Otherwise the only companionship I need is satisfied by the ladies I see as escorts and mpa's, though I have no illusions about the true depth of those relationships.
At this point in my life I have absolutely no desire to date, and to paraphrase the old Groucho Marx "joining a club" joke, I would never want to date a woman who would want to date me!
OldStud you mentioned "cons" in the thread title, but not in the body of your post. What are the current "cons" to you?