It seems that the majority of single (nonSP) women out there over the age of 35 or 40 are single moms. Do you guys think they are worth your time? I heard they are hungry for sex but then again over time they want you to get involved with their kids so I don't know if they are worth the trouble. But it would be great to get feedback from those who have extensive experience dating single moms for their input.
Are Single Moms Worth Your Time?
- Thread starter ExoticSpirit
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Date casually yes. But always remember you come second. Forever. Be the fun one but if the talk turns to relationship, unless you want a kid, and to play second banana, as well as deal with the Ex drama, walk away.
Also there can be legal issues and financial obligations imposed on you if you move in or start paying for shit.
Also there can be legal issues and financial obligations imposed on you if you move in or start paying for shit.
Pretty sure you can be on the hook for support after a length of time.
Run do not stop - been there got the T-shirt - yes they will offer it up easily but you are better off with a single woman without a large Samsonite of baggage...
As noted you could be responsible for her kids if you move in and later move out. Sign a co-hab or maintain a separate residence - see a lawyer if you must.
As noted you could be responsible for her kids if you move in and later move out. Sign a co-hab or maintain a separate residence - see a lawyer if you must.
Are you such a fine catch that is worth their time?
Nope, we are not worth your time, at all, just steer completely clear of us....
Please.
Please.
Well that's it - from the time you meet a single mom, have some fun then she wants you to get more serious with her kids, etc., is it a complete waste of time since you'll have to bail out anyway? I'm just asking ,,,, hopefully some guys have already been through this cycle and advise the rest of us who haven't.
Nope. Just asking because of the observation of the huge numbers of single moms out there, many who are quite attractive but I'm sure things would not be the same as dating women without kids. Just hoping that some guys here who have done it can offer their wisdom, that's all.
I've dated single moms when I was younger and carefree. Wasn't looking for chicks with kids but when it happened - I wasn't opposed to it.
I was young and wasn't really thinking about future or consequences. As I found out, kids will look up to you, will want you to be a part of their lives and not necessarily because mommy says so... because they are alive and have feelings as well. With single moms you're not affecting just one person, but her kid(s) too.
Most women don't become single moms by choice. Something in their lives didn't work out as planned. Sure, you can be another asshole who makes her life more miserable by using her and leaving or you can finally be that missing peace.
If you're looking for just intimacy then please look for other options.
I was young and wasn't really thinking about future or consequences. As I found out, kids will look up to you, will want you to be a part of their lives and not necessarily because mommy says so... because they are alive and have feelings as well. With single moms you're not affecting just one person, but her kid(s) too.
Most women don't become single moms by choice. Something in their lives didn't work out as planned. Sure, you can be another asshole who makes her life more miserable by using her and leaving or you can finally be that missing peace.
If you're looking for just intimacy then please look for other options.
As mentioned before on other threads. Very tough if you bond with the kids.
And if the relationship doesn't work out the kid will be damaged by it. And no normal man wants that on his conscious.
No shortage of single women out there. They wears signs.
Sign 1: if you see a thirty-something woman walking her piece of shit mini dog (well groomed) on a Saturday or Sunday morning near condos, odds are she is single. If she was in a relationship, either the guy would be walking the shitter or she wouldn't need this lame excuse for a "surrogate child". If she is walking a big dog, she likely has someone helping her and is not single.
Sign 2: if you see a woman buying a cup of coffee by herself on a Saturday or Sunday morning, odds are she is single or about to become single. If she was in a stable relationship she would be having coffee with her man.
I’m in favour. I went from dating, to marrying a single mom and life is good. I gave up on hobbying, and now all the fantasy fun includes my wife. She’s a great sport about making out with other women in front of me!
We both had baggage to work through, but overall, we are a pretty good team and we both look out for each other’s kids.
We both had baggage to work through, but overall, we are a pretty good team and we both look out for each other’s kids.
Congrats brother! You're one of the lucky ones. But I think your success is based more on skill than blind luck.
Now to add a spin to this discussion since I am coming across quite a few attractive single moms in their 40s and even 50s, is how would all this differ if their kids are college age and up? Wouldn't they still want you to somehow be involved with their adult kids in some way, ie., for those dreaded family gatherings?
I break single mothers down into 3 categories:
1. Cougar types - Single mothers that date younger guys. Living her second childhood. Typically short and fast relationships
2. New Life types - Had a child or two with her "soulmate". No longer loves him and now looking for soulmate #2. Typically looking for serious relationships. *Caution-her ex is a reflection of her. History is the best teacher*
3. Gold Digger types - They don't date, they go on interviews. Don't need to be rich but must have shit in order. You can be butt ugly, 100 years old, missing a leg, whatever. As long as you take care of business, you got her.
1. Cougar types - Single mothers that date younger guys. Living her second childhood. Typically short and fast relationships
2. New Life types - Had a child or two with her "soulmate". No longer loves him and now looking for soulmate #2. Typically looking for serious relationships. *Caution-her ex is a reflection of her. History is the best teacher*
3. Gold Digger types - They don't date, they go on interviews. Don't need to be rich but must have shit in order. You can be butt ugly, 100 years old, missing a leg, whatever. As long as you take care of business, you got her.
Regarding number 2 (an apt name, lol), she would retreadable (like a tire) if she had only one kid with the guy then divorced him. You could think she just made a mistake by getting pregnant. But if she got pregnant a second time with this guy then decided she doesn't love him anymore, she is a stone cold soul. She only cares about her happiness and not the two kids (that didn't ask to be born). Definitely run for the hills if encountering category number 2 if she has two or more. Even if you have one child yourself, this type of mother is going to be a problem.
If you in your late 50's and she's in her early 40's and her kids are at least age of majority, that sounds like a very good deal. It is when these twenty-something or thirty-something women have kids under 18. You're definitely wading into legally enforced parental responsibility territory. And you might be on the hook for paying for some other guy's seed to go to University. Yah, that is messed up. But it is the law. And if you were in the relationship long enough, you will still be on the hook even after you have ended the relationship (common-law marriage or official marriage).
Still better to hunt at Starbucks for those lonely coffee drinkers on a Saturday morning. It is like shooting fish in a barrel. (Just don't be too picky. Remember, she won't look her best because she's depressed she is drinking coffee alone again. Remember, if she looks healthy, she will taste good.
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