Dating a SW, opinions.

[kherg007]

Does it make it easier to have several regulars rather than one? I get lost and start to believe it is real.

It might be easier having several. My issue is my GTA trips are business or flight layovers (putting the "lay" in layover lol). Thus my location and time are limited. I have a fave whose pretty limited DT. Sometimes I can't get down there so I look airport. Sometimes the lady is not working on that day, or fully booked. Thus expanded out. But enjoy it whilst its happening but then remember it's a movie and you were Brad Pitt and you just got the girl...But the scene is over youre back to being Joe Bloggs who works in accounting. Enjoy the memory, savour it, but don't mistake it. This biz gets addicting because of that rush of oxytocin and vasopressin swirling about in your brain. Thus proceed with caution.

 

[Just Looking For A Latina]

It might be easier having several. My issue is my GTA trips are business or flight layovers (putting the "lay" in layover lol). Thus my location and time are limited. I have a fave whose pretty limited DT. Sometimes I can't get down there so I look airport. Sometimes the lady is not working on that day, or fully booked. Thus expanded out. But enjoy it whilst its happening but then remember it's a movie and you were Brad Pitt and you just got the girl...But the scene is over youre back to being Joe Bloggs who works in accounting. Enjoy the memory, savour it, but don't mistake it. This biz gets addicting because of that rush of oxytocin and vasopressin swirling about in your brain. Thus proceed with caution.

I think good advice ... "but don't mistake it" ... "rush of oxytocin". Thanks!

 

[Just Looking For A Latina]

Some hints are obvious, as in my case, others seem more subtle as the other blokes have mentioned. I would err on the side of them just being nice and having some trust in you, and enjoying your company rather than leaping to the belief that she wants a real date. This can be a tough gig. She might be holed up in her hotel all day, and finds a client who seems nice and fun to talk to -and someone whom she can talk freely about this industry, which she likely can't to others - so maybe she's hungry or needs a coffee so she invites you along. (If you join her of course be a gentleman and pay for you both). I've had that happen half a dozen -10 times or so but i am under no illusion she wants to date for real. Instead i presume that she has confidence that i not only know "the line" but that i also won't cross it (i.e., believe she's somehow falling for me lol or that I really have any chance with her). Thus she can let her guard down a bit knowing her signals won't be misinterpreted.

If she really wants to hang out, then if she says something like that just ask "what do you have in mind?". Then read her signals. Don't be afraid to ask for the details, just let her know you enjoy her company and don't want to misinterpret anything. I can imagine some client once thought the hangout offer was great and then she cited her social rates lol. Don't be that guy. Thus assume professional until she says otherwise. Rather be in the position of "so what's your rate on this proposed dinner date"? Versus "oh, sorry, I thought this was a personal invite, I didn't know this was business and you were charging your time...uh, let me find an ATM...."

I appreciate the "hints". A little nervous about "don't be afraid to ask for details". If she is interested, would she find it an insult.

 

[kherg007]

I appreciate the "hints". A little nervous about "don't be afraid to ask for details". If she is interested, would she find it an insult.

Just reassure her that you honour her professional status. Thus if she says "i'd like to hang out w you" and you say "sounds intriguing what do you have in mind?" And then listen with your brain not your heart. Maybe say "wow...forgive me..I just want to be clear as you're a professional lady and I want to be sure i don't misunderstand or insult accidentally...is this meeting...(pause and let her fill it in...If not...) as friends or professional?

However JLFAL, I'd be careful if I was you. You've taken a big step to recognise that the storm of good feelings (it's like endogenous morphine lol) that overwhelm you is a natural by product and you now know you need to be vigilant about over interpreting that feeling. Thus knowing how you react, be extra careful w the ladies so you don't send the creepy stalker signals. Thus be extra cautious about any interpretations of anything outside of just pure professionalism.

 

[escortsxxx]

To invert the question, would you want your SO to begin sping for whatever the reason?

 

[Goodoer]

To invert the question, would you want your SO to begin sping for whatever the reason?

I would. At least I’d know that she’s at least having sex again. I can go from there...

 

[Just Looking For A Latina]

Just reassure her that you honour her professional status. Thus if she says "i'd like to hang out w you" and you say "sounds intriguing what do you have in mind?" And then listen with your brain not your heart. Maybe say "wow...forgive me..I just want to be clear as you're a professional lady and I want to be sure i don't misunderstand or insult accidentally...is this meeting...(pause and let her fill it in...If not...) as friends or professional?

However JLFAL, I'd be careful if I was you. You've taken a big step to recognise that the storm of good feelings (it's like endogenous morphine lol) that overwhelm you is a natural by product and you now know you need to be vigilant about over interpreting that feeling. Thus knowing how you react, be extra careful w the ladies so you don't send the creepy stalker signals. Thus be extra cautious about any interpretations of anything outside of just pure professionalism.

