Gentlemen, would you give me 5 minutes please
- Thread starter Josephine Grey
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There is no discretion in regards to budget. Whatever comes to my mind or heart so long as it's high quality.
Truth be told, when it comes to things like lingerie, perfume and clothing, it's as much for me as her.
Neither has any particular preference as to what I gift, they both know gifts will be tasteful and the high end sort.
So long as I choose to keep my relationship with either, I will continue gifting.
I can't speak for other men but most of my friends and colleagues, come to me for advice.
Red pandas are always overwhelming me with joy lol so no, adorable!What about a CHEAP stuffed toy ... like this:
Too childish ???
As long as focus groups turn into focme or focyoo - I'm in.
When will a winner be announced?
I could use some foc-ing
I will give it one week and I will draw after. Anyone else?As long as focus groups turn into focme or focyoo - I'm in.
When will a winner be announced?
I could use some foc-ing
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No schedule on buying gifts... I’ll be honest, I’m not rich but we both live within our means... anytime she mentions something, or I glance and what she is scrolling through, or hear her in other conversations... and it’s something she likes and wants then it’s hers! Could be anything from a cheap item from Amazon to jacket, shoes, clothes, dinners, outings etc... I think it’s not necessarily that you buy gifts or spend a high dollar value, but living life without stress (financial being a big one) is paramount... 
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Thank you! Happy Ny by the way. All my best wishes.No schedule on buying gifts... I’ll be honest, I’m not rich but we both live within our means... anytime she mentions something, or I glance and what she is scrolling through, or hear her in other conversations... and it’s something she likes and wants then it’s hers! Could be anything from a cheap item from Amazon to jacket, shoes, clothes, dinners, outings etc... I think it’s not necessarily that you buy gifts or spend a high dollar value, but living life without stress (financial being a big one) is paramount...
So you don't dedicate a particular amount to your so's gift. This its more impulsive. Am I right?
i probably spend more in terms of gifts for my SW that i see on a regular basis ie repeat basis. It vasries - as little as $100 each time i see her to between $500-600 so maybe in total an extra $2500
Happy New Year to you as well!!
Correct... it could be $10 or it could be $1000... it’s whatever is needed...
I would give my favourite SP a gift on her birthday and Christmas, up to $500.
Hi Isabelle, this is an interesting survey and has got me thinking...............
I don't see SP's that often (but I did last night
) but I do like to bring something along as a token of appreciation, and always have.
I try to do my research and find out what interests my date has. For a first meeting where I can't figure it out, my go to is dark chocolate.
If I can figure it out I'll find something that she's indicated she likes, and it's always well received.
It's become way more fun for me since I've found 3 SP's that I connect with. I'm really liking being a regular and seeing the same girl repeatedly and getting to know them a bit.
I try to find gifts that show I've been listening to what they say and thinking about them.
Last night's date likes craft beer and wine, and the last time we shared a beer she didn't have proper beer glasses at her incall. Her gift was a nice bottle of Cab/Sav, a special beer to share and a pair of nice beer glasses.
A touring friend is a wonderful young woman who will visit my city for a week or two at a time. When we first met she basically didn't leave her hotel room at all. We talked about it and she missed going out, but in her words "I'm here to work". Now every time we meet it's an extended visit, out for a drive or a meal just to get her out of the hotel. She loves it!
My most special relationship is with an amazing SP a province away. Anyone who meets her or sees her online presence is always smitten, as am I. My gifts are for her and for who she is- a kind, caring person who is loving and spiritual. Our dinner date could have been going out, but she appreciated the special 4 course Italian vegetarian dinner I made for her more. Later, she gave me the best compliment possible- "That was a better date than my regular dates!". In one of our previous conversations she talked about how she would like to open a shelter for abused farm animals. I made a donation to her local humane society in her name, it made her cry.
I'm not a simp, just a guy who has found that I much prefer seeing SP's who I connect with. I could tip (which I have) but being a regular with these 3 special ladies allows me to show my appreciation in a personal way. They seem to like it!
I don't see SP's that often (but I did last night
) but I do like to bring something along as a token of appreciation, and always have.I try to do my research and find out what interests my date has. For a first meeting where I can't figure it out, my go to is dark chocolate.
If I can figure it out I'll find something that she's indicated she likes, and it's always well received.
It's become way more fun for me since I've found 3 SP's that I connect with. I'm really liking being a regular and seeing the same girl repeatedly and getting to know them a bit.
I try to find gifts that show I've been listening to what they say and thinking about them.
Last night's date likes craft beer and wine, and the last time we shared a beer she didn't have proper beer glasses at her incall. Her gift was a nice bottle of Cab/Sav, a special beer to share and a pair of nice beer glasses.
A touring friend is a wonderful young woman who will visit my city for a week or two at a time. When we first met she basically didn't leave her hotel room at all. We talked about it and she missed going out, but in her words "I'm here to work". Now every time we meet it's an extended visit, out for a drive or a meal just to get her out of the hotel. She loves it!
My most special relationship is with an amazing SP a province away. Anyone who meets her or sees her online presence is always smitten, as am I. My gifts are for her and for who she is- a kind, caring person who is loving and spiritual. Our dinner date could have been going out, but she appreciated the special 4 course Italian vegetarian dinner I made for her more. Later, she gave me the best compliment possible- "That was a better date than my regular dates!". In one of our previous conversations she talked about how she would like to open a shelter for abused farm animals. I made a donation to her local humane society in her name, it made her cry.
I'm not a simp, just a guy who has found that I much prefer seeing SP's who I connect with. I could tip (which I have) but being a regular with these 3 special ladies allows me to show my appreciation in a personal way. They seem to like it!
I have never purchased gifts for service providers, but would not have an issue tipping if I felt it was deserved-or maybe even just needed at the time.
as far as gifts for my wife, it would be birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries, valentines, or just sometimes small tokens out of the blue. Gifts can be small, like maybe just flowers, but they can also be jewellery (3 to5k pieces), travel, or cars. Elaborate gifts are just something that I’d likely be buying anyways (especially travel) so they are really just purchases, disguised as gifts- but somehow it seems to work.
I think women just like to know that you are thinking of them. Big, expensive gifts don’t really seem to make a lady any happier than small, thoughtful gifts.
as far as gifts for my wife, it would be birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries, valentines, or just sometimes small tokens out of the blue. Gifts can be small, like maybe just flowers, but they can also be jewellery (3 to5k pieces), travel, or cars. Elaborate gifts are just something that I’d likely be buying anyways (especially travel) so they are really just purchases, disguised as gifts- but somehow it seems to work.
I think women just like to know that you are thinking of them. Big, expensive gifts don’t really seem to make a lady any happier than small, thoughtful gifts.
I’m not in a relationship but when I was, the relationship started dying well before the break up. I used to do big gifts - $2000 bottles of Rum one time for example.
By the mid- end it was a card that ended up in a shredder by the end of the day when he was drunk. Then it went to nothing at all for the last years.
For clients, I buy a couple a gifts. Mostly gift cards because they are married.
Last year (2020) however no gifts given. Didn’t see anyone.
By the mid- end it was a card that ended up in a shredder by the end of the day when he was drunk. Then it went to nothing at all for the last years.
For clients, I buy a couple a gifts. Mostly gift cards because they are married.
Last year (2020) however no gifts given. Didn’t see anyone.
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For wife, at birthday and on anniversary. I target between $100-200. Any less and it seems cheap, any more and she complains about wasting money (since we share finances). Anything over $1k we would look at together anyways. She wouldn't trust me to get it right (and in fact forced me to return things a few times earlier in our relationship).
For "companion", at Christmas. Also target between $100-200 but could go less if I find something especially emotionally meaningful. Any more and I feel it creates awkward expectations and obligations.
No real change post-COVID except that shopping is more difficult and it's harder to sneak alone time.
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Thank you all for your answer!! Wow, you make a girl happy here. Anyone else! For those who just join use.
How frequently do you purchase gift in a year for your companions or significant other and how much do you spend in general on these gift?
Also, did your budget changed since covid (negative or positive changes)?
How frequently do you purchase gift in a year for your companions or significant other and how much do you spend in general on these gift?
Also, did your budget changed since covid (negative or positive changes)?
I am sorry this happened to you. Nobody deserve this. I hope at least he was spoiling you a bit too!
No. He only bought large priced gifts when it was a couple of years of nothing. And it was more like it was kinda “owed” by the time I got them. As in a proper tit for tat. Not that I feel entitled.
However I did like some of the items. He bought a Keurig which I love. Because I love coffee, not him. Really nice pots and pans. A bracelet that I loved but tossed because of his bullshit. A nice bottle of tequila but he drank it being the alcoholic he is.
The slightly small amount gifts at the time were great and I appreciated the shit out of them but now some are just a bad memory. For reference we had a 12 year relationship.
But I still love the Keurig. I mean who doesn’t love coffee. LOL
