Personally of all the providers i seen i had 2 times an issue with BBBJ only. (i have over 75 meeting). The first time it was as sample as the provider trying to make more $. As soon as i mentioned giving extra for it CBJ turned into BBBJ+Cim lol. Since the price was lower than what i usually pay and the girl was model like beauty, i rolled with it. The second time BBBJ was provided but the girl was reluctant, i dunno, felt like she didn't like my dick. She was rather new too... Maybe she was used of 8 inch long perfect porno dicks... lol.
I try personally to stick to reputed agencies and indies. So it was never a concern to me when it comes to the money, usually i let the money on the night table under the hotel phone, this way she can see it but its collected at the end.
But if i was gonna do business with a backpage provider or someone im unsure, it would be payment at the end ONLY, as in not even laying it on display. Better be safe than sorry. I am assuming if i see someone from a reputed agency and for any reason she won't provide BBBJ, i can always call the agency. GFE is standard... its expected. Its not like cim where she may usually offer it but for any reason she decide not to do it with you (if your precum does not taste good for instance or whatever) I would NEVER EVER book in an agency that does not clearly state GFE on there ads. So im assuming if she decide she does not want to provide it with me for any reason, i can cut the meeting short and if she complain she want some partial payment, i can always contact the agency and they will deal with it. Agencies usually don't like waves and won't make shit for a mere 50$ or such. They will rather have a satisfy customer than someone, especially a known hobbyist, make a bad review on the board.
With a backpage provider you don't have this luxury. I am not one to usually go with backpagge, unless she is tremendously reviewed, but im just saying if i was gonna go that route i would be very carefull.
I know girls have a right to refuse a client or not do whatever they don't want to do. This is a given. BUT if you refuse to do what is paid for, therefore its "breach of contract" and why should i pay anything? If for instance she enter the room, we talk for 5 mins, start kissing and then she pull out a condom for CBJ, i will ask her whats with that. If she says she won't do BBBJ... ok fine but put back your cloathes on thats it. I have no interest to go further. Im not gonna pay even a partial sum for 5 min of talk and a couple kisses... :/
I know it may sound harsh at first glance but i just feel its important that both party respect the agreement. Obviously i am talking for ME and i know some hobbyist are slacky on many factors and things may be different.
But me PERSONALLY, i am a reliable client, i never cancel, i am always friendly, clean, i am pretty soft and cuddler too (unless kinkier stuff is discussed and agreed before in a dom session or something) , i am really an easy to please client. I try to make the job of the providers easier, so the bare minimum i expect is to get a good attitude and the services expected from the provider too.
But i am also a very carefull/safe hobbyist. I stick with reputed agencies and indies, and even in agencies i usually go for the ones with many positive reviews and very very little negative/neutral ones. That way i put the best chances on my side to have a good time. There was a time where i was more TOFTT but i been "burned" a few times with subpar meetings (nothing nightmarish, just meetings who where below average) and when you save money for months to have a good time, its pretty disapointing to leave the city like that.
Anyway, sorry if i got a bit off topic. But everytime services are discussed in threads, it often turn to that subject lol