JLFAL = ?

 

[kherg007]

JLFAL = ?

JustLookingForALatina = JLFAL

 

[escortsxxx]

I would. At least I’d know that she’s at least having sex again. I can go from there...

lol

 

[racemedic]

My question also is how many SW's would date a customer or tinder/bumble

 

[kherg007]

My question also is how many SW's would date a customer or tinder/bumble

I knew one who did...well known well reviewed...did match.com.

 

[Effie_White]

No, never.

Any self-respectful guy will never tolerate his gf/wife sleeping with multiple guys a day for money. Its simply not a relationship when you knowingly allow her to be sw.

This is a really mean thing to say. Maybe this is how you feel, but that doesn’t mean that “any self-respecting guy” is going to feel the same way you do. I think relationships need boundaries and some type of exclusivity, but there are different ways to achieve that. If the OP really cares, it’s going to be difficult but not impossible. This is not the right crowd to survey though.

 

[escortsxxx]

This is a really mean thing to say. Maybe this is how you feel, but that doesn’t mean that “any self-respecting guy” is going to feel the same way you do. I think relationships need boundaries and some type of exclusivity, but there are different ways to achieve that. If the OP really cares, it’s going to be difficult but not impossible. This is not the right crowd to survey though.

And certainly sp for a day fetish exists.

 

[jcpro]

This is a really mean thing to say. Maybe this is how you feel, but that doesn’t mean that “any self-respecting guy” is going to feel the same way you do. I think relationships need boundaries and some type of exclusivity, but there are different ways to achieve that. If the OP really cares, it’s going to be difficult but not impossible. This is not the right crowd to survey though.

Actually, this is the perfect crowd; low inhibitions, high tolerances for functioning outside of the societal norms and tons of practical experience. If you cannot make it here, it is hopeless out there.

 

[coolmanfever]

i would date and marry a hot sex worker given she allow me to bang her friends But too bad it is just a dream that never comes true p

 

[JackBurton]

i would date and marry a hot sex worker given she allow me to bang her friends But too bad it is just a dream that never comes true p

BAHAHAHA

No, no my friend. The SW wants to bang her clients and does it “for work” but you getting the same freedom doesn’t go that way in their world. They want their cake, get paid for it, and eat it too. Then they will insist you don’t get any cake.

YMMV

 

[escortsxxx]

BAHAHAHA

No, no my friend. The SW wants to bang her clients and does it “for work” but you getting the same freedom doesn’t go that way in their world. They want their cake, get paid for it, and eat it too. Then they will insist you don’t get any cake.

YMMV

I have heard sp couples mostly go this way.

 

[Goodoer]

This is a really mean thing to say. Maybe this is how you feel, but that doesn’t mean that “any self-respecting guy” is going to feel the same way you do. I think relationships need boundaries and some type of exclusivity, but there are different ways to achieve that. If the OP really cares, it’s going to be difficult but not impossible. This is not the right crowd to survey though.

+1 for this comment. Trust in each other is required for a successful romantic relationship (as opposed to FWB). A guy is never going to match a civilian women or SP for sex opportunities (at least until later in life). Boundaries are required... If I was married to/dating a SP, I would want "permission" to have sex on the side (just so I could pretend that there could be some sex-opportunity balance)... but I probably wouldn't though if my sex life was fulfilled - I'd be playing hockey or whatever instead.

Perhaps I'm weird, but I'd rather see my wife/SO banging a random dude for fun in front of me as opposed to seeing her intimately flirting/laughing with another guy over drinks, etc. when I'm not around.

 

[escortsxxx]

Actually, this is the perfect crowd; low inhibitions, high tolerances for functioning outside of the societal norms and tons of practical experience. If you cannot make it here, it is hopeless out there.

I am not too sure, among this crowd you also have the concept " you don't pay an escort to say with you, but to go away"
Many have expressed that sps are hired because of the harsh division between fun and nprmie dating.
Your group exists as well but how the two balance out compared to other communities - I am not too sure.
Certainly the subgroup of fans of Pretty Women or Risky Business would be far more likely to date an sp. Both great films of the fantasy genera. Perahps a fan with no experience with sps would most likely date vs other groups.

But to the orinal question I literally know of many of dating couples over the years in the sex industry. So it may be a small number percentage wise but its not insignificant. The greatest barrier is living off the avails legal provision that makes dating an active sp legally dangerous.

edit - not sure the number - more than 10

 

[anon1]

There have been several instances of a hobbyist in a serious relationship with an SW here on terb.
I personally know of three through the years I've been a member.