I really wish I hadn't used BBBJ as an example, it seems the focus on menu/YMMV cannot be shaken. What if I want to know if you're open to dancing with me to set the mood....no dancing, no booking as I would like to dance. Am I still a disgusting menu-seeking women-objectifying misogynist that can't see women as people? You know, despite the fact I was raised solely by women and have a daughter of my own....
Yeah, I agree, some guys do book for non-sexual reasons, but if that were the vast majority of cases then I doubt LE would be a concern, and I highly, highly doubt those who only want companionship are anywhere near the majority of bookings, could be wrong of course but I doubt it. However, even for those guys who don't partake in the sexual services, if they paid the price, they could have, so it was still on offer and technically part of the agreement, so it was paid for, and not just your time....but that doesn't preclude your right to refuse any services that were on offer prior to meeting. YMMV as always.
This is just in general, not directed at your Charlotte, but it seems I've been pegged as someone who only wants a menu.....funny as I've not partaken in anything extra except for SW when seeing girls who have quite extensive menus. I didn't even do greek when it was "on the house"......but yeah, just after a menu. I also care about your intellectual capacity and conversational skills because it's all about the menu. I book 1.5hours and am sexual for maybe 45mins-1hr, but yeah, just about the menu, not the connection. When asked what I want/like, I just shrug and say whatever you'd like to do, but just a menu seeker. I wonder....if it's really just about services or a menu, then shouldn't every girl who performs the service I want be an automatic regular? I've not repeated once, so I guess other things do matter, like the genuine connection we have. I'm about to respond to Amber but I'll still throw this in here, her sexual skills are/were top notch, but age gap made the connection meh, not horrible just not good. Would I have eventually repeated? Yeah, sure (obviously not anymore). But would she have ever been a regular? No. On the contrary, another lady whose sexual skills weren't as good as Amber's (but still great), but the connection was there, I plan to repeat if I'm not ostracized because of this thread lolol. I could continue but at this point it seems quite futile.
Thanks for your response Charlotte, seriously. I wonder if perhaps you will respond with the dancing example in mind, if that changes anything for you. If not, so be it, I'll take your answer as don't ask just wait and see - simply because I don't trust reviews to be gospel and am taking a huge risk by asking anything, about anything, from anyone.
For what it's worth, the questions I want to ask are simply how many shots in the time, and do you like to dance (honestly). I also like to tell the lady to take the lead, I like confident assertive women at first and once we're comfortable with each other I'm willing to become more dominant, but I want her to lead and initiate the activities. If I remember correctly, when booking with Candy Cane and discussing FF DT and Greek, I said, "these are some things I would like to do but when, how, or if they happen is upto you", verbatim......what a monster, I'm such a demon